Modern scientific research shows that a new life is not only for expectant mothers, but also closely related to prospective fathers. So how should prospective fathers carry out prenatal education? Let's share how the father teaches the fetus.
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I never thought that raising children was my wife's business. My wife's pregnancy has become a top priority at home and in my heart since the day I knew I had Ling Lin.
You can pretend to understand something you don't understand, but you can't raise children. Raising children is a university. What can I do without reading some books? Since my wife became pregnant, I have been reading books with her and learning about parenting: I bought a pregnancy encyclopedia, read related magazine articles together, check the latest parenting knowledge on the Internet, and go to hospitals and parent-child centers to listen to lectures on pregnancy, childbirth and parenting.
Needless to say, the sentence "knowledge is power" is absolutely correct. During the 10 month of pregnancy, I supervised my wife to do exactly what the book said. Everything went well. Lingling was very healthy and smart after she was born.
Insist on prenatal education
Many prospective fathers think that prenatal education may be time-consuming, so busy with work, how can they have time to do this? In fact, my experience is that prenatal education does not take time, and persistence is the most important.
The simplest prenatal education is to talk to the baby more. Every morning I wake up and say hello to the baby in my stomach, even when I come back from work. It's normal not to get used to it at first. Who is happy to talk to his stomach every day? It's easy to forget when you are so busy and tired. However, if you adjust your mind and feel that there is a little life in your wife's belly listening to you carefully, you will be very devoted to communicating with your baby every day.
As long as you do it, the baby will feel it.
I always believe that although I communicate with my baby through my wife's stomach, my baby is sensitive. Every time the fetal movement is very severe, as long as I gently put my hand on my wife's stomach and say to TA, "Be good, or my mother will be very tired." The little guy will be very "good" immediately, and you can blame him if you say it. It didn't just happen to me. I believe many prospective fathers have had this experience.
I was aiming at my mother's evaluation.
My husband is a very careful person. During my pregnancy, he reminded me of many things in my life. It should be said that he is a very qualified prospective father.
Because of work, my husband can only accompany our mother and son on weekends. Others say that if you don't spend much time with your baby, the baby won't kiss you. But in my family, it is an exception. For this father who seldom appears at home, Linlin is closer than me, which sometimes puzzles me.
I think it is really possible that they have reached an agreement of "parent-child alliance" when they are pregnant.
Prospective father prenatal education program
Language prenatal education
The baby not only likes the gentle and sweet voice of his mother, but also likes the deep and generous voice of his father.
The prospective father touches the expectant mother's belly at a fixed time every day to greet the baby, tell t a fairy tales or read children's songs, or tell the baby interesting things that happened that day. This is of great help to the baby's brain development.
During pregnancy, the gentle voice of parents-to-be can stimulate the auditory development of the fetus, enhance the comfort and stability of the fetus, make the fetus feel "love", and the relationship between the baby and parents-to-be is closer.
Touch prenatal education
The "training" of touching the fetus should be carried out at night when the fetal movement is more frequent. Expectant mothers lie flat on the bed or sit in a wider chair to relax themselves. Dad-to-be puts his finger on his abdomen and gently touches the fetus from top to bottom and from left to right with music for 5~ 10 minutes each time. When the prospective father caresses, he can also carry out language prenatal education.
Music prenatal education
Choosing some beautiful music for the baby will help stimulate the baby's brain development, create a good mood for the expectant mother, trigger the secretion of benign hormones in the body, and strengthen the intimacy between the baby and the prospective parents. When playing music, the rhythm should not be too strong, the volume should not be too high, and there should be no sudden loud noise, so as not to make the fetus uncomfortable or frightened.
Reminders are very important
According to clinical cases, if the expectant mother has poor appetite, partial eclipse or abnormal meal time during pregnancy, then the baby will also have partial eclipse, poor appetite and indigestion after birth.
In addition, if the expectant mother is lazy, or lacks thinking and action, and the pace of life is irregular, then the baby she gave birth to may be the same as her. Another important task of prenatal education for prospective fathers is to remind expectant mothers to abandon bad habits and live a healthy and regular life together.
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Doctors in Britain have found that the fetus can understand the mother's feelings. When the mother panics, the fetus will twitch all over; When the mother is unhappy, the fetus who is usually active seems to have no strength to move. This is because when the mother's mood changes, the hormones secreted by the nervous system will enter the fetus through the placenta with the blood, so that the fetus will have the same emotional characteristics as the mother. Therefore, experts from the British Association of Prenatal Psychology warned pregnant women in China that expectant mothers should become happy pregnant women if they want their babies to be mentally stable and optimistic in the future.
It is an arduous task for prospective fathers to make pregnant wives excited and happy. Experts suggest that a husband can play a moderate joke with his wife, and humorous words will enrich his feelings; Watch your favorite TV series with your wife; Let the wife and relatives get together more; Let the wife participate in social life; Take a short trip with your wife, etc. When your wife is in a bad mood, you should enlighten and comfort her more and do everything possible to make her happy.
Don't believe it. Although the baby was conceived and grew up in the mother's belly, it has a natural intimate relationship with the father.
When TA is "tossing" in the expectant mother's stomach, the gentle touch of the expectant mother can't meet the baby's needs at this time, but as long as it is replaced by the big hand of the prospective father, the baby may be able to calm down.
Modern scientific research shows that a new life is not only a matter for expectant mothers, but also closely related to prospective fathers. In the more than 200 days of pregnancy, the prospective father and the expectant mother get along with each other day and night, and they are her closest lovers and comrades. A thoughtful word and caring action from the husband can soothe the anxiety of expectant mothers and is also a benign stimulus to the baby. In developed countries such as Japan, Europe and America, it has gradually become a fashion and atmosphere for young prospective fathers to join expectant mothers in their daily prenatal education activities.
If you want your baby to be healthy, lively and smart in the future; If you want to live in harmony with your baby in the future, from now on, start with small things, love your wife and baby wholeheartedly, and let the soon-to-be-born baby know how much you care about him!
I believe many prospective fathers have had this experience.
How do fathers give prenatal education to their fetuses? 2. Environmental prenatal education: create a good growth space for the baby.
In the evening, father and mother lie in bed chatting. Dad wants to take mom out for a walk tomorrow. The blossoming mother is very happy: "Let's go shopping to buy clothes!" " "Dad's father frowned and said," Can you be a bit promising, even if you don't think of yourself, you should think of your children! " "The blossoming mother was very angry and said," Why is it useless to go shopping? Why don't you think about the children? I just want to buy some children's clothes. When we first fell in love, didn't you say that you like to go shopping with me, like to watch me bargain happily, and like my enthusiastic and selective concentration? "Now," Dad quickly interrupted his wife, "How could I mean that? Now that it has blossomed, you should go to some elegant places and try not to go to those crowded and noisy places. This is called environmental prenatal education. "
What is environmental prenatal education?
Environmental prenatal education refers to the optimization of the internal and external environment of the fetus, including the physical health and mental health of the mother, in order to meet the healthy needs of fetal growth and development. It takes about 280 days for human beings to become newborns from fertilized eggs to embryos to fetuses until they are born. From the moment the fertilized egg is formed, environmental factors have an impact on new life. Whether the fetus can grow and develop normally during pregnancy is not only related to parents' genetic genes, pregnancy preparation and nutritional factors, but also closely related to the mother's internal and external environment during pregnancy. Especially in the first eight weeks of pregnancy, embryos are forming from appearance to internal organs, from head to limbs. In addition, the embryo is naive and does not have detoxification function, so it is extremely vulnerable. Therefore, the first three months of pregnancy is the key period for whether the fetus will be deformed.
Environmental prenatal education does this 1 and infects the fetus with a smile.
Although the fetus can't see the expression of the expectant mother, it can feel the emotion of the expectant mother. The first three months are an important period for the formation of fetal organs. If pregnant women have long-term mood swings, it may cause fetal malformation. Therefore, expectant mothers should be happy every day, and don't be stingy with your smile.
The prospective father should create a stable and comfortable environment for the baby. Not only the expectant mother should always smile, but also the prospective father should always smile, because the mood of the prospective father often affects the mood of the expectant mother. Expectant mothers are happy, and this good attitude will be passed on to the baby in the belly, making the baby happy.
Reminder: Pregnant women's happy emotions can stimulate the cerebral cortex, so that pregnant women's blood pressure, pulse, respiration and digestive juice secretion are in a stable and coordinated state, which is beneficial to pregnant women's physical and mental health. At the same time, happy mood can improve the blood supply of placenta and promote the healthy development of fetus.
2. Beauty in appearance and beauty in heart.
Many expectant mothers are in pain and worried about their body shape changes during pregnancy. In fact, pregnant women themselves have a different kind of beauty. If they add their own decorations, they will achieve a beautiful situation. Although pregnancy makes the former physical beauty disappear, it is also another kind of beauty. Your skin will become delicate and rosy, and if there are wrinkles on your forehead before, it will disappear at this time.
Reminder: In order to keep the skin soft and elastic, pregnant women should always apply high-quality skin care products to lubricate the skin and adopt natural skin care method to maintain the face.
3. Good mood is good prenatal education.
Expectant mothers can get such a good mood:
Be broad-minded, optimistic and free, avoid troubles, fears and worries, and think about the bright future of children. Make the living environment clean and beautiful, pleasing to the eye. You can hang some cute doll heads at home and imagine that the baby in your belly is so beautiful, lovely and healthy. When dressing up, we should first consider whether it is beneficial to the fetus and our own health. Eat and live regularly, work and rest on time, and insist on proper labor and exercise. I often listen to beautiful music and read poems, fairy tales and scientific parenting books. Don't watch TV, movies, videos and novels with fear, tension, pornography and violence.
Reminder: Talk to your baby every day and treat your baby as a thoughtful person who can listen, see and understand.
Tips during pregnancy ● Pay attention to plant placement ●
Too many plants should not be placed in the bedroom; Most flowers are good for health, but if the fragrance is too strong, such as cordate telosma, it will be harmful to health, especially if you breathe these smells during sleep.
Note: some flowers contain substances harmful to human body and should not be placed indoors; The fragrant smell of pine and cypress flowers and trees can stimulate people's stomach, which not only affects their appetite, but also makes pregnant women feel uncomfortable, disgusting and dizzy. A living and emotional person.
4. The relationship between prospective father and expectant mother should be harmonious.
When the expectant mother has abnormal mental state, the prospective father should be good at guiding and helping her to return to normal state of mind.
The prospective father should pay enough attention to the prospective mother, help the expectant mother adapt to the inconvenience and anxiety caused by pregnancy as soon as possible, and keep her mood calm.
When solving some problems, prospective fathers and expectant mothers should be able to "tolerate" each other generously and try to avoid fierce quarrels. Expectant fathers and expectant mothers should arrange regular safe living procedures, and prohibit sexual life in the first three months of pregnancy and 1 month before delivery. Fathers-to-be should understand that pregnancy will cause a series of physiological and psychological changes in women, and should be more considerate of expectant mothers.
Reminder: Don't be critical of your child's gender and appearance. If you prefer boys to girls, or hope that the child will have all the advantages of parents' appearance at birth, this expectation is too great, which will cause unnecessary psychological pressure to the pregnant woman and make her unable to maintain a calm mind.
5. Constantly improve your self-cultivation.
Many women tend to become lazy after pregnancy, and they don't want to do anything or think about anything. So some people think that this is the characteristic of pregnant women, let it be. As everyone knows, this is very unfavorable to prenatal education. For the intellectual development of the fetus in the womb, we should use our brains diligently and improve ourselves in knowledge, etiquette, aesthetics and sentiment.
Some people say, "reading a good book is like talking to a noble person." Therefore, expectant mothers can try to read a good book. The incisive insights and analysis, rich philosophy and humorous words in the book can make people feel refreshed and refreshed. Expectant mothers have more rest time, and both mother and son will benefit greatly from enjoying a good literary work in their leisure time.
In addition, a beautiful picture is enough to make people have rich associations. To cultivate children's rich imagination, originality and enterprising spirit, the best textbook is children's picture books. Therefore, expectant mothers can look at beautiful pictures and use imaginative brains to enlarge the fantasy world displayed on each page of the album and pass it on to the fetus, thus promoting the healthy growth of the fetus' mind.
It is very important to create a good family atmosphere. Husband and wife should respect and love each other.
Mutual respect and love between husband and wife is the emotional basis for creating a warm family. Husbands should not be full of "male chauvinism" and think that they are the head of the family, and everything is up to them. Giving birth is a woman's business, and the social stage is a man's world. These traditional secular ideas are very wrong and should be completely corrected. A wife should not be bent on intimidating her husband, be domineering at every turn, and let the other party obey her and take precedence over her husband in everything. As long as the husband and wife respect each other, even if there are some opinions and differences, they can be properly resolved openly.
Husband and wife should trust and encourage each other.
Mutual trust and encouragement between husband and wife is the psychological guarantee for creating a warm family. Husbands should help and humble their wives more so that they can conceive happily. Especially after the wife is pregnant, the husband should help her do more housework. At the beginning of pregnancy, due to the sudden changes in physiology, the wife will have some psychological changes, and she will be easily agitated and nagging. At this time, the husband should be a gentleman and should help and humble his wife more, which cannot be ignored.
Husband and wife should understand each other and comfort each other.
Mutual understanding and comfort between husband and wife is the key to creating a warm family. In family life, mutual understanding and comfort between husband and wife can deepen the feelings between husband and wife. After the wife is pregnant, she can't do the housework she usually does. Husband should be considerate of her, take the initiative to undertake these housework, give her more comfort, and let her spend her pregnancy safely and smoothly.
Husband and wife should understand each other.
To create a good family atmosphere, both husband and wife should understand each other. In particular, the husband should actively and enthusiastically serve his wife and the children in his womb, play the glorious role of the future father, and make his wife feel satisfied and the fetus feel comfortable. Living in such a harmonious family atmosphere is of great benefit to the physical and mental health of mother and son. A wife should also give her husband some care and understanding, and work together with her husband to create a warm family.
Tips: the influence of family atmosphere on children's personality
Grumpy: A grumpy family smells of gunpowder from morning till night. The voices of complaining, scolding, quarreling and fighting are one after another. Children who grow up in this kind of family are sensitive, intelligent, impatient and competitive, and have the hope of success, but if they are not guided and educated, they are likely to go astray.
Cold type: the biggest feature of cold type families is that the family structure is not "tight", and everyone doesn't care much about who happened. Children who grow up in this kind of family are gentle, but somewhat withdrawn; They are calm, but they lack sensitivity and enthusiasm, and they are not very motivated. Such children generally don't get into trouble, but they don't do much. Harmonious type: the biggest feature of a harmonious family is democracy and respect. Family members respect each other, care and love each other. If there are contradictions, most of them are settled through negotiation calmly. But this kind of family thought is often "orthodox" and "conservative". Most children in this family are cheerful, polite, law-abiding, self-motivated and self-conscious, and are more likely to receive education. Disadvantages are cowardice, conformity and lack of initiative.