I also want to have a brother and sister for my daughter, but only I know how many days and nights, I held my daughter crying loudly and didn't sleep. I couldn't make up for the embarrassment during the day, and I was even scolded by my in-laws many times for not taking care of the children. Who knows it's unbalanced nutrition and calcium deficiency? Only I know how many times I almost collapsed and wanted to jump off a building. Every time I have this idea, I am depressed and afraid to tell my parents for fear of causing family conflicts. God knows how much I want to run away from home with my daughter …
But if I have a second child, will the focus of love shift? I will have that makeup mentality. After all, I've been thinking all the way. Many things I don't understand that I couldn't do before can only be made up by having a second child. If this continues, I will definitely ignore the love and care for my boss. I'm afraid this is not only my own idea, but also an indisputable fact in reality. In this way, our parents will reduce the time and quality of accompanying the boss and make the boss feel "unfair".
I'm thinking that instead of wanting a second child in order to find a partner who grew up with my boss, I should spend more time and energy on my children. Anyway, I've been with her for almost seven years, especially in recent years when the child's expressive ability is getting stronger and stronger. We love and kill each other every day, which is very interesting and fulfilling.
Of course, the most important reality is that raising children now is different from before. In the past, people often said that "one sheep, two sheep", but the child is not a sheep after all, he is a four-legged golden beast, which is really too expensive. Someone has done a rough statistics, from the birth of a child to the graduation of a child from college, it may cost 600,000 to1.6,000, but our ordinary working families obviously can't afford it. Besides, in recent years, my husband has earned money alone, so our personal situation is still not good.
Cai Kangyong said in The Story of Seven Pars that it is dishonest not to pretend that money is not important in modern society and not to mislead young people. You can raise a child well without money.
Some people suggest that if you can do the following, you can consider having a second child: if the economic conditions permit, your husband is special, you can have the money and time to take care of your mother, and the elderly at home are willing to help you. If you especially want one, you can consider it, because the family is very United, and like my mother who has no money, energy and in-laws to help, giving birth to a lovely baby in a happy atmosphere is a happy and beautiful thing!
Looking at the little brothers and sisters who went to elementary school next to them, my daughter stared at them and smiled involuntarily. I wonder if the little guy is also looking forward to being a primary school student?
My daughter will go to primary school in September, and I will end my housewife career and go to work. These days I have been thinking about what I want to do and how much value I can produce. To put it bluntly, I just want to make some contributions to my family. I really don't want to do sales, and I have also analyzed it. I'm not fit for sales. I don't have the courage to do sales, and I won't let go of my children and my lover to have dinner with my customers. Zhou Xuan, I can't travel or drink. I can't live without weekends. It's really not easy to think of finding a job you like. The scope of my career is indeed limited, but if I don't stick to my love and do a job that I am willing to grow hard, I'm afraid I won't have a chance. Perhaps, seeing this, some people will say to find a job they like. Maybe you haven't pushed it to that point, but the reality has already pushed it. As long as it is a job, you do it. But what I want to express is that the job I am looking for is, first, it has nothing to do with face. I don't think it's cheap to find an ordinary job in Falling House Prices. I prefer to follow my heart. Second, it is about dreams. My family's economic conditions are average. Support me to do my favorite nutrition or lecturer's work, because I am also trying to precipitate myself. I applied for a health manager last year and have been learning professional knowledge. I started to attend the speech training camp in April and the writing training camp in July, and I have been learning and growing. Although my speed is very slow, compared with those who can produce many results in a month or two, I am really too slow, but this is my personal time zone, at this moment.
A little girl came to play with her daughter, but her daughter smiled shyly. Looking at her lovely appearance, my mind opened again. Once, she saw a brother and sister who also wanted to come and play with them. It's true that newborn calves are not afraid of tigers. Isn't this just like those of us who just entered the workplace? I am not afraid of anything, as long as I work, just like going to Shenzhen alone after graduating from college more than ten years ago. I'm not afraid of walking alone in the streets of Shenzhen, losing my wallet, even losing my ID card, and my mobile phone being cheated. Now it's really good to think about being fearless when you were young. Now I have to concentrate. After all, I didn't have that kind of enthusiasm when I was young, but at this age. If you think about it, you still have to be firm and do what you like.
My daughter obviously doesn't want to play with that little sister, because she said before that those are children and she won't play with them. Another person looked at the lotus, a little lonely, so I started to find a topic and told her the Lotus Law. I said, baby, do you know? It usually takes 30 days for lotus flowers to bloom in the pond. Do you know when the lotus is half full? My daughter said without thinking that it should be 15 days? Although this problem is not profound, the actual situation is 29 days, so I also told her that the number of lotus flowers in a lotus pond on the first day is only a small part, and the number of lotus flowers on the second day is twice that on the first day. Every day after that, the number of lotus flowers will be twice that of the previous day ... then it will be full on the 29 th day and bloom on the last day. Finally, I got the first 29 without much effort.
My idea is to let her know that people need to precipitate themselves through the lotus law. Many times, although we are slow to pay ahead, we may give up in a hurry before the result, but as long as we persist, we can reap what we want.
Lotus law, also known as the 30-day law, many people's lives are like lotus flowers in a pond. At first, they bloomed vigorously and perfectly, but gradually many people got bored, even bored, and probably gave up their persistence on the ninth day, the 19 day, or even the 29th day. In fact, this time is often only one step away from success. At this time, I took the opportunity to tell my daughter that you have been learning English for more than 200 days. If we give up now, everything in front will really be in vain.
In fact, the more you worry at the beginning of your life, the more likely you are to miss many people and things that interest you and new scenery. I feel this is the same as what I always say: if you don't eat the bitterness of learning, you will eat the bitterness of life. My sister's daughter is a vivid example. Although I don't want to mention this girl who is not a positive textbook often, the actual situation is that my current learning attitude can predict my future life.
Our daughter talked too much and couldn't digest it, so we started playing games. My daughter's favorite thing is to race and run with me. If I win every time, she will feel depressed. Occasionally, I will let her win, but judging from my actual strength and hers, I will definitely win. Fortunately, my daughter is not discouraged. She is long past the willful age of winning at any time. We played back-to-back. I held her high and put her down again. A mother and daughter looked at us with envy. Maybe it's because my daughter's laughter is too loud and attractive. My little girl is really cute. A little happiness is enough for her. She seldom eats snacks. Of course, it has a lot to do with me not eating snacks, but which child is not interested in delicious snacks and various shapes and colors? My daughter is absolutely interested. So my choice principles are: first, attitude is not allowed; Second, I can tell stories and make sense; Third, I will surprise her once in a while. My daughter is very happy and won't ask me for snacks, because she knows that her mother will give them, but there are principles, especially cold drinks such as ice cream, because as a girl now, many lesbians will have dysmenorrhea in the future. More or less, when I was a child, I didn't pay attention to keeping warm and eating habits, which led to palace cold. Dysmenorrhea is very painful. I also talked about my college best friend's experience of dysmenorrhea, especially the painful part where I described her rolling on the dormitory bed: she frowned, closed her chapped lips and had big beads of sweat on her head. Drinking brown sugar water doesn't help. She didn't want to move in bed, and then she tossed and turned in bed with pain, and the sound was very special. Finally, I want to say that I don't want you to go through that kind of pain. My daughter seems to have a lot of ideas.
I went back to my parents' house some time ago and gave my daughter a little milk cake as a reward. I am quite axial in this respect. Because I study nutrition, I must look at the nutrient composition table. At first glance, the first ingredient is milk powder, which feels good. Protein content is 5%, which feels good. Eat one once in a while to satisfy my little wish. I watched my daughter lick ice cream that day, and my eyes were full of smiles.
Am I delaying gratification? I'm not that good. I just asked my daughter to tell an old Chinese doctor a short story about the dangers of eating ice cream. He said that eating ice cream on a hot day is like a person working in a cold cellar more than ten meters underground when it is very hot outside, wearing really ordinary clothes. If this physical quality is not very good, she will be particularly prone to illness as soon as she comes to the ground. At that time, my daughter blinked with beautiful little eyes, as if she understood something. There is also a story, which is a picture book "The Train in the Belly". Every baby has a train and there are many elves, but the owner often eats a lot of cold and spicy food, and finally all the elves go on strike. My daughter won't ask me for snacks, so I will play alone.
After dinner last night, I told my daughter that you go out for a walk with your father and go to Binhe Road to listen to people singing. Mother washed the pot and did her homework, but her daughter seemed reluctant to go. I also told her that you learned a new knowledge yesterday. Do you still remember the "Lotus Law" my mother told you? You can tell dad that he certainly doesn't know, but my daughter said that maybe dad knows when he brushes Tik Tok. I suddenly realized that my excellent father might really learn a lot by brushing Tik Tok. I have to admit that I misunderstood Tik Tok and other short videos and thought it was a fast food. Our study, reading and writing speeches are the main meals. Later, I watched some programs, and some teachers and experts spoke really well and learned knowledge. Only then can we find that people's thinking mode should change with the changes of society and make corresponding changes with the trend of the times. What we didn't pay attention to in the past may have surprised our eyes secretly.
When our college classmates went to college, we had a male classmate who was like this. Everyone's impression of him is playboy. He is handsome and tall, and he often changes girlfriends. But when I linked to him among my classmates last year, I really couldn't believe that he was already a barrister, and he also set up his own law firm, leading a brilliant life every day. Of course, I only saw his charm, I didn't know. Because of the general relationship, we also occasionally contact on WeChat. I don't know the detailed experience, but his change really surprised me. I can no longer look at people and things with colored glasses!
In the ever-changing environment, change some unrealistic views and fixed thinking, but always keep an initial heart and always know what you should do. What is the most important thing at present? My focus now is to take good care of my daughter. My daughter always smiles and is happy in her heart. I have kept a diary for 78 years, 90% of which are about my daughter, and the rest are dreams. My daughter will go to school soon, so I can go to work. I still have to stay with her and protect her, but I can realize my dream. I know it may not be easy to find a job, but I ...
I received a phone call from a friend in the morning, not so much a friend as a classmate. He is an excellent champion I met in my speech. We met on May 23rd when I was performing offline in Hangzhou. Fortunately, he is in a group with me and my deskmate, and we practice our speeches together. Of course, my impromptu speech was definitely not enough. I didn't go on stage to represent our class. He didn't get a good ranking. He's different. He won the championship of speaking ability. After that, I won the championship again and again. Now he has started his own class. The more successful he is, the harder he works, the better he will be. But I can't envy his success. Because of his desperate spirit and extreme spirit, he stayed up late to study the manuscript. He spends a lot of time on his studies. I can't do it.
It is better to be the protagonist of your own life than to walk around in other people's lives.
I especially like a passage in Huang Zhizhong's Seven Parnassus:
He said that there are so many stars in the sky that we won't say which one is dim. Even if the dim stars are strung together, it is a constellation that can guide the direction.
Not only the brightest star in the world is worth hanging in the sky. Everyone is a unique star, standing in his own position, emitting his own light.
Although I am ordinary, I have been a housewife for several years and will soon become an ordinary employee of a company. Although my role is very ordinary, I believe that as long as I find the right direction and work hard, I will be extraordinary.
Someone once said: Ordinary is the truest background of life. We can strive for the most brilliant moment, but if we can't, we don't have to feel sorry for ourselves. Standing there safely and living up to this beautiful night sky is already a landscape.
I don't want to live up to this wonderful time. Although I am 30 years old, I know that my body and mind are the same as those of young people around 20 years old. My biggest capital is the support of my lover, and my daughter is getting healthier and more sensible. Of course, the most important thing is that I am in good health, my parents are still alive and there are many possibilities in life, so come on.
The beautiful morning has begun!
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