How should children dye their hair? For many parents, dyeing their children's hair is a controversial matter, because parents think that dyeing their children's hair too early will have an impact on their physical and mental health. So what about children dyeing their hair? Let's take a look!
How do children dye their hair? 1 viewpoint 1:
For many modern people, they pay more attention to their hair care and maintenance. Many times, people will choose to change their hair color to adjust their external image, and some even choose to dye their hair in childhood.
There is a controversial issue here. Do good boys let down their hair? How should adults treat good children's hair dyeing?
First of all, we should know that dyeing hair is generally in adolescence, when children are in a more complicated psychological stage. He may have some rebellious thoughts, which will not come selectively because of the child's quality.
In other words, good children may dye their hair, and their dyeing will not change the fact that they are good children, nor will it make good children become bad children. Good children dye their hair just because of curiosity or short-term rebellion.
Of course, many adults don't think so about the views mentioned above. When many parents see their children dye their hair, they will think that their children are poor in school, even if their academic performance is still excellent, or how good their previous performance is.
I think this idea is completely unnecessary and incorrect. Recently, dyeing hair can't sum up the whole of a child, and the quality of the child will not change.
Parents should pay more attention to their children's life and psychological changes, and help them get through this period smoothly, instead of showing excessive suspicion and contempt, which will really lead their children to deterioration.
Viewpoint 2:
Hair dyeing is the embodiment of personality and the pursuit of beauty, regardless of nature. The behavior of treating hair dyeing should be correct guidance and respect.
For adult children, with their own thoughts and behaviors, they began to pay attention to their own clothes, began to pursue independence and individuality, and began to have the idea of dyeing their hair. At this time, we should correctly guide the psychology of wanting to dye hair and inform the pros and cons of hair dyeing behavior.
Views on children's hair dyeing behavior
1, embodiment of independent personality: dyeing hair is also one of the manifestations of pursuing independent personality, which can develop children's spontaneity;
2, self-confidence: dyeing the hair can let children find their own personality, find their own uniqueness, know themselves more clearly, and thus be more confident;
3, have opinions: dyeing hair is a matter of your own decision. Your decision to dye your hair shows that your child has his own opinions, has his own ideas about his own affairs and dares to express them. This should be respected.
Viewpoint 3:
Dye your hair and divide your children into bad children? Dyeing hair is very common now. The purpose of dyeing hair is to better highlight our hairstyle, improve skin color and what color to dye.
Mainly according to the needs of your skin color and hairstyle, your skin color is rather dull, so you can dye some warm colors to help improve your skin color. Those who like fashion and avant-garde can dye the tone, which is cool.
How do children dye their hair? A few days ago, when we were offline, a parent saw my pink hair. ...
Yes, you are right. Although I am nearly forty years old, I can't stop the "girl's heart" from dyeing bright pink hair.
She asked me why I was so "fashionable" (although I saw her eyes behind the words were incredible), and I said I had no choice but to dye them with my daughter.
My daughter is 13 years old this year, which is the age when she began to love beauty and longed for "maverick".
Just after the summer vacation, she asked me, Mom, can I dye my hair pink?
You have no idea how flustered I am. ...
After all, when we were in school, the little girls who dyed and permed their hair at school were typical representatives of "little sisters".
But experience tells me that this kind of thing can't be fought hard with children, but should be followed by her.
I asked her, why did you dye your hair?
She said that she saw many girls dye it, which was very beautiful, and she also wanted to try it.
I asked her, have you considered what to do if the school teacher doesn't allow it?
She said, mom, I've made up my mind. I just want to try something new that I haven't tried before. I'll dye it back or cut off the dyed part when school starts.
As soon as I heard that the child had a plan, I was relieved by half.
Then we discussed that we should pay money from her small vault to dye our hair, and at the same time, we should ensure the safety of dyeing our hair, which should be less irritating and go back to black three days before school starts.
On the day of dyeing my hair, my daughter took me to the barber shop to let me supervise her, but at the same time, I also avoided overselling in the barber shop.
Look at the communication process between my daughter and the barber, what kind of length, what kind of radian, how to design bangs, what kind of color ratio, and where to dye them. ...
Suddenly I felt the feeling that a fashionable young sister of mine took me to see the world.
She said, mom, you're here. Let me ask you to wash your hair.
As soon as I washed my hair and sat in the chair to dry it, she told me, Mom, I remember you told me that you had never tried such bright colors, otherwise you could try them with me. If it looks bad or unacceptable, we can dye it back together.
So, there is an opening.
The child has been dyed black since the beginning of school, and I still have gorgeous pink hair.
When we came out of the barber shop that day, I watched my daughter happily doing my "popular science" hairstyle, how the color effect was, the difference in gloss between the sun and the room, and what clothes and styles to match. ...
For a moment, I felt that we were no longer mother and daughter, but more like best friends.
I was told that this was wrong. Parents should be like parents and children should be like children.
But what should parents look like? What should a child look like?
In my opinion, the appearance of children is not only the appearance of studying hard, gradually understanding the truth and learning to take responsibility, but also the appearance of growing up happily and facing bravely.
Wu Zhihong said in Why Are You Always Injured that everyone's nature is to be himself, that is, to live according to his own wishes.
Today's children have better material conditions and receive more attention than us.
They have the obligation to work hard for the future and have the right to release their nature and live the life they want.
My respect for children's hair dyeing is actually only to satisfy her curiosity of exploring and pursuing beautiful things independently.
Of course, when she dyed her black hair back as scheduled after a summer vacation, the happiness and sense of accomplishment she gained from self-management was her courage to face her new life calmly.
"Girl, you can be naughty, but you can't be bad."
Judging from her appearance and all kinds of news about her, Leah Dou fits the image of a "bad" child very well.
Shaggy hair, striking hair color, smoking, puppy love, dropping out of school, let the people who eat melons look forward to it, it was Faye Wong and Dou Wei's daughter.
Later, Leah Dou got a tattoo, from the chin to the collarbone, which was even more "deviant".
(Actually, it's for my sister Li Yan. I want to encourage children who feel inferior because of cleft lip and palate to face the world calmly. )
After watching several of her live broadcast and interview programs, I found that this girl is actually much more mature and independent.
Leah Dou said: I have been a good boy since I was a child, and I have never rebelled. Rebellion for the sake of rebellion, in my opinion, is quite stupid.
Leah Dou has been in a state of being stocked almost since childhood, but stocking does not mean indulgence.
She 16 years old wanted to get a tattoo, and her parents said, just don't regret it. Compared with "casually" or "never tattoo", "as long as you don't regret it" can let her know clearly that life is your own choice and you are responsible for yourself.
As for appearance, she used to look like a lady with long hair, but later she felt that short hair was more comfortable and more comfortable.
You can't judge a book by its appearance, but its appearance can't prove its character.
The reporter who interviewed her also said:
In fact, sitting opposite Leah Dou, it's hard to connect her with the cool girl who seems to care nothing in the media reports.
As soon as she sat down, she asked the reporter thoughtfully if she wanted to move her position to make herself more comfortable.
When the assistant accidentally spilled water on the computer, she handed the paper towel in time.
After the interview, everyone dispersed, but she didn't forget to put the chairs at the next table back in place.
Faye Wong is writing Children for her: "If you can't learn well, you can be naughty."
Leah Dou seems to be rebellious in many things, but in fact, he has a direction in his heart, and he is the most comfortable self within the scope of being neither out of line nor bad.
In the first episode of "After School" variety show, the mother of Niu Zihan, a first-grade girl, was worried that her daughter always ate too much, so she bought a box of spaghetti and refused to give it to her daughter.
However, spaghetti is Zi Han's favorite. She ignored her mother's words and went straight to the kitchen, stealing one bite after another.
By the time mom found out, a box of noodles had been eaten by half.
Mother is worried that Zi Han will accumulate food, so it's a good idea not to let her eat too much.
But the more my mother refuses to eat, the more she can't control her mouth.
Why is this happening?
The more parents forbid their children to try something, the more curious they will be, and they may do it without their parents seeing it.
Blue Ocean, an education expert, said:
Parents need to provide their children with an opportunity to satisfy their curiosity, and it will be the safest choice for them to experience from their parents.
Parents do this, first, to satisfy their children's curiosity, second, their children have the space to choose, and third, their parents have the bottom line of supervision.
This is the real freedom and choice of children, and children are safe.
As long as children don't do things harmful to themselves and others, they should be given freedom of action and don't try to change their wishes.
The more parents object to what children do, even if it is really for their own good, children will do it secretly, and in the end it will only help.
Many times, parents may wish to give their children a certain choice, but it will make them less curious.
Explaining rebellious psychology from the psychological point of view means that the amount of stimulus acting on people's senses exceeds the limit that people's senses can bear, which makes their senses feel the opposite.
For children, the less parents let him do it, the more he wants to try; On the contrary, if his parents don't object to what he does, he may not want to do it.
Ji Bolun said in the poem Children that parents can protect their children's bodies, but they can't protect their souls, because their souls belong to tomorrow, which parents can never reach.
Parents should reduce their anxiety about their children's "growth problems", give them the right to show themselves without their parents, and let them finally form their own independent personality.
1. Parents should let go appropriately and respect their children's decisions.
At the beginning of this semester, my daughter's school will choose a spokesperson for the new semester.
It has always been a big problem for my daughter to speak in front of many people. Although the teacher recommended her, we didn't insist on it for fear of putting pressure on our daughter.
Although I am worried that my daughter can't practice this speech well, I don't want to discourage her. I can only accompany her to polish her speech and practice her manners and tone.
My daughter was so enthusiastic in those days that she pestered me to prepare a speech with her every day after finishing her homework. I only revised the manuscript five or six times, and practicing speaking every day has enabled me to recite the whole text. ...
Of course, in order to reach the "standard" of being a "good student", my daughter also dyed her black hair back.
Finally, after careful preparation and hard work, my daughter was successfully elected.
Looking at my daughter's graceful speech on the stage, I really felt the joy of "a girl in my family has grown up".
The healthy growth of children can not be separated from the care of parents, but the care of parents is not arbitrary.
Sometimes, children should learn to make their own decisions. Children's way, let them learn to walk.
2. Parents should make concessions in time and respect their children's growth.
Children are born to their parents, but they are not their personal belongings. They have their own unique ideas, and their future will have unlimited possibilities.
In the interview program, Venus asked Murphy, "What if your daughter talks about a boyfriend and you don't like him at all?" ?
"Murphy said:" less contact. "
Raising children is the process of parents and children drifting away from each other.
Parents should know how to quit their children's lives. Children grow up and the world is changing. Only when the child walks on the road will he feel what is best for him.
If parents could pay more attention to their children's advantages, respect their growth rules and not force them to plan their future, then their children would have won at the starting line.
In fact, when I was a student, I always added filters to something to make it wonderful.
Perm is personality, smoking and drinking is cool and handsome, tattoo fighting is society.
When this youthful hormone in the group dissipates, children will find a more real world.
Here, hair dyeing, perm, makeup and even plastic surgery are just normal means of beauty;
Smoking and drinking is because of stress, upset or pain, and I want to vent myself;
Tattoos are because I really want to remember them forever. Competition and winning or losing may be silent, but they are far more cruel than fighting.
In the process of children's growth, there is no freedom of action, or there is no place to vent their emotions. In the long run, children's curiosity and enthusiasm for exploring the world will be stifled, and children will lose self-confidence and lack self-affirmation.
Children are born as human beings and are free; Their freedom belongs to themselves.
No one else has the right to dispose of it except them.
Giving children the right to be independent as much as possible and making them feel free will double their happiness.