Dunzhe Ling
Everyone should and must eat leftovers once in his life. But the leftovers are not as simple as eating them yourself. Although some parents use such words to intimidate children who love to eat leftovers.
You can tell a person's mentor by eating. This is what a girl told me. She eats very clean, so she dare not eat too much. The reason is that I was severely scolded by my mother when I was a child.
I was born in the countryside, so I don't eat honestly. My grandmother always said, "You fell down enough to beg for a meal." In our family, it is my grandmother who eats leftovers. She came from that poor era and knew that food was hard to come by. Drinking porridge is very clean, and there is not a grain of rice left in the bowl. It may be influenced by grandma, and so is dad's eating style. Eating rice and drinking porridge are clean.
Dad often eats leftovers at home, and mom eats leftovers when dad is away. Sometimes we say, "Dad, Mom, stop eating. I can't eat new ones. You still have leftovers. Tomorrow, the new one will be left. Eat the rest every day. "
So when I was young, especially in summer, I longed for a refrigerator at home. Even with a refrigerator, leftovers are not delicious. We all know that.
Sometimes there are not many leftovers, so my father will eat them first, and then eat the freshly cooked vegetable rice. Always say "good things, not broken. Can't fall. " At this time, I will also think that all the dogs that my family kept at that time were eaten by dogs. Dogs never dislike it. They eat all kinds of sweets and bitters. Occasionally there are bones, and they bark happily.
So when I was in our community, I saw dogs now, eating dog food, drinking milk and not eating leftovers. Really feel extravagant, but also feel that the dog owner is melodramatic. Friends say that's normal. For the rich, isn't milk left? After staying in the city for a long time, you get used to it.
However, I will still remember that without dogs at home, my parents are "dogs" who eat leftovers. Several times I said, "I want to eat noodles left over from yesterday today." Yesterday's face was not bad. "
My father would squint and say, "Is it really good? Then you eat. " I ate it and it didn't stick properly.
In a family, eating leftovers for each other is a responsibility, a responsibility and a love. Two lovers, especially like this.
A good friend of mine shared with me the story of eating after he lived with his girlfriend. At first, both of them ate leftovers. My friend is very happy. He said: "It is not easy to find a girl who is willing to eat leftovers with you. We will be satisfied. "
Later, he said, "We used to eat leftovers together. Now I find that she has stopped eating. Just let me eat alone. She said she couldn't eat it. Nausea. " This is just one aspect of life, and then they often quarrel.
I think it should be a good thing for girls to find a boy who is willing to give you leftovers. The next day's meal is called leftovers. Leftovers are not delicious because there is a time limit for food preservation. In the same way, things, events and love are the same. Everyone has a shelf life, so enjoy this fresh life while there is still time.
Remember to hoe or harvest crops at home when I was a child. It's afternoon, and there are many more. I always yell, "Go home. I'm hungry, I'm tired. I cut my hand. "
I am always criticized by my parents: "There are only a few points left. Go to work. You see, there is a lot of work in the field, but not much. It's just an hour's work. Not afraid to slow down, but afraid to stop. No, will you come alone tomorrow? How tired it is to come once! "
So I am a child, but I can't beat them. Neither can my sister and brother. But I am the laziest in my family. Then I will dawdle, or just sit down and throw clods. Then my parents worked hard in the fields.
In a family, whoever eats more leftovers pays more. Generally speaking, there is nothing wrong with making such a judgment. A person who never eats leftovers is mostly spoiled. This judgment can't be wrong.
Leftovers can't be served on the table. You have to eat them yourself or your family. Even eating leftovers often is afraid of being laughed at. I was like this when I was a kid. After dinner at the wedding banquet, my mother always takes out her bag to pack things. Although I have repeatedly reminded her when I went: "Mom, I won't clean up. It's not that there is no food. "
My mother always said, "I know. I won't pack it if someone does. Nobody packed, so I packed. Put it there and the hotel will fall down. "
Now I go out to eat. Whether I invite others or others invite me. I always clean up when I get up and no one asks the waiter to clean up. And it is very literary: "Grandpa Mao said that waste is the most shameful. I'm packed, and tomorrow will be easy. "
On the issue of eating leftovers, it does not mean that whoever eats more should be encouraged to eat more. Just like my friends. Even more painful for his girlfriend, he said, "Leftovers are really not delicious. Sometimes I really don't want to eat. But I can't bear to fall. She won't eat with me. Sometimes I feel very uneasy. Besides, she used to wash dishes. Washing dishes is my business now. Sometimes I think it's time for us to break up. Can't suffer, what kind of husband and wife is that? "
At this time, I will say to him, "Do you want to go back to the way you were before? If you want, try to throw out the leftovers. She won't eat, and neither will you. Why do I have to eat the leftovers of two people alone? She is used to you eating. You should remind her of the time when you had leftovers together. Love is a manifestation of mutual tolerance. Paying blindly will make you more tired. It is not good to love you for a long time. "
Eating leftovers is not shameful and should not be laughed at. This is a virtue. If a person in the family is used to eating leftovers, he should be loved more. I clearly remember that my grandmother once even wanted to eat rice porridge that was a little stale. I grabbed it and fell down. She stood by the swill and kept saying, "It's still edible. Can still eat! " Now think about it, how heartbreaking.
As Confucius said, "All dogs and horses can be raised. What's the difference between disrespect? " It is our greatest failure to make the family who eat leftovers unhappy.
After eating leftovers only a few times, my mother would say to others, "My son is filial. We don't eat leftovers. " Parents really want very little! From now on, if you love your parents, eat leftovers with them. Do what you left unfinished yesterday. Take on all the business together. You will find that if you eat more leftovers, you will gradually become the most responsible person in this family and the most secure person for your family.
Eating leftovers will lead to many things that we should observe carefully. Think of a sentence: "filial piety governs the family, middle filial piety governs the enterprise, and great filial piety governs the country." "People who can pay for yesterday are always worthy of being trusted.
The taste of leftovers is not the taste of rice itself, but the taste between hearts. People who can eat laugh when they can eat.
Excerpted from the prose works of Dunzhe Ling, an independent scholar, poet, writer and famous sinologist.