I'm back!
I have been away for a month. Are you okay?
Although living in hot water and anxiety, the whole person's state is still relatively OK.
After a month's time, my mentality in all aspects has gradually adjusted.
This month, although it has been very difficult, it has also grown and realized.
Even if life is a chicken feather and full of hope, it will be invincible.
Therefore, no matter how unbearable the present life is, it will always pass.
In the days to come, don't think too much, work hard, live well and make money.
In these difficult days, I can persist and adjust myself quickly, thanks to the power of words, which cured me. Share it with you here, hoping to inspire you.
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If life deceives you,
Don't be sad, don't be impatient!
You need to keep calm in blue days;
Believe it, happy days will come.
My heart always looks forward to the future.
It's often melancholy to leave now,
Everything is instantaneous, and everything will pass;
The past will become a kind of nostalgia.
-Pushkin "If Life Deceives You"
Twenty days later, I still remember the anxiety, shortness of breath, rapid heartbeat and weakness on the plane, and I couldn't calm myself down. I have read this poem over and over again. I have never recited such a simple content for more than two hours from boarding to landing.
It doesn't matter if you can't recite it. Read it over and over again, and use it to soothe your heart.
Tell yourself over and over again, be sure to be calm, be sure to hold on and not fall down.
Tell yourself over and over again that everything is instantaneous and everything will pass.
Yes, everything will pass. Looking back now, it's all over.
Our pain is not caused by the problems themselves, but by our views on these problems.
People's life is bound to stumble, get angry when they are unhappy, or encounter natural and man-made disasters and so on.
Whenever this happens, learn to jump out and look at yourself and believe that everything will pass.
The bitterness, tiredness, happiness and comfort of life often depend on one's mentality, one's attitude towards life and one's feelings about things.
When the pain strikes, you might as well jump out and look at yourself from another angle, face this troubled life bravely, find the reasons, lessons and methods to overcome the pain in the sad and barren land, and let the soul make a brave choice in the thorny mind and find the maturity of life.
When I read this passage, I began to reflect on the cause of my pain, whether it was caused by my views on this issue. Indeed, when I heard and saw that word, people were very scared.
What scares me is not the thing itself, but my fear of it.
Next, I will slowly adjust my mentality from the beginning, no longer look at the problem negatively, but see the positive side behind this matter, find some lucky points, and make myself more positive and optimistic.
Life can't be as good as you think, but it can't be as bad as you think.
-Mo Bosang's life.
Yes, it's not good, but it's not as bad as I thought. Does this spirit of Ah Q also give me great energy?
Life is so unpredictable. There is no eternal pain and happiness. Life is like running water, sometimes so flat and sometimes so tortuous.
-Lu Yao's Ordinary World
These days, I really realized the hardship, bitterness and unhappiness of life.
These days, it's really a blur, love life. Fortunately, I have always had a belief in my heart that as long as I persist and persist, all the difficulties in front of me will pass.
As Shelley said: If winter comes, can spring be far behind?
I silently told myself that no matter how bad my fate is and how unhappy my life is, I just need to keep my heart and make my heart stable and peaceful, so that I won't be kidnapped by life and knocked down by hardships. I believe everything will be fine.
5. In the most difficult time, don't always think too far about the future, just encourage yourself to get through today. There are too many surprises in this world, and some things simply don't deserve to occupy your emotions.
-Biography of Jiang Yang
In those days, I always thought too much unconsciously, thinking about what to do in the future. Never pay attention to the present. When I think about the next day, I'm afraid, I'm afraid.
After reading this passage, I told myself to stop those unrealistic ideas at once, pay attention to the present and get through tomorrow.
Indeed, as the day passed, everything was getting better.
6. No one's life will be perfect forever, but at any time, we should look forward and be invincible with hope.
-"Run wild"
I set this passage as a mobile phone screen saver. This passage has helped me a lot and strengthened my belief that everything will pass and everything will be fine.
I remember that I was alone outside the operating room, waiting for the result, taking all the consequences, signing all the words, and every second passed like a year. Every second of waiting is a kind of suffering and torture.
I was in a panic. I waited until 4 pm. I looked at this sentence repeatedly, cheering myself up, giving myself strength and giving myself hope. Yes, full of hope will be invincible.
In this way, I spent a particularly difficult day for me with a paragraph.
7. How to spend the low period of life?
Bi Shumin said:
When it's clean, have a good sleep and exercise. You need to be healthy at all times.
Chatting with intimate friends, basically not complaining, mainly remembering happy times.
Read more books, read some biographies and increase your knowledge. By the way, see how others survive when they are unlucky.
Take the opportunity to do housework and finish all the busy work at ordinary times.
During that time, because I didn't bring my computer and didn't update the official WeChat account, I still chose to update a micro-headline every day, and several of them have been watching it. Although I haven't finished reading it, those books have also given me great help and energy.
8. In fact, there is no such thing as empathy in the world. People don't know how painful it is to prick themselves with a needle.
Moved by this sentence.
Yes, life has been miserable recently.
In Beijing, I made an appointment with my college friends. I want to make a complaint. Seeing this sentence, I finally decided to digest it myself.
You are bad enough, don't give others any more trouble.
Besides, everyone has their own life, happiness or pain, which seems similar, but in fact they are fundamentally different.
Just like this sentence: "There is no such thing as empathy".
Moreover, sometimes, not being able to talk loudly will only make people more depressed.
As Bi Shumin said in his last article, chatting with intimate friends is basically not complaining, but mainly remembering happy times.
So some things can only be done with grit your teeth, and then you will be very tired. Some words can only rot in the stomach. You know, if you talk too much, you lose.
Don't expect others to feel the same way, and don't burden others.
Everyone is an independent individual, and the physical and mental perception brought about by everything we have experienced is only known to ourselves.
Just like this sentence, "you can't give someone a needle, others don't know how painful it is." There is a world of difference between seeing pain and real skin pain.
Of course, I also want to thank others for their empathy. More importantly, we should learn to pay attention to our inner feelings, learn to face life bravely and accept good and bad things instead of complaining often.
The so-called growth means that you still like what you like, but you don't have it. You're scared or scared, but you can face it.
Time and silence are the best medicine to cure all wounds. It is better to use time to dilute the grievances and tears in your stomach and forget them with silence.
Don't complain about life, don't bother actively, and learn to swallow it yourself.
That day, those hours, even though we haven't seen each other for many years, we got along very well and were very happy.
9. Even if you live a chicken feather, you still have to triumph.
No one's life is smooth sailing, no matter what the situation, as long as there is hope, the world will not despair.
You must be strong, no one knows what kind of life you have experienced.
You must be strong, no one knows the pain behind your smile.
You must be strong, no one knows you want to cry, but you find there are no tears.
If you are not strong, who will be brave for you?
This is 2 1 day after leaving home, and when I get home, the whole person will collapse.
The house is too dirty to go down. It's a mess. The child was lying in bed with a high fever, and no one asked.
When I got home, I dragged my tired body and took my children to the hospital alone until two or three in the morning.
The next day, I got up at six in the morning to send my children to school.
Yes, you are not strong, who will be brave for you?
You have to rely on yourself in everything.
These nine sentences have given me enough strength, courage and faith to get through the most difficult time these days.
Although it is chicken soup, I think it is really good to drink it properly sometimes, especially when the internal energy is insufficient. There is nothing wrong with reading some inspirational books and drinking chicken soup.
It's good to make your state better through these words.
My pride won't allow me to tell others about this broken day.
I am the only one who knows, and overnight, my heart has completely changed.
Now I am not happy, nor unhappy, but helpless and let nature take its course.
I can't tell you how sad I am, but I'm not happy anyway.
This passage is the truest portrayal of my heart at the moment.
Still, I keep telling myself:
Don't think too much, live your own life, maybe you will have the answer when you are alive, and you will have a gentle landing when you walk hard.
Spring is here, flowers are blooming in the branches, and all the beautiful things will be on the way. Try to live your life well, occasionally panic and occasionally go smoothly, all with their own tastes.
With sincerity, work hard, live well, and don't worry about your own affairs.
Don't let the broken bones exhaust your longing for a better life.
Whose life is not a chicken feather, but some people choose hysteria, some people choose silence, take your time, and the fun is all in fireworks.
So come on!
Try to make money!
I believe everything will get better and better.