Son, I want to tell you from the first sentence that you, like everyone else, can't choose your origin, including your parents. So don't complain, accept what you have, and then consider how to live better.
I can't promise many things, such as giving you a complete family, giving you the best education, and even not promising not to kick you out of the house when you make me angry. Dear baby, the only thing I can guarantee is that I will love you forever.
But son, don't put unnecessary pressure on me with this love. I want you to know that you are you and I am me. As an equally independent individual, you belong to you from the moment you are born, not your parents. An umbilical cord connects the crystallization of life and nature, not the relationship between attachment and possession. As a mother, I create conditions and provide support for you, but everything in the future depends on you.
Son, I won't allow you to blame me. No matter what choice I make, I will try my best to be responsible for you in my way, not yours. I repeat, you have no right to choose your parents. I heard that in traditional customs, children from single-parent families will receive more unusual eyes or inappropriate sympathy. Sorry, kid, I don't believe it. I hope you don't mind. If you must be extreme or autistic or neurotic, that's not my problem. Like 10,000 lives in Qian Qian, you fly to the earth like dandelion seeds, some fall in the soil, and some fall in the crevices of stones. This is the law of nature, without exception.
Well, I'll tell you again, the secret lies in how you choose to think about life.
I am a very special mother, which is your blessing or curse. Neither outcome depends on me, but on yourself. Oh, my child, it is wise to respect and accept your mother and achieve yourself with her support.
On many issues, my views are different from others. For example, I'm not sure if I'll get married again, but you'd better be mentally prepared-if I get married again, I must be looking for a suitable partner for myself, not someone who regards me as my biological father. In my opinion, "treating yourself as one of our own" is a narrow and ridiculous requirement. It's not impossible, but it needs fate and life accumulation. My principle is, just respect and love, just like I won't force your will. Imitate the tone in the sketch and say: this is a very sensitive question. I can't say how well I can handle it, but I will try my best, and everyone may get hurt in the process. This will give me a headache. If you help me, I will ask him for help.
Son, you lived in the countryside in your early years, not only because of my living conditions, but also because of the lack of that environment. I have always had a subjective view that the hidden rules of the city can be learned quickly, but the will rooted in the earth needs to be firmly close to the soil. This view is not necessarily all right, but at least it has been proved by itself. In any case, you will be very happy, because you can wander between the two living conditions at an early age, find out the differences, and then form a sense of self.
You will find that there is no perfect life and environment in this world. In rural areas, you will see poverty, narrowness, clumsiness and unawakened stupidity, while cities are full of selfishness, affectation, inexplicable indifference and clumsy arrogance. There has never been a paradise, whether at home or abroad. But if I can choose a spiritual habitat for you, then I pray that the creator will give you an understanding of literature, music, painting, architecture, poetry and other arts, and give you the ability to have a deep dialogue with nature.
Son, education is very subjective. You can't expect me to train you in the way you like. I protect your nature to the greatest extent, but at the same time I believe that choice is very important for a person's success. Especially when you change from a little girl to a girl, or from a little boy to a teenager, I have to tie you up so that you won't look crooked in this bizarre society, let alone become a pillar. So, what I'm about to tell you may not be reasonable, but you must pay attention to it and implement it. Don't challenge your mother, I will tell you firmly-I will never be afraid of your crying, your hunger or your running away from home.
You don't have to love reading, but don't read stupid books. Some words are useless except to make you stupid. I'll force you to assign reading tasks, and it's no use threatening me with suicide. I don't expect you to write, but literature will bring you valuable qualities.
Fast-food fashion magazines can be read occasionally, but don't read them as bibles. Entertainment programs on TV are not allowed to watch for more than 30 minutes. If I find that you have five holes in your ear, and you sound like a host without nutrition, I will take you to grandma's house to kneel and rub the washboard at once.
Of course, you can fall in love freely, even many times, but don't be unrequited, let alone narcissistic, and force yourself to no way back, treating vanity as love and stupidity as chastity. I will never allow my children to fall in love and have no self-esteem. Always believe in the fact that no matter how beautiful and excellent you are, there are always people of the opposite sex who are not interested in you. It doesn't matter if you meet a man you like, but if he really doesn't like you, don't be forced to turn around and leave. Always believe that you deserve the best man, but always learn to motivate yourself to become better and better.
Basically, I won't interfere with your career choice, but you'd better engage in jobs that make you more valuable as you get older, such as lawyers and marketing. I don't object to art, but don't take the tragic and painful route. If you must be behind closed doors, please pack your bags and leave my house.
Sooner or later, you will face the problems of love and sex. I am not a conservative defender, but you are not an inclusive rag. The separation of love and sex is not a technical problem, but we still have to cherish our bodies, and not everyone is entitled to enjoy it. I tell you from the bitter experience of an old woman: after sleeping with a bad, ridiculous and stupid man, you have to spend 10 times of wisdom and courage to believe that you are not bad, ridiculous or stupid. I couldn't wait to say a spell to destroy the other person's body to save my innocent memory.
Whether it is a daughter or a son, you must concentrate after marriage. There will be more beautiful, richer and more attractive people everywhere in this world. Don't make yourself look like a social butterfly or a conqueror. One-on-one relationship is not for moral tradition, but for enjoying more focused love and sex. Of course, concentration can't guarantee you smooth sailing, but at least don't lose on low-level mistakes.
Son, if you are really unhappy after marriage, I don't mind your divorce, but you'd better think it over. Don't be afraid of the unknown, don't be afraid of being too late. I tell you with the happy experience of an old woman that life is never too late. God will never open the door of despair to a willing heart.
You can boldly criticize the chronic diseases of society, but don't complain, take action, even if it is insignificant. This world does not belong to you, nor to me, nor even to the person who has the power of life and death, but it provides everyone with the opportunity to realize the value of life. Of course, I know that any great life will eventually return to dust, and life is just a void. But I don't want you to be like an old monk at a young age, with a saint-like temperament, or fantasize about going fishing in Walden Lake like Thoreau all day, and then publicize your brand image to the audience and say: I am low-key, I am indifferent, and I have a heart-to-heart relationship with Thoreau.
I will laugh out loud, my child! Only high-profile people are qualified to keep a low profile, and the magnificent sea can present calm beauty. Thoreau is a thinker, but you are not. Pessoa is also a hermit, but somebody else took out a book "I'm afraid to record". Son, you can be ambitious, but don't deceive yourself. When I was your age, I made up my mind to earn 100 million yuan, or more, because I firmly believed in wealth and power. I have interviewed many entrepreneurs, and they have changed my view on money and business. There is no shortage of people standing and pointing in China. I hope you are an activist. You are as rich as Bill Gates and create more wealth and benign value for the society.
My child, when we can sit together and discuss this problem, I am old, holding a pen in my hand and writing something that will never be taken seriously. Ideal is the highland that I can't reach, and the fire is passed in your hands. I have many answers to tell you, but I hope you can find the questions yourself first. I always wait for you in the study, listening to your confusion and questions. I don't know when I fell asleep Your footsteps were light when I went out. Maybe you won't notice. I've been watching you gently behind my back.