The origin of kissing
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Kissing is an ancient and popular way of showing love and a sweet enjoyment. Different nationalities in the world are willing to accept it. Kissing can give people a kind of beauty of love, and lovers can really appreciate the sweet taste of love only when they start kissing. Modern psychology tells people that 93% of women expect their lovers to kiss her, and men also like to kiss their beloved women. It can be seen that kissing is the same need and desire between men and women.
So, how did kissing come about? There are roughly the following statements.
Instinct Theory Professor vogel Harlem, Ph.D. in Swiss Psychology and a researcher at the Institute of Anatomy, believes that human beings have all survival instincts higher than other animals, mammals can react without learning, and so do humans. Such as sucking behavior in infancy. Dan Kalinski of the United States found that birds also have the instinct to hunt with their mouths. In primitive times, people didn't need bowls, chopsticks and other tableware. Mothers feed chewed food into their babies' mouths by mouth-to-mouth. In this process, it is necessary to cooperate with the pressure of the tongue and the movement of the mouth, which is very similar to the feeding method used by birds. This instinctive maternal love evolution is the origin of kissing. According to this view, kissing can be explained as follows: because people have an instinctive genetic "code", perhaps because they suck the "memory" of practice in infancy, they have a self-taught understanding of kissing. Desmond Miles explained this phenomenon: this kind of feeding seems unsanitary today, but as an instinct to feed babies, human beings have maintained it for millions of years. This primitive instinct kissing is obviously the origin of modern human kissing.
The so-called heritage refers to the customs left over from the previous generation. The sucking mode and mouth-to-mouth feeding mode involved in the "instinctive theory" of kissing have been used as an inheritance habit in the process of human reproduction. Many western experts and scholars who study human behavior generally believe that "the gesture of human heritage" is the origin of modern human kissing. Desmond Miles believes that the baby's sucking action is the most important gesture in human heritage, and the longing for kissing is actually "returning to the mother's arms".
First of all, the comfort of breastfeeding will leave a lasting impression on our minds. Mother let the baby suck the nipple intimately, so that there is a warm and soft thing in the baby's mouth, from which a sweet and warm liquid can be sucked out, so that the baby's tongue can taste the sweetness, thus adding a basic comfort to his life-a primitive intimacy.
In the later adult life, people will be eager to restore this intimate relationship. The original sucking behavior will appear in various disguised forms or angles, and extend a lot of verbal comfort actions, the most typical of which is kissing.
In fact, for couples who are addicted to lingering friendship, the baby-like behavior pattern has not disappeared, but has degenerated into the mouth comfort and wonderful feeling obtained when sucking their mother's breasts. It can be seen that this "recovery" performance of human intimate physical contact behavior shows that sucking posture is the origin of kissing. The origin of this kiss is the most acceptable to those who have experienced this feeling of "reply" on the spot.
Humans still use some ancient custom gestures today, which helps us to explore the mystery of the origin of kissing and clarify and confirm the practical value of these gestures.
According to legend, ancient Italians invented wine, but rarely. Women are forbidden to drink alcohol except the male host. If a woman violates the ban, her husband will be severely punished together. Therefore, men at that time were always on tenterhooks when they went out, fearing that banning drinking at home would kill their wives. So the first thing to do when you go out is to lean down and put your nose to your wife's mouth to smell if there is any lingering fragrance of stealing. Over time, this lip-smelling behavior developed into kissing.
Another legend is that when ancient men went out hunting, they instinctively feared that their wives would be taken away by others and would drink and have fun together. So, as soon as the man got home, he put his tongue into the woman's mouth to explore whether there was alcohol or other suspicious smells. Similarly, in order to ensure innocence, a woman will automatically open her mouth when her husband comes in to let him smell it. In some countries in Europe and America, families have a ceremony in which couples kiss each other when they go out and come back, which shows that this primitive custom has been passed down to this day and is enduring for a long time.
Body Differentiation Theory In Plato's dialogue, Plato tells his love philosophy through the dictation of drinkers. It also includes the philosophy of the origin of the kiss. Aristophanes, one of the drinkers, agrees with the theory of body differentiation, that is, love arises between divided bodies. Love is trying to reunite separated and unified entities. According to myths and legends, once upon a time, human beings were a special kind of animals, with four hands and four legs, two faces and four ears, all of which were extremely powerful and intelligent. Once, Zeus, the main god of Olympus, discovered these hermaphrodites with delicate and wild images, fearing that their power would become stronger and stronger, which would one day threaten the safety of the gods in the sky. Therefore, Zeus decided to divide people into two halves. "Every half is eager to be reunited with their other half." They "hug each other, kiss each other and are eager to grow up together again."
Consciousness theory Many physiologists believe that the mouth is the door of life and the lips are the door leaves. Even if a person is blind and deaf and has a bad nose, as long as he keeps his mouth shut, he can not only breathe, but also eat to make a living. So touching others with your lips is a direct expression of love and respect.
Some scholars believe that kissing originated from ancient sadomasochism and cannibalism, and can also be classified as "consciousness theory". According to this theory, modern kissing is very close to cannibalism, but it has become more elegant. However, it has also been verified that kissing originated from the habit of early human survival consciousness. According to Dan Kalinski, an American scholar, Neanderthals licked their friends' cheeks because of lack of salt, and then gradually evolved into kissing.
Ownership says that Eskimos will lick their belongings first and use this "kiss" as a spell to repel other people's hands. The reason for licking is that everyone's saliva has a unique smell, and the uncivilized sense of smell is extremely developed. Therefore, after moving your own smell to the other person, others will know who the "famous flower" is as soon as they smell it.
Medically speaking, people in uncivilized times believed that diseases, especially insanity, were caused by evil spirits entering the body. So Eskimos, Indians, Paraguayans and indigenous people in Brazil, Australia and South Africa still kiss patients today, trying to suck out evil spirits. This custom later evolved into a manifestation of mutual care, greetings and friendship.
Some people think that kissing is related to the old habit of rubbing noses against each other. Wilder, a Dutch obstetrician and gynecologist, mentioned in his book Complete Marriage written in 1726: "Japanese, China and Vietnamese don't kiss. They don't use their mouths, but they often touch each other with their noses. " Figuerre Harlem said when analyzing love: "Besides the above, Mongols, Eskimos and even Burmese also have the custom of wiping their noses." The so-called "sniffing" means that this custom is consistent with the mutual sniffing of some animals. For example, in some tribes in Tibet, men and women say "smell me" instead of "kiss me". Therefore, many experts believe that there are three sensory organs involved in kissing: touch, taste and smell. But for white people, touch plays the most important role. Compared with white people, yellow people have a stronger sense of smell. Therefore, in the East and the West, in different races, nationalities, countries and regions, the origin of kissing may be divided into two categories: tactile type and olfactory type.
In fact, China people had the custom of kissing as early as when Europeans ate their hair and smelled wine. The kissing pictures of men and women found by China cultural relics workers in the Han Tomb of Longwang Temple in Juxian County can prove this point. Nowadays, people in many countries think that kissing is a fashion to imitate foreigners, but they don't know that it is a custom that their ancestors have long had.
It can be seen that there are many theories and statements about kissing, which generally involve human sensory organs, psychological needs, physiological reactions and consciousness, sexual needs and so on. The appearance of kissing is a characteristic of a highly evolved society, a means of expressing various contents and a way of emotional communication, a representative of the budding of sexual civilization and the enrichment of human sexual instinct-kissing itself helps to promote sexual passion. Usually, men and women can enhance emotional communication and integration by kissing. Nicoulaud Song, an animal behaviorist at new york State University, recently put forward the latest viewpoint about kissing: the fundamental purpose of kissing is to deliver addictive substances such as anesthetics, and to pursue a natural combination with each other in chemical form. The so-called "love" is actually an infatuation with chemicals, especially the sebum of the other person. This is probably the latest explanation about people's enthusiasm for kissing!