"A letter from a mother to her son who has just started school after the epidemic"
Dear Quanquan
Hello!
Before writing this letter, my mother thought about it for a long time, because I have used many ways to communicate with you, yelled, yelled, scolded, and talked about it - but it had no effect. And the relationship between us is getting farther and farther, so my mother picked up the pen and tried to communicate with you by writing letters. I hope to talk to you in the tone of a friend instead of nagging, preaching and blaming. If you like this way, we can exchange letters frequently.
What a wonderful age twelve or three is! If I could go back in time, my mother would be willing to go back to such a nutmeg age, where she would only focus on reading without any distracting thoughts. Rather than like now, in order to learn new knowledge and write, I can only use my time after get off work, or even stay up late to listen to lectures and take notes. Moreover, while completing these learning tasks, you must also take into account livelihood issues such as clothing, food, housing, and transportation, as well as your education. It is really difficult to complete your studies in this state! At the age when you should be studying, how happy you are to purely focus on studying! Such days are a luxury for me, and you should cherish them.
Of course, I also understand very well that when you are in adolescence, you must also have your own troubles. Physically, he becomes taller and thinner; his voice becomes thicker and thicker; emotionally, he becomes easily agitated and angry; psychologically, he has many vague fantasies and thinking about problems. These are normal changes and reactions of adolescent boys. I hope You don’t have to care too much, or even think it’s a burden. But adolescence is particularly important, because this period is the formation period of your outlook on life and values. Their formation has an impact on your life, and your learning situation at this time can best reflect your outlook on life and values, including Your learning attitude, learning process, learning results, academic performance, etc. are all reflections of your inner thoughts.
I remember when you were in elementary school, you were very angry because you lost the football match, you were rushing to do your homework because you were afraid of being scolded by Teacher Luo, you were revising a painting over and over again because it was not perfect, and you were also , not long ago, you were trying to lose weight because you wanted to get a pair of Nike shoes... all of this is because you still have a good heart, a positive heart, and a reverent heart! But these have disappeared in recent times. Especially after online classes started in school, you became lazy and fearless. Your homework was put off again and again. You were on the way to make up for your homework every day, which exhausted yourself, the teacher, the group leader, and your mother. Where has that positive sunny boy gone? Hope this is just temporary confusion for you. Now that school has started for a week, adjust the steering wheel in your hands as soon as possible and set sail again. I believe that the tall, handsome, sunny young boy will continue to run hard on the road of seeking knowledge!
Come on! Mom always supports you!
Love you mom
May 20, 2020
Hello, I am happy to answer your question. In the face of the sudden epidemic, everyone's life has been affected. How to relieve children's stress after going to school is an issue that cannot be ignored. Comprehensive counseling must be provided for children of different ages, as well as psychological, physiological and other aspects.
First of all, for children in the preschool stage, there is no academic pressure. After the start of school, attention needs to be provided in terms of hygiene habits, lifestyle, etc., so that children can face the changes brought about by the epidemic, and at the same time, You can take the opportunity to let your children develop good living habits.
Second, for children who are already in school, they must adapt to the changes in online classes and classrooms after the start of school. Parents and teachers must train students on epidemic prevention knowledge to psychologically reduce their stress and avoid fear. psychology.
Third, for those who are about to take the high school entrance examination, college entrance examination or college graduates, the epidemic may have an impact on their exams and employment. Faced with this kind of anxiety, parents and teachers should gradually enlighten and encourage and guide their children to actively Face it and don't be discouraged.
In short, no matter what age group the child is, after the school starts, parents and teachers must proceed step by step and not be anxious. They must find the right method according to the child's development characteristics to help the child successfully get through this special period. period. I hope it will be helpful to you, and welcome more exchanges and discussions.
My two children have gone to school for the second day today. They have not yet felt the pressure after the epidemic (maybe I am too careless). Going to school is very happy for the children. Both children must go to school. In the evening self-study, one second grader picked up at 7:25 and the other at 7:50
When I picked up my sister, he was very happy to show me the A and reward stickers the teacher gave her. The focus was on the neatly written homework. , telling him what gifts the children had given him, the changes that had taken place in the school, and the list the teacher had brought home for parents to sign...
My brother, who usually seems more introverted, said that there were classmates to play with at school and I made new friends and today he and a few other children were responsible for bringing food and delicious meals
I think they are happy. The teachers and the school take good care of the children. Are the parents that worried?
The real psychological work is done by schools and children for parents [cute][cute]
The COVID-19 epidemic has changed the lives of almost everyone. Children and adolescents will have special psychological reactions and psychological needs due to the particularity of their cognitive and emotional methods. Adults, especially parents, have the unshirkable responsibility to help and protect the mental health of children and adolescents while adjusting themselves and maintaining mental health.
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Problems that are likely to occur in children and adolescents
The younger the age, the more difficult it is to understand the epidemic and the public health measures related to the epidemic. Their intuition and confusion are directly related to changes in daily life, especially the inability to go out and play with friends. When children and teenagers are locked at home all day long and always face several people at home, children and adolescents will more or less experience the following phenomena:
Confusion
Boredom
Irritability
Disorders in daily life such as eating and sleeping (reluctance to eat and sleep on time, overeating, or sudden loss of appetite, not being able to sleep on one's own, difficulty falling asleep, nightmares)
Fear (Excessive clinging to adults, not letting them leave even for a few minutes, worried about their safety)
Irritability
Regressive behavior (recurrent diaper and bedwetting, recurring baby-like ejaculation) Talking, biting fingers, staying close to adults, etc.)
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Correctly guide children to understand the changes in life
During the epidemic, every family and every Everyone in the family’s daily life, work and school must change. First of all, home isolation is a challenge and pressure for everyone in the family. Adults in the family should help children adapt to the changes in daily life brought about by the epidemic in a way that they can understand and accept, and help them deal with emotions and control behaviors.
Stable and regular daily life: Try to involve children as much as possible in formulating new daily life rules to adapt to the epidemic (not going out, staying at home around the clock) and daily routines (maintaining usual eating, sleeping, regular arrangements Playing at home, gaming, reading, studying, interacting with friends and relatives who don’t live together through WeChat and phone calls). Adults lead by example (wash hands, disinfect, eat and sleep on time). Try to keep your daily routine as consistent as possible.
Listening: Encourage children to express their inner confusions, emotions and desires in a variety of ways (language, drawing, writing, drama performances, singing, children's songs, stories, dance, etc.). Adults help children find appropriate labels for their inner experiences (such as fear, anger, etc.), realize that adults care about their confusing emotions and desires, and know that adults are willing to help them.
***Emotion: Perceive, accept, understand, and respect children's confusions, emotions, and wishes to help children learn to perceive, accept, understand, and respect their own and others' confusions, emotions, and wishes, and learn from each other Communicate and understand each other.
Companionship: The physical and mental health and growth of children must rely on the company of their relatives, especially their parents. Listening, communicating, and maintaining a stable and regular daily routine are inseparable from the time and space of parents and children. During the epidemic, home isolation provides families with a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to spend quality time with each other. Parents who used to be busy outside now have enough time to spend with their children at home and enjoy family happiness. Parents and children can play games, exercise, read, watch movies and TV, listen to music, play games, cook, bake, and study together. It is best to find activities that are of common interest, help each other, and interact.
If children and adolescents continue to have emotional, emotional and interpersonal disorders, disturbances in basic daily life, and regressive behaviors, parents should take their children to seek professional help.
When children stay at home for a long time, their physical and psychological changes will occur. The effect of "online classes" during the period when children are at home is not ideal, and many knowledge cannot be grasped to the essence, and they only have a superficial understanding! When the teacher takes the exam after school starts, the children who had good grades last semester may not do well in the exam, which is unbearable! It will cause a little more worry, and the child will be burdened! Teachers are also anxious. The amount of homework assigned may be a little more, and some slow-writing students may spend more time than usual.
During this period of school, teachers and parents should not be anxious or push their children.
We must actively guide and guide you step by step!