What skills do girls need to master in family education?

There are few restrictions. Parents always think that girls should be reserved and gentle to be like a lady, so we can't help but set many restrictions on our daughters. Did you ever say, "Little girl should be clean, don't get your pants dirty!" " Or "climbing the grid is not made by girls, don't go!" Something like that? Remember, we should actively encourage them to do what they want. Want to dress up as a cowboy? Sure! We all know how much influence parents have on their children, so if you keep telling her that you can't do this and that, then she must be a coward when she grows up and dare not try anything. Encourage boys' world to be full of action and like to explore novelty. Unlike girls who pay more attention to people, so in comparison, girls are; The mind is more delicate. She will attach great importance to her parents' opinions and feel inferior easily, so she should be encouraged and protected in this respect. More sports girls also need healthy bodies, and seemingly rough and high-intensity games are also a good way for girls to keep fit, so don't overprotect these flowery gestures. Climbing, running and jumping are all good ways to improve coordination. Of course, safety comes first in the game. If a girl wants to "fly" down five steps, don't say "no" to her, you can tell her "it looks a little high. Let's start with two steps. You are the best, you can do it! " Make her feel that you have confidence in her ability! In addition to the points that need attention, it is also important to plan the development of girls' talents. At what stages should parents develop girls' talents? Bian Xiao has the following suggestions: Before 1.5 years old, we often hear people say, "If you don't educate your children before 5 years old, it's useless to educate them later." "Teach her what she should learn before she is five years old, or she will fall behind other children when she grows up." Although these words may not be correct, the importance of educating girls before the age of five is much greater than we realize. Before the age of 5, it is the most critical period for girls' brain development, and it is also the fastest period for their brain development. After the age of 5, their brain development will slow down. Therefore, in this period, parents should not only teach girls the skills they should learn, such as speaking and controlling emotions, but also protect her brain. For example, always instill some goodwill in her and keep her away from those dangerous and harmful information. In addition, before the age of 5, the girl's language talent has been well displayed. Therefore, in this period, parents should not only teach girls to speak, but also guide them to give full play to her talents. For example, encourage her to recite poems; Telling her stories and then encouraging her to repeat them can greatly improve the girl's language expression ability on the basis of her language talent. About 2.8 years old, focusing on cultivating girls' memory. At the age of 8, the hippocampus toe, the part of the girl's brain responsible for memory, began to become active. During this period, girls' hippocampal toes are bigger than boys', and more importantly, the number of neurons and nerve transmission speed of their hippocampal toes are also higher than boys'. So at this time, compared with boys of the same age, girls show great memory advantages. Someone once did an experiment: let a group of 8-year-old boys and a group of 8-year-old girls do the same three things-tidy the room, take out the garbage and clean the table. The little boy is often reminded by his parents many times before he can finish these three things. Little girls often don't need their parents to remind them to do these three things well. This is mainly because girls have better memories of hippocampus toes. Therefore, parents can guide girls to develop their memory talent according to this characteristic of girls at this stage. For example, encourage her to recite ancient poems, play some games related to memory, and maximize the development of girls' memory ability. 3. 10 ~ 12 years old, developing girls' artistic talent 10 ~ 12 years old, is the rapid development period of the frontal lobe, which controls girls' thinking, imagination and language creation ability. This will be an absolutely critical period in a girl's life. When girls 12 years old, there will be more nerve transmission in the frequently used brain regions, but not in the infrequently used brain regions. In those unused brain areas, the brain will automatically "subtract"-remove redundant neural connections. That is to say, the relationship, affection, sports, art, music activities and theoretical knowledge experienced by a little girl between the ages of 10 and 12 are likely to be "maintained" or at least "reproduced" in her later life. What they have not experienced at this stage will be difficult to do well in the future. If your girl learned to play the piano before 12 years old, although she didn't become a great pianist, she can at least keep her sense of music in her later life; If your girl has read many books before 12 years old, then she may like reading all her life; If your girl lives in a stable relationship before 12 years old, then she will feel safe in her later life. Maybe some parents will ask: If her daughter didn't learn painting at or before the age of 10 ~ 12, but she suddenly wants to learn at the age of 16, then she must not learn well? Although the answer to this question is not affirmative, we can give the answer that it will be difficult for girls to learn to draw when they are 16 years old. In this regard, an experienced dance teacher said: "10 children who have never been exposed to dance, 12 it is very difficult to learn dance in the future." Therefore, parents who want to develop girls' artistic talents must not miss the time when girls are 10 ~ 12 years old and before. Eight Practical Skills for Raising Girls At the end of the article, I present eight practical skills for cultivating new and good girls. Let's try! 1. Under the principle of fairness and justice, let the husband take part in the work of taking care of his daughter and take her daughter to see her father's heroic posture on the football field. Dad's rudeness and strength will set a good example for his daughter. If you take your daughter to the playground, you should pay attention to what kind of toys she likes. If there isn't one at home, you should consider buying one to satisfy her new interest. If your daughter doesn't like sports games, it may be because she is timid. Don't force her, or you can hold her hand and try again when she feels safe. If your daughter likes it, take time to play girls' games with her. For example, braid her hair, and if you are at ease, you can ask her to do your styling. 5. Encourage daughters to make different playmates, whether of the same sex or the opposite sex, and get in touch with children with different personalities, which will greatly promote children's social skills. 6. If your daughter is interested in some masculine games such as playing football and guns, you should also encourage her to do them. Girls with personality are attractive! 7. It is easy for girls to feel inferior, so it is necessary to constantly encourage their daughters to tap their self-confidence, and praise her no matter how small her grades are. If she has a problem, don't help at once. Let her try first, make her realize that she can succeed and improve her self-confidence. 8. It is not only the gentle and lovely girl next door who can be called a girl. Modern girls don't need four virtues to obey, and they don't show their teeth when they smile. She should have the characteristics of personality, stubbornness and competitiveness, even as naughty and strong as a boy.