During May Day, four girlfriends spent three days happily in this beautiful and romantic coastal city. We waved reluctantly on the platform: "I love you Binhai!" " "Love comes from the heart and says goodbye to Binhai.
Four sisters, happily walked into the waiting room to check in; Going to the platform to wait for the bus, the long queue filled the whole platform; Everyone is eager to go home, and they can't help but stand on tiptoe and take a deep look at the direction of home, and their hearts are warm.
With a long whistle, the train pulled into the station. The quiet team began to get confused, and we were pushed around and stumbled into the carriage. Put your luggage away and sit down. It's a pity that the two men didn't know where to get on the bus and took the best seat by the window with tickets. We can't eat and drink at one table and sleep in turn. What is even more disturbing is that these two people seem to be more tired than us. The man opposite, awakened by our noise, opened his sleepy and slightly swollen eyes and took a wary look. Because they are all women, he is not hostile. Then, he nodded politely to welcome us, as if very comfortable; Then, I moved my bones and muscles and hit my arms and thighs for a while. The man next to me is overworked. He doesn't know what he looks like at all, and he is still sleeping sweetly.
It seems that it is absolutely impossible to expect these two men to be sympathetic, attracted to the opposite sex and not sleepy. Look at their clothes and physical characteristics. Not only are they older than us, but nine times out of ten they are farmers. They are really not cute at all. This makes us very disappointed and unhappy. We like to chat with young, energetic and fashionable men and dream of awakening our youth.
Women have their own hearts and their own fun. As the saying goes, the lives of three women, not to mention four sisters, are girlfriends that I haven't seen for years. There are always endless topics, and a beautiful journey drama will be staged; Spend seven long, boring and sleepy hours on the train; The screenwriter should be our four sisters; Starring, naturally, is the seat of two big brother farmers. These days, it seems to be our hobby to understand the psychological needs, life aspirations and attitudes towards families of men from all walks of life! Enriching your life experience in this way is conducive to building a harmonious, happy and modern family.
The most effective way for women to get to know men and master their inner world as soon as possible is to make friends with men. In less than half an hour, men will definitely "come clean". Among the four of us, our little sister Li Xia is the best at chatting and knows the chatting skills best. Ms. Li's job is the public relations manager of the unit. She "please" in front of the two major farmers, which is a bit overqualified. Six talking eyes rushed at her together: "Manager Li, let's get started. I wronged you just to ease the boring atmosphere of the trip and change their good mood."
We four sisters, through a few days of contact and understanding, dig deep into the advantages and disadvantages of male colleagues and their husbands, and brilliantly summarize men as follows:
Some men: like to hide their joys and sorrows in their hearts and are not good at expressing them. They are good men in women's minds.
Some men like to write their sorrows and joys on their faces. Laugh when you are happy and cry when you are sad. They should be good men in women's minds.
Some' men': like to report good news but not bad news. No matter at home or abroad, you have to bear all the major events yourself. Such a man is a better man in women's minds.
Men's pain and happiness are built between career and family; Women's pain and happiness are built between husband and family. There is an essential difference between the two. Most men prefer their careers. They have a good job, a big house and two good children. They have no regrets in this life. Most women, on the other hand, prefer family, with a good husband and two good children, and are satisfied with "the hut is not leaking, the clothes are worn for a long time, the cooking is not stopped, and the stove is not stopped".
Looking at the two old people in front of us, we guess, what kind of men do they belong to Only through dialogue can we judge. After the train had been running for a quarter of an hour, the sleepy man next to me was awakened by urine and hurried to the bathroom. As soon as Li Xia sat down after he came back, he began to write a play. He was humorous, greeted the two brothers very cordially and had a friendly conversation. The two men looked at each other for a while, smiled, put down their worries, opened their hearts, answered questions, and finally answered without asking. The result was beyond our expectation, and we were dumbfounded! They are not only talkative, but also have amazing experiences, and they are all sleepy at once! The play was staged in a pleasant and harmonious atmosphere.
Man who beats his arms and legs: Actually, he is not fifty years old, but he looks mature. I thought he was an old man in his sixties before! So eldest brother kept yelling, and now we are all a little embarrassed to see him again. Middle-aged man, of medium build, calm and enthusiastic, well-informed, crisscrossed; A silver hair, thick eyebrows, weather-beaten face, still handsome when young; But he will never be handsome. He doesn't peel apples when eating them. What puzzles me even more is that a farmer keeps his mouth shut and calls his wife his wife! The word "wife" really frightened us and made us want to explore his secret. As far as I know, in China, men who can call their wives are basically celebrities.
Li Xia stare big curious and surprised eyes, intently launched a barrage: "two eldest brother, where are you from? Go there? Are they all farmers? Are you also traveling home? "
"We went home, but we didn't travel." The two of them speak in unison, and whenever the word "family" is mentioned, they will cry and choke for you! It seems that men are more vulnerable than women. As for being so homesick.
Big brother? Oh, I really can't call him big brother now. Maybe he's not as old as us. Then, I'll call them men. Men habitually tidy up, neat and dense, silvery white, with their heads open; He tugged at the sleeves that had just been disturbed, pulled out his trousers that showed his thighs, and proudly said to us, "I'm not a tourist, I'm really a farmer. I do all the work of farmers, just working outside, not farming at home."
All that glitters is not gold! It turned out that he was from Changchun and went abroad to work eight years ago. Now, he is "rich", beaming and eager to go home. Eight years ago, my daughter was diagnosed as a junior high school student. Blood tumor! The disaster didn't scare the man and crushed him to death; On the contrary, he achieved great things; In order to save her daughter's life, in order to keep this beautiful family; Through the introduction of friends in Shenzhen, he resolutely left his hometown eight years ago; I went abroad with my friends in the south, went to Singapore, worked in the home of Chinese businessmen, and made a lot of money selling fruits. In order to get the 10,000 yuan red envelope that the boss gave to the workers during the Spring Festival, he didn't go home for four years. After 1000 days and nights, my hair turned white!
Ah! Ah! Ah! Ah! Each of us exclaimed. Farmers! Farmers in China dare to go abroad and work abroad to earn big money! Great, I really admire it. We all gave thumbs up and praised it again and again. The four sisters looked at each other, feeling guilty for a while and looking down on him. In contrast, none of us dare to go abroad to make money and feel ashamed.
He said: "Most Chinese in Singapore speak Minnan, which is as difficult for the northeast people as learning English, and life is very difficult. Language barrier, communication difficulties; Too hot to be used to; No acclimatization, suffering; Plus, I have to work 18 hours or more every day, and my spirit is sluggish and my physical strength is overdrawn. I will lose 40 pounds a month! My legs are swollen and my feet are too big to wear slippers. I have to go to work barefoot with crutches. Keep encouraging yourself, shut up and bite your teeth. This is the only good opportunity to earn' big money' aboveboard and the only good way to save your daughter. You can't give up. "
Eight years ago, I could earn 300,000 RMB a year! Three hundred thousand yuan! This is for a farmer: I have never seen so much money in my life! The only thing that keeps him going until victory is that his beloved daughter is getting better and better, and her daughter is his lifeblood!
He said: "I am a father, I am my wife's husband, I am a man!" I can't fall. Only when I stand, my daughter will have the possibility of survival, and my family will not be separated! "
Four years ago, he went to the Soviet Union with his boss in Jilin. Growing tomatoes in greenhouses, the life of the Soviets is even more sad than that of Singapore! Living conditions and eating habits have nothing to do with us! It's easy for the Soviets to eat western food. They are all packaged foods, and they are rarely cooked and fried. Soviets like to drink, and they can't get tired of eating a lot of bread and dried ham as snacks! So Chinese food there is extremely expensive, and the favorite dish of the Soviets is scrambled eggs with tomatoes. The price is amazing! One kilogram of ordinary powdered liquor, 15 yuan RMB, is three times that of China! Eggs and rice are even more unaffordable. Before the Chinese New Year holiday, the boss didn't eat rice, and three big steamed buns a day! Save money and save trouble, do a good job in anti-hunger, and you can only drink a mouthful of rice porridge to relieve hunger when your life is improved. The variety of vegetables is single, and there are no cheap bean products to enjoy. A plate of chili fried dried bean curd in Chinese restaurant 50 yuan RMB. Who can afford it? Who wants to eat? Fortunately, the Soviets don't eat pig's trotters, but only use them to improve our lives. Pig's trotters cost three yuan a catty, which is less than one-fifth of that in China! In the past four years, fortunately, there are pig's trotters in the water to eat, and the fullness increases nutrition. No matter how delicious the food is, eating too much is greasy. Now he feels sick at the sight of steamed bread and pig's trotters. In addition, the greenhouse in spring is cold, dark and humid, and the heating is not good. My waist and legs are cold, so it is very difficult to walk and I can't do any work. Helpless, I had to return to China to recuperate.
The man next to him just washed his face again, sat down excitedly and continued to chat with us. He is very interested in our problem and is eager to try it. From time to time, help the man opposite explain, or beat around the bush. It seems that their relationship is unusual! As expected, two Jilin people flew from the Soviet Union and landed at the Beijing airport at the same time. At the same time, they got on this train and went home to Jilin together. Li Xia, excitedly asked, two people proudly said, we all listened with emotion.
Man next door: After washing your face, you are full of energy! He is also of medium height, neither fat nor thin, with small eyes and intense spirit; Black and shiny hair stands upright, which is called a buzz cut; White and clean face, without a stubble; Judging from his appearance, he is in his fifties; Look at the clothes, and I don't care much. Look at the state, you are much more energetic than the man opposite. Our four sisters, with their eyes fixed on each other, smiled knowingly, but were afraid to guess the age of the man again. You really can't guess the appearance of a man. How old is he? Let Li Xia personally ask it as well.
Seventy years old! Ah! Ah! Ah! Ah! Four screams in a row! This old gentleman can really be called our big brother! The 70-year-old big brother, who was originally a senior engineer of Jilin Design Institute, was rehired after retirement, signed a three-year contract worth millions, and went abroad to the Soviet Union. After the contract expired, he was healthy physically and mentally, a "millionaire" and returned to his hometown. Congratulations!
We were puzzled and asked, "Brother, who are you? At this age, why do you want to go abroad to make big money? With your qualifications, the retirement expenses are more than enough. "
My brother said happily, "For my children and grandchildren, I have three sons, all of whom are married and have children. They have a house to live in and no car to drive. Trying to squeeze the bus and subway in a hurry every day always makes my father feel a little guilty and self-reproach. No matter how old you are, you are not only a father or a grandfather in front of your children and grandchildren, but also a man! Men should fulfill their obligations and responsibilities; One million yuan, in China now, is not rich; Rich peasants in the south, every family has a deposit of one million yuan; But living in the north, I can buy an ordinary car for each of my three sons; Driving to and from work will soon become a necessity for the people of China. I am happy for the happy life of my children and grandchildren! I am very happy! When you live to my age, you will realize that you are all living for your children and grandchildren. "
Li Xia asked enviously, "Old man, you are not only a good father, but also a romantic man. Have you ever been to the outskirts of Moscow at night? " "I didn't go at night, but in the morning. Have a picnic in the suburbs at noon and come back at night. "
Ha ha! Ha ha! Ha ha! Your speech is so humorous and artistic!
Seventy-year-old big brother, senior engineer, earning1million in three years! I haven't been home for the Spring Festival for eight years. I'm a wanderer and a middle-aged man. He is a farmer, a farmer in China, who earned two million yuan in eight years! This is astronomical for our four sisters! Things you never dreamed of! What a good man!
The seven-hour drive is fleeting! Instead of being depressed, we had a good time and wanted more. Two good men, let us respect and love, and benefit a lot. They are more meaningful and lovely than playing with handsome guys and cool guys! It's worth learning. I'm glad you came.
Lovely peasant brother: seven hours, ten phone calls! It's all women's voices Needless to say, it must be my daughter and wife. Sound! Beautiful voice, the voice of relatives, is the only link between him and his family. Every time I see him, I cry for you and choke in my throat. Men don't flick when they have tears! I no longer look down on him, eating apples without peeling, eating pesticides and fertilizers together. But I respect and admire him very much. His knowledge of diet far exceeds that of us women! Now I know that people have been selling tropical fruits for four years, and I have never seen or eaten any fruit.
He said: "If you can eat fruit with skin, try not to peel it. Nutrition is on the skin. "
He has always stressed: "I am a father, I am a husband, I am a man, I must work hard to make progress, and life will be meaningful and valuable!" " "
Honest, stubborn, brave and fearless farmers, from the beginning of working abroad to earn money, donated money and materials to their daughters from all walks of life to patients in greater need! Earn money by your own strength and painstaking efforts, and finally cure your daughter's illness, a miracle! I bought my wife a house in the city. No, my wife! I'm going back to my village to start a business, grow vegetables in a greenhouse, and arm myself with the new technology I learned abroad.
Our four sisters encouraged him with one voice, saying, "You have the spirit of' one is not afraid of suffering, and the other is not afraid of death', and you will surely achieve great things and succeed. You are a good man! You are a real man! "
Brother Engineer: Seven hours, seven phone calls! I have a wife, a son and a grandson, all of whom are very caring and attentive. I heard that my brother was in high spirits and burst into tears, happy as a child! Seeing the sun, despite his glory, it should be Jin Chaohui! His kinship is also conveyed by voice! They have all suffered me, a happy family, a good man who loves his family as much as his life! Remember this proverb, I am a man, because I am a man! The word man is easy to understand and write, but it has paid a man's life's hard work!
Real men prefer careers. They want their wives to live in luxurious houses and have smart children. However, these can't meet their physical and psychological needs, and the win-win situation of career and family is the real happiness and real life of men!
I know a lot about men: from my father, husband, son and three generations of men, I have been fully proved! I heard and witnessed the mental journey of their three generations of men. So, I understand men very well. This is a simple and complicated topic, which is both realistic and controversial forever.
Like my father; In the 1960s, the rural supply and marketing cooperatives were the only financial and economic centers with the largest wealth and goods, and people needed to be on duty every day. Supply and marketing cooperatives three people work, it is reasonable to say that each person should rotate on duty once a week, and so on. Father must be on duty for two weeks every month. If you count one year, you will be on duty for twelve weeks more than others, that is, eighty-four days! At that time, there were no such things as overtime pay and bonuses. Naturally, this is all dedication. He is willing and he is happy!
As long as I can remember, my father is on duty every year on New Year's Eve. He didn't come back for a while until dinner. After eating jiaozi and giving us lucky money, he was anxious to be on duty. We were so angry that we held his old man's hand and asked him to accompany us for the New Year. Whenever there is a stalemate, my mother kindly advises us: "Dad has an important position and it is very important to protect the state property. Children are obedient and obedient; Besides, if you don't go on duty, your father can't be a model worker. " Yes, the reason why my father works hard and enjoys it is to get the supreme honor. Give us the best reward, that is, the wall at home is covered with his testimonials!
Such as my husband; After the reform and opening up, doing business in the sea, shopping malls are like battlefields, drowning you anytime and anywhere; Get up early and get greedy late, work hard, be physically and mentally exhausted, and be highly nervous; Every day is like an arrow leaving the string. Without false strings, it is impossible to hit every shot. It is said that it has lost tens of thousands. In an instant, I bumped into Shui Piao and never saw the shadow again. As soon as the business starts, people are like sitting on a Mercedes-Benz train. When they arrive at the station, they can't get off. Earn money happily, honor the elderly and improve the lives of his wife and children; If you lose, bite your teeth and swallow it. No matter how hard it is, you have to bear it alone.
Such as my son; In him, there is his grandfather, his positive attitude towards life, hard work, courage and progress, and his father's ambition to conquer the world! He wants to have more wealth and benefit his parents, wife and children. This is the highest praise for men, and it can't change the bitterness and joy of men all their lives!
I understand men very well: understanding men is simple to say, but really difficult to do! That woman doesn't care about her man? In order to make his wife and children live a good life, men eat grass and milk; Life at home is not good, and people laugh at men, not women; There is no east or west in life, and there are big things and small feelings that must be solved by men; It is because I am a man that men worry and hurt themselves!
There is a news report: "The average life expectancy of men is ten years younger than that of women."
Men are trees for women to enjoy the cool in hot summer days, mountains for women to rely on when they are tired, and days for women to hold up when they are in trouble! Such a good husband, will that wife not hurt or love? Such a good man, how can that woman not understand his pain and joy?
The best way for women to understand men is to have a fixed income, which is the fundamental guarantee to alleviate men's pain and happiness; Women should also learn to bear it bravely. You can't be a big tree in hot weather. Give your man a parasol. When a person is tired, you can't build a mountain, but you can let him rest on your shoulder; When disaster strikes, you can't hold up a sky, at least you have to hold up half the sky. Women should respect each other, love each other, teach each other and take care of men's food, clothing, housing and transportation. This is a woman's duty. Men are tired and tired, long live understanding! This is a woman's nature.
Human suffering and pleasure? It must be based on value and meaning, so as not to lose the price of pain and happiness itself! For example, a farmer, forced by life, can't bear it! For example, engineers, with their technology, give full play to the waste heat and do their best to make life more valuable! A man who trades his life for money and changes his name with money is not a scientific way of life. I dare not comment any more.
Nowadays, women are all intellectual women, who not only have food and clothing, but also earn more money than men. They have the status of controlling social work, and they have the ability to undertake family obligations; They have the ability to change their lives. They don't want the man they love to be too bitter, too tired and too worried.
So, smart man, don't give yourself too much pressure, carrying the coat of men's praise, I am a man! Live too hard and tired, take responsibility for everything, live a hard life, learn to decompress yourself and get out of men's misery.
Men? Take off your hard armor and your heavy burden. Today, you just have to be yourself. Don't think about the complexity of the world, don't think about the success or failure of your career, and don't be an indomitable spirit. Gentlemen, you have worked hard! At this moment: if you don't be a mother's son, you must be responsible; A husband who doesn't be a wife will have a burden; If you don't be a father, you have an obligation. Simple and foolish, sweet, happy, enjoy the relaxed and beautiful life in the world! Let your body and mind have a rest, spend Sundays regularly, completely release yourself from your mind to your soul, and then be reborn!