Descriptions of Nvjiao all say that she has a beautiful appearance and an elegant temperament. She is a famous local beauty whose birth and death are unknown. After he came to power, he made two alliances with the princes, one at Tushan Mountain and the other at Kuaiji Mountain. The reason why Yu chose Huaiyuan Tushan in Bengbu as the venue for the first Confederate Congress was to repay his kindness.
Dayu was busy controlling floods and was still unmarried at the age of 30. Later, he met Nvjiao in Tushan (now northwest of Shaoxing, Zhejiang), and the two fell in love. Because of the urgency of flood control, Dayu went to other places to inspect the disaster situation. Nvjiao longed for Dayu, so she wrote a poem, leaving only two sentences: "How long do you have to wait for someone!" It is said that this is the earliest southern love poem handed down from generation to generation. It can be seen from this love poem that Nujiao fell in love with Dayu, and Nujiao's maid told Dayu about it. Dayu was so moved that he married Nvjiao in Taiwan. This is the story of "I got the Tushan girl, but I am proficient in Taiwan".
After Yu Xia married Tu Shanshi’s daughter, she did not delay official duties due to personal reasons. Four days later, she said goodbye to her wife and continued to control the water. Nvjiao was sent to Anyi (now northeast of Jie County, Shaanxi Province). She missed her hometown in the south day and night. Dayu also knew that and had no time to comfort his newlywed wife. So she sent someone to build a watchtower in the south of the city, so that her wife could overlook her hometown from the platform.
Once, when Dayu was controlling floods, he passed by his house and coincided with the birth of Nvjiao. His neighbor told him to go home and see his wife and children. Dayu said: "When you are controlling the water, you must not be distracted." The neighbor said: "You can't go back to visit your wife and children, but you should also give your only son a name!" Dayu hurriedly said: "His name is ' Qi' means 'water control'. Thirteen years later, when his son was in his teens, he came back and Nvjiao became a middle-aged woman.
Dayu succeeded to the throne and made Nvjiao his wife. The princess melted to death and became the founding emperor of the Xia Dynasty. Nvjiao: With the progress of underground cultural relics archaeology, the history of China seems to have a clearer outline, and the status of the Kingdom of Dayu in the Chinese nation has been further established. It is almost the beginning of the Chinese national spirit. However, when we praise Yu, we seem to ignore the role and contribution of his wife Nvjiao.
"Wu Yue Spring and Autumn" says: "Yu was thirty years old. Marry. When we arrived at Tushan, we were afraid that it would be getting late, so we lost control. He said, 'If I get married, I have to do this. ", a white fox, born in. Yu married Tu Shan, so it was called." Yu's marriage is evidenced by "Tushan Song".
"A white fox every year, with nine fat tails." What a beautiful girl our Dayu's wife is. She is not only beautiful, but also virtuous. As the wife of a great man, what awaits her is the double test of happiness and sacrifice.
The most beautiful girl cannot stop Dayu’s desire to control water. Sure enough, on the fourth day after his marriage, our Dayu was about to say goodbye to his wife and embark on a journey to control floods. It is also "ten or eight years gone forever". In October, the difficulty of pregnancy and the most difficult pain for women come to Nvjiao. When my son was born, he would cry when he couldn't see his father. "My child, don't cry, don't make noises. When the flood recedes, what will your father do?"
This depressed mood is reflected in "The Song of Waiting for Others", and in Lu's "Spring and Autumn" There is a saying: "In Yu Xingshui, I secretly met Tushan's daughter, and at the end of the year I traveled to the south of the Yangtze River. Tushan's daughter asked her concubine to live in Tushan Yang. It is a female song, and the song is: "It's awkward to wait for others. ', in fact, it was pronounced in southern China at first. "Ah" and "ah" are function words, equivalent to "ah ah ah", which fully expresses the desire for the husband's early return. As the saying goes, "The military medal is half mine and half yours." Dayu's success in controlling floods was due to the sacrifice of his wife and daughter. Such unknown and selfless dedication is really the beginning of the traditional virtues of Chinese women.