Crosstalk "Special Diseases" said:
There is no denying that there are always people around us: once they see that others are better than themselves, they will be mean, talk behind their backs, slander others and hope that others will suffer.
The so-called jealousy is strong, but the vision is small. It is these people who are talking about. They often don't realize their own shortcomings, but blame others for their misfortunes.
Psychologists have done an experiment:
Put the lobster in the basket. If there is only one in it, it will easily climb out. However, once a few more are installed, no one can only climb out.
The reason is very simple, because as long as one lobster climbs to the basket mouth, other lobsters will grab it with pliers and pull it down, and another lobster will step on it to climb up.
In this cycle, no lobster can succeed.
The conclusion of this experiment is the famous "lobster effect". Today is often used to satirize those who are incompetent but can't see the good in others.
In our life, there are actually many people who can't hide the goodness of others:
Some people are jealous that other people's business is better than their own, so they often have malicious false alarms;
Some people tamper with their classmates' college entrance examination wishes just because they are jealous that others do better than themselves;
Some people often give their colleagues small shoes to wear, just because they are better than themselves.
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You see, people who can't hide from others are everywhere. However, these people exist because they are incompetent. The more incompetent they are, the less they can be kind to others.
People who have no skills will not reflect on themselves, let alone understand others, but will satisfy themselves by slandering others.
The biggest ignorance of human nature is that you don't know how to make progress and appreciate others. Such people often end up hurting others and themselves.
In real life, there are always too many people who like to tell others what to do behind their backs, but whenever people's lives have a little trouble, they make wild comments and make malicious speculations.
I told a story about her. She was promoted before and held a party to thank the people in the company.
It was originally a happy party, but the comments of several colleagues were so sour that people didn't want to hear them:
"My ability is poor. If I were allowed to experience it, I would be much better than her. "
"Too green tea. There must be something fishy. "
"Without us, what is she?"
What they can ignore is that L's promotion is entirely due to his own ability.
In this world, there are always some people who like to maliciously slander others to highlight their sense of superiority.
Before Zhu Zhiwen became famous, he was an out-and-out farmer and his neighbors looked down on him.
But after he became famous, those people secretly photographed the life of the eldest brother family like sticky worms, posted them on the Internet and sold them to others for profit.
Even so, Brother Tai didn't blame those people, but told the news media the truth, while those people slandered him behind his back. After he became popular, he forgot his roots and looked down on rural people.
Therefore, Big Brother suffered many inexplicable insults from unreasonable netizens.
This is human nature. You are happy and he is jealous of you. If you have money, he is bad; He is very happy when you are in trouble. ...
People who have no skills will be jealous when they see the Excellence of others, but it is difficult to see their own problems.
Once upon a time, people in a village often praised a wise man.
A man was very jealous when he heard this, so he waded across mountains to find this wise man.
Half a year later, he met a wise man, but the wise man was plain and lived in a humble place.
He disdainfully said to the wise man, "People say you are a saint, but I think it's better to be a mouse."
The wise man just glanced at him and continued to read the book in his hand, ignoring him.
After the man left, the student asked the wise man, "Why don't you get angry when others insult you?"
The wise man smiled and said to him, "A wise man knows how to bow to stupidity, or he will throw stones at you."
People who are bad to others and often speak ill of others behind their backs can be said to be villains.
Little people have only themselves in the world. How can they care about your feelings? The angrier you are, the happier they are.
When you meet such people, don't argue with them about right or wrong, because it's unnecessary.
Your time is limited, don't waste it on irrelevant people.
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