[Reprinted] # Autumn Night Sunny Rain # What is true feelings?

Dear Ye Qiu and Yang Qing: Hello, I'm Teacher Ye Qiu, a friend of your students. My name is Wen. My present situation is that I don't know how to treat my true feelings. I also borrowed your Youth-A Letter to Young Friends from your students. After reading it, I benefited a lot, but I still can't solve my problem. After listening to him talking about you from my friend, I heard that you and your teacher @ 哂哂哂哂哂哂哂哂哂哂哂哂哂 2 1698. I will tell you and Mr. Yang Qing every detail of my experience. I hope you can give me some suggestions in your spare time to help me solve my doubts. Although I know that a few words may not change my present situation, I still want to hear the views of adults and seniors on emotional problems. Thank you. First of all, I am a boy. My father has been traveling for a long time since he was a child, and he only comes back once or twice a week. When I was in primary school, my mother told me directly. My mother sleeps with me at noon, and we sleep back to back. This situation lasted for about 4 years. Later, I went to junior high school. My father worked steadily and I slept alone. But because my family lives in a tube-shaped building, about 30 square meters, and I don't have my own bedroom, my parents use furniture as a partition, so there is no door. I often hear some strange sounds on the bed outside when I sleep at night. Later, I learned that my parents were having sex, which I didn't know until my freshman year. Secondly, I never solve it myself. In high school, there was a boy who especially liked to play tricks on other boys, belonging to the naughty type. Because he played tricks on me, I often fought back, so we often fought and became addicted. In the process of fighting, we often touch each other's crotch to stimulate some kind of behavior. This situation did not completely disappear until the end of the college entrance examination. Even when I met him at home this summer vacation, we would still do such a "struggle". And I have never learned to solve my own problems. In my dreams, I rely on him to solve them. I enjoyed watching a dream of red mansions in high school. Whenever I want to solve it, I will watch a dream of red mansions to relieve it, but now I can't learn to solve my own problems. My undergraduate major is mathematics, and whenever I want to solve it by myself, I have been doing exercises on non-Euclidean geometry. Of course, now I'm a graduate student. In fact, I always feel that you and I are very similar to what you mentioned in your bookNo. 18, "It's not your fault to be dark inside", but there are great differences. People say that my heart is dark, but I always feel that sex and love should be completely opposite. For me, sex is very dirty, so I never watch similar movies by Mr. Cang, because only the computer in my dormitory doesn't have such movies, and the other five are ignored. And love should be a beautiful thing, romantic and pious, just like the sacredness of western wedding vows. Finally, I have a boyfriend and girlfriend. My boyfriend, a private school student, learned about my past and used it as a threat to associate with me. Of course, to be fair, he is very kind to me, and when he is with me, he often has the illusion that he is that kind of wife, but I always look at it with embarrassment. Although I thought there was no gender difference in love, it could be the same sex or the opposite sex, but I still felt very strange, which made me very upset, so I found it. But I feel sorry for him because he is very kind to me. He said to me, "I have moved my true feelings, and you should be responsible for me", but I still feel that I should not be responsible for him because I have not moved my true feelings. Later, I went to graduate school and broke up with him. In my senior year before graduate school, I confessed to a female classmate who had been in the same class for four years. She said to me, "Do you mind if I have had an emotional experience before?" "I don't mind." "Then can you wait for me for a year, and when I pass the next public exam, can we get along well?" I agreed, and then we dated, but when asked why, someone always told me: such a woman is not sincere at first sight and only associates with you at public expense. Actually, I don't think my girlfriend is insincere at all. It's normal that she has her own ideas. But recently, my boyfriend started looking for me again. He said that he was moved by the truth and wanted to make up with me. At the same time, he showed great kindness to me ... Now I am thinking about several questions: What is true love? Love has nothing to do with gender? What exactly is homosexuality? Does my present appearance have much to do with my previous experience? What should I do now? Dear Wen, thank you. ————————— @ autumn leaves quotations———————————————————— Before this letter was sent, netizens told me that it would be very complicated. I thought it would be complicated, but I didn't expect it to be so complicated. It's really tricky. First of all, congratulations: when you get old, you will have a life experience that cannot be simply defined. I like people who have this experience. I saw a sentence today: everyone will die, but not everyone really lived. I hope all your experiences are the imprint of your life. I have to say that this is a progressive era, because you can write to ask about heterosexual love and homosexual love, and of course you can ask me if I can love them all. If we are in college, the most tolerant answer you can get can only be: you are a group of extremely boring people. What is true love? If you ask a hundred people, there may be ten thousand answers. But I know that love is always a little crazy. If it is too rational, it is not love. I can't give you a standard answer, but I think your ex-boyfriend seems to be closer to love than your current girlfriend. Love has nothing to do with gender, but love has a lot to do with personality. I have always thought that your personality is very suitable for being a victim. You are too passive. Gay love is as normal as heterosexual love, and so is androgyny. You should be glad that you can appreciate the beauty of different sexes at the same time. But cheating is too dangerous. I hope you can grasp this degree. Of course, your current experience has something to do with your childhood experience. Many people are not born gay, just because of curiosity, and finally develop a path dependence of some behavior. I think this may be the case with you. Now that you have decided not to choose that kind of body odor, I'm sorry that I always doubt "posture" when typing, but I still suggest you choose a girlfriend. This may be a normal choice rather than a correct choice, but here, I still suggest you make a normal choice, especially because you are such a passive person ... Finally, I read a study published by the US government in 2007, and the average number of sexual partners for men is 7 and that for women is 4. I have always found this data difficult to understand. Shouldn't the average be equal? Today, you let me know a lot ... I mean, I should learn to laugh at life instead of fighting it. ——————————————————— It's just a suggestion written by someone who has experienced it, so please don't label it as an emotional expert. Since I don't want to label myself, I don't want to label you as gay, bisexual or pan-sexual, because "a person who has had sexual relations with the same sex but lacks romantic or emotional lasting attraction is not gay; A person who has had sexual relations with the opposite sex but lacks romantic or emotional lasting attraction is not heterosexual. "Sex and love can be independent, but they are definitely not antagonistic. Most people will think that love with a high degree of unity between sex and love is happiness. Love can have nothing to do with gender, but it must have something to do with such excellent qualities as responsibility, persistence, courage and dedication. Lian Yue said that people who love have two things to do, one is to love according to their own ideas, and the other is to find their own strength to maintain this love. Wen, if you want to have a beautiful love, don't be afraid of getting hurt. No matter who TA is, you must learn how to love someone well. Remember, it's just one. Also, if sex is dirty, then human beings are dirty. There must be beautiful love in beautiful love, don't worry. ————————————— column on autumn night youth language ——————— autumn leaves of science and engineering men and autumn leaves of literary women, speaking in autumn, emotional confusion, not gentleness, the only knife.