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The first time I met Ayu was in an offline oral English class. She looked at me with a smile, her pupils were black and white, her eyes were bright and clear, and her skin was free of acne and spots. Delicate, my first impression: this classmate has a very good face!
During the self-introduction session, when all the students prepared PPT presentations, she took out two paintings she drew:
The first painting was a smiling child. The girl is holding a bouquet of flowers. Her current state is as full of love and joy as the English words "love" and "happy" on the painting.
The second picture is another happy girl, full of confidence and power.
After reading these two paintings, I think Ayu must be a girl full of childlike innocence and very artistic spirit.
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The graduation ceremony of the speaking class had to be performed in groups. Ayu and I were in the same group. The theme of our performance was a Chinese wedding. When writing the script, Ayu based it on the Internet The lines adapted from a poem shocked me again:
On the day of the performance, Ayu specially wore a long crimson skirt to play the role of the bride. When she recited these poems with beautiful meanings affectionately, I silently marveled in my heart: She is so talented and spiritual! Only those with love in their hearts can adapt such poems.
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When I was a classmate with Ayu, I found that she only had two emotions: either very calm or very happy. Every time when everyone was very excited, she would smile quietly and ask her how she was so emotionally stable?
She said: "I have been meditating for ten years, and my inner strength cannot be tapped. ”
“I want to calm down but I always think about things I shouldn’t think about. How can I meditate when I am very upset?”
“Real peace is to be at peace with yourself. . Thinking of it but not letting it come to mind is resistance. Why should you be calm? You can just find a safe place where you can just play music and let your body move wildly and dance, and let the emotions flow through your body. That's okay. Do things that make you happy, eat what you have always wanted to eat, buy clothes that make you excited, tell yourself 100 times that I am beautiful, try it.”
I originally thought she would give it to her with a calm personality. I talked about spiritual growth, but she actually told me not to suppress myself, to go crazy and release myself. At that time, I didn’t quite understand why she said, “True peace is to reconcile with yourself.”
I asked her again, "In order to achieve a state of stable and calm emotions, do I have to spend a long time cultivating myself and reach a certain age?"
I remember she answered me like this at the time. ’s: “I think it’s about following your own rhythm patiently and waiting for yourself with lifelong love for yourself... I’ve been walking for so long and I’ve lost track of time. Only in the end did I realize that there is no perfect me waiting for you. Let me become... experience it slowly, don’t rush it! It’s such a boring process if you don’t experience it until the end.”
At that time, I just remembered her words in my head, but I didn’t expect it. Later I got to know her deeply, and she taught me how to become a person full of love and joy.
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On January 6, 2018, Ayu came to my home from Guangzhou to Shenzhen.
While having dinner and chatting, my roommate mentioned that I wanted a boyfriend who could take pictures, and Ayu said, "Can I teach you how to grow a perfect partner?"
A few single girls They all said yes, so Ayu asked us to turn off the lights, light candles, play music, put a bouquet of flowers on the table, and then said:
"It’s not about finding a partner, because it’s about finding a partner." There are always some things you have to compromise on. Being nice to me may mean you don’t have the money, someone who is rich may be bald, someone who is handsome and rich may be very carefree... So, your partner should be made of the kind you want. , ideal, perfect, soul mate.
The first step to a perfect partner: Decide what kind of partner you want. This means making a list. Write down the conditions of a partner you want, no matter what. It’s age, appearance, personality, beliefs, expertise, hobbies, occupation, ambition, financial ability, attitude towards dealing with people, the interaction between two people... you can write anything, find out what you really care about, and write it clearly.”
Each of us took out pen and paper and started writing, thinking freely in a ceremonial environment with music, aromatherapy and flowers. As soon as I reached half an A4 page, I finished writing and was about to stop. Ayu said you can write boldly and write everything you want. I then filled up another A4 page.
When everyone finished writing, Ayu put away all our papers, carefully read the list one by one, and then said:
"A, you want someone to take care of you Is your partner right? Then you should go to orphanages and nursing homes to volunteer. For example, when your family cooks for you, you should feel that you are giving. Love, how it feels when you take care of others, and then keep this feeling in your heart.
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“B, you want a partner who can take pictures, right?” Then you have to cultivate your own sense of beauty and share beauty with others. Suppose you want a partner who can draw, have fashion sense, have aesthetic literacy, etc. These are actually the same. You have to share the beauty first before you can attract a partner who understands beauty. ”
“C, you want a very intelligent partner, right?” Then you have to share your knowledge and wisdom. For example, if you share what you learned today with more people, the more spiritual you will be and the easier it will be to attract wise partners. ”
“You want your partner to be taller and older than you. This is a sign that you want to feel safe, so when you get along with others, you must first give others a sense of trust and take care of them; you If you want your partner to be a confident person, then you must first accept yourself; if you want your partner to be a patient and good-tempered person, then you must always say kind words to others..."
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What you want, you have to give to others first. This is the principle of finding the perfect partner. The same principle applies to other things.
The reason why I am willing to believe what Ayu said is because of her. I have lived this sentence myself. She is the most joyful and prosperous person I have ever met, and she is also the person who loves giving gifts to others.
On the day she came to Shenzhen, Ayu came wearing a red witch hat. I thought it looked very nice and I had never worn a hat like this before, so I asked her if I could try it on. She said yes, so I wore this hat. Unexpectedly, when we parted ways later, Ayu took the initiative and said, "This is it." Hat for you! ”
She knew that my roommate was also single and was about to travel, so she specially prepared a hot water bottle for my roommate and told her that if she got cold on the way, she could use the hot water bottle to keep out the cold. She also I drew a picture of a couple sitting on a plane on the hot water bottle, wishing the little one to find a boyfriend.
One day I received a big package from her, and she said she knew my roommate was going out this time. There were two traveling companions on the trip, so I gave each of them a hot water bottle. In case they would get sick on the way, I prepared a box of panacea. Knowing that our friend Rui Yi often goes to bed late and stays up late, we gave her a percussion stick. She asked her to tell her story; knowing that her roommate was interested in painting, she gave her a copy of "Learn to Paint for 10 Minutes Every Day"...
I have seen people who often give gifts to others. I have never seen anyone who gives gifts so thoughtfully! Ayu gives everyone a different hot water bottle. She will choose a different style according to everyone's preferences. She even takes it into consideration to prepare for friends who are not here but are just mentioned casually. I was deeply moved by her attentiveness, warmth and love.
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Because I think the concepts and methods of a perfect partner taught by Ayu are very good. I asked her if she could share what she taught in my online sharing meeting. She said yes, and then said:
"The so-called path to finding a perfect partner is actually a way to find a perfect partner." own path. I have seen too many people get married, and they have never experienced that feeling of love. Finding the perfect partner is not the ultimate goal, the ultimate goal is to find the love in your heart. ”
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Ayu has not only accumulated a lot of wisdom in spiritual growth, she has also studied Chinese medicine for many years, teaching us how to maintain health by tapping the body, and telling us to make our body healthy every day. Let the sun shine on the Rendu Meridian (because many meridians in the body pass through the Rendu Meridian and Rendu Meridian, so injecting energy into them means injecting energy into the whole body). She shared a story about saving a life because of learning Chinese medicine, which particularly impressed me. Profound.
Once Ayu met a girl who fainted on the ground in a Shanghai subway station. Many people did not dare to save her, but Ayu stepped forward and used her knowledge of traditional Chinese medicine to massage her acupuncture points. , and later revived her. It turned out that the girl fainted because she was anemic and had not eaten breakfast. Because it was time for Ayu to catch a flight, Ayu could only give the girl everything she had to eat and drink. Running all the way to the security check
“Do you know the joy of life helping life? I cried wildly as I ran towards the security checkpoint. ”
When I heard Ayu say these words, I suddenly felt her soft heart and unconditional love for people, which reminded me of Mother Teresa. Sometimes I am a very curious person People, especially those who are interested in themselves, have many questions to ask. I recently asked Ayu several questions. When I asked her if this would disturb her, why was she willing to help others so unconditionally? The reply said:
"Xiaoxiao, thank you for planting the seeds of wisdom in me. Helping you is also helping myself. Seven years ago, I was a person who had no self-confidence and always put down myself. During these seven years, I cried constantly, wrote many diaries, and read many books. During that period, I received unconditional love from many teachers and friends. Isn’t there supposed to be this flow of love between people? You will be moved by me because the frequency of love is vibrating inside you. ”
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Ayu’s inspiration to me goes far beyond the ideological level. As she said herself, “Everyone who comes into contact with her thinks she is a piece of cake.” precious.
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I told her that my parents always wanted me to go home to see them often, but in my case it was impossible to go home and see them every now and then. Ayu taught me to give red envelopes to my parents every day, so that Parents feel the joy of being given, and let themselves feel rich enough to give. Then I obey and send red envelopes to my parents every day. It is not about the amount, but to let them feel that you remember them in your heart. After that, my parents stopped complaining to me.
When talking about wealth, Ayu taught me to use 1% of my income to help others. When I see other people raising funds, I want to support them. I also supported my friends’ crowdfunding. One day, I didn’t have much money left in my WeChat wallet, so I still chose to support my friends’ crowdfunding. This was the first time I did it even though I didn’t have much money. Support others, and as a result, I earned dozens of times the money I sent out that night, which confirmed Ayu's saying, "Give others what you want first."
The concept shared by Ayu is not limited to others. It worked for me, and it also worked for others.
Within ten days of writing the list of perfect partners, my friend found a boyfriend who met the criteria on the list and happily announced the news to Ayu.
I told about Ayu’s gift giving in my online sharing meeting. After listening, the audience immediately acted to give gifts to others. They were happy and others were also very happy.
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p>Since the in-depth communication with Ayu on January 6, 2018, I can feel deeply loved every day, and I am more willing to give.
Noon on January 12. , I suddenly had an idea: Ayu is so wise, whether it is about traditional Chinese medicine health care, spiritual growth, finding a perfect partner, wealth, etc., I want to help her organize an offline sharing event for 100 people in Shenzhen Yes! And I also want to help her realize her dream of publishing a Chinese medicine picture book!
When this idea came to me, I was shocked! I hadn’t even thought about my plan for 2018. I want to help others realize their dreams! And I already have a picture in my mind of standing on the stage as the host introducing Ayu, inviting my parents to sit in the front row and listen to Ayu’s sharing!
I think! This is the result of Ayu influencing me with her love and every word and deed.
I have helped others write articles for many guest sharing sessions, and organized many online and offline events, but I have never been as enthusiastic as I am now!
What a wonderful thing it would be if you and I could live in the same generous, loving state as she did!