Literary works, film and television dramas, everyone is discussing the truth of love.
But no one can really say what love is.
In different people's eyes, love has different answers, and everyone has different attitudes towards love.
So, what is love in literary works?
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Love is restraint.
"Some people think that love is sex, marriage and a kiss at half past six in the morning; But I think love wants to touch and take back your hand "-Salinger.
In "See you later", Han Han also has such a line: like is unbridled, love is restrained.
Love is restrained, this sentence just illustrates the truth in love:
When a person really loves you, he will restrain his emotions and his actions.
Everything he does is based on "for your own good".
If it won't bring you any benefits, then he won't choose to do it; On the contrary, when he does anything, he will first consider your feelings and whether he can bring you anything.
Like is presumptuous.
Why do you say that?
Because when the other person likes you, he thinks about himself.
He likes you, but doesn't care about your feelings. The person he likes cares more about himself.
If you can meet his needs, then he will continue to be with you; If one day, you can't meet his needs and you let him down, he will leave you without hesitation.
Restraint is not only physical restraint, but also psychological restraint.
He won't force you, won't interfere with your decision, and won't ask you to give up anything for him.
Psychologically speaking, true love is first of all unreserved dedication, sacrifice and self-abandonment.
If he can achieve you, then he is willing to give up everything for you.
This is a responsibility, a firmness, a choice and an attitude.
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Love is responsibility and giving.
"I strongly hope to have the power to protect her." -"Five centimeters per second"
Love is a kind of responsibility and a kind of giving.
What is responsibility?
According to the analysis of the three elements of love, responsibility is the "commitment" among the three elements.
When two people fall in love, they will have a strong sense of responsibility.
In men's eyes:
He will work hard and make progress, and give the girl he loves a complete family and marriage, which is the driving force of his efforts and his firm responsibility.
In the eyes of women:
He will understand, tolerate, support and praise the boy he loves. This is her choice.
In addition, love is a kind of giving.
What kind of effort?
This is an unrequited effort.
You love a person, first of all from the heart. No matter what you have done and paid for each other, you are willing.
I need you because I love you.
Because I love you, I will pay for you without hesitation.
I hope my devotion to you will make you a better person.
This kind of love is selfless and gives up self.
Maybe I don't love you in return, but I don't regret loving you.
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Love is relative possession and absolute freedom.
"If you love her, let your love surround her like sunshine and set her free."
I love you, but you are free.
I love you, but I won't bind you; On the contrary, I will give you strength, be your support and make you fly better.
In love, most people will show possessiveness and control.
They want to hold their lover firmly in their hands and don't allow him to stay away from their sight.
I will be jealous, I will lose my temper, and I will interfere in all my partner's lives and decisions.
In fact, the tighter you hold on, the easier it is to lose each other.
What is the best state in love?
Just let go of the other person's hand and let him fly hard. When he has everything, he will fly back to you.
But in reality, most people let go of each other's hands and they really leave themselves.
Such love is often not true love.
Everyone should understand this truth in love:
You and the other person are two independent individuals. You are independent and free from each other. This is the premise of your love.
If your love is the possession, interference and control of the other person, then it is not love.
Good love is the relationship between sunshine and plants, butterflies and flowers, freedom and existence.