I recently read "Zeng Guofan" and saw that when he held a regiment training for the first time and built the Hunan Army, I always felt that he was awe-inspiring and upright, trying to control everything, often getting into trouble and fierce confrontation. If there are too many thorns planted, things will naturally not go smoothly. However, haste makes waste, and Zeng Guofan was incompatible with the corrupt officialdom. He was marginalized everywhere, constrained overtly and covertly, and suffered a lot of cowardice.
I found that even if you are the truth and you are not greedy for money, but you hinder the interests of others and are too domineering, you are not welcome. It is too difficult to always want others to do what you want. The cow doesn't drink water and is forced to press its head, always thinking that with greater power, it can suppress colleagues and subordinates. This is really not transparent enough.
Fortunately, only when people encounter setbacks and reach a desperate situation can they reflect that this path will not work. Only then can we understand that people do not win by being tough, and that the softest in the world can win over the toughest.
Lao Zhuang did not study in vain. When he came out again, Zeng Guofan understood that only by changing himself could he influence others. Keep your posture low, understand the necessary compromises, understand tolerance, understand guidance, and understand how to respect others, and then you will be respected by others. I'm not greedy for money, but that doesn't stop you from being greedy for money. There are unspoken rules, but we should treat them as rules.
Know the twists and turns like water. Round on the outside and square on the inside, the invisible is better than the tangible. In the decadent late Qing Dynasty, when it was the most difficult period to do anything, he continued to live for the Qing court for several decades.
Zeng Guofan also became a perfect man for his virtues and meritorious deeds and his reputation as a teacher, general and prime minister.
From Zeng Guofan, think of ourselves. The world will not change according to our personal will. Even the emperor cannot do as he pleases.
Most of the time, we can’t even handle our own children, let alone others?
But we still foolishly think that we are the standard answer, stubbornly asking others to act according to our own preferences, and asking the world to obey our own perceptions. It is stupid, isn't it?
In fact, you cannot decide others. You can only attract others through your own high level, make people admire and follow you, and make changes voluntarily and spontaneously.
Everyone is unique. Everyone has only one life. Everyone feels that they are the truth. Everyone likes to act according to their own wishes. No one wants to be a puppet and live a life that follows everyone. shadow.
So there are worries, control, quarrels, conflicts, confrontations, wars... all at once.
When you yell at the other person at the top of your lungs, you are actually angry at your own incompetence.
Whoever you argue with and compete with, it means that you and him are about the same, and there is not much difference in quality.
If you have both ability and political integrity, and your level of cultivation is high enough and transparent enough, and you are not on the same level as the other party, then you won’t quarrel at all, it’s not worth quarreling, and you won’t be able to quarrel.
You will just shrug and leave with pride and dignity. Or simply ignore it and ignore it at all. Every minute and every second of your time is precious, why would you care about it with an asshole? I also hate it for lowering your rank. If you wrestle with a pig, you will be covered in mud even if you win.
Remember: changing yourself is God, changing others is crazy!