There are many couples who always go to extremes when communicating, obviously for the good of each other, but when expressing their inner thoughts, they always express them in a way that the other party can't accept. For example, quarreling is actually very hurtful. Just like the topic owner wants to remind her boyfriend not to do this kind of thing, we can solve it through communication without waking each other up.
The subject's boyfriend sends poems in a circle of friends just to make people feel that he is a talented person. Then we can tell him from this point that truly talented people are generally reluctant to show their talents. We can also use some low-key introverted people as examples to stimulate and guide him and let him know that such behavior is not very good, instead of using scolding to communicate.
Most boys are more face-saving, especially in front of the girls they like. They want their image to be impeccable. At this time, we should also take care of their sensitive hearts, which is actually a respect for each other. If you want to continue this relationship, it is best to remind each other in a way acceptable to each other.