● "I married you just like eloping."
There is a tradition in China that when one of the spouses introduces his spouse after he becomes famous, he will often call him "the wife of a certain husband" or "the husband of a certain wife". When it comes to the poet Shu Ting and her husband, I just play the devil's advocate. To say Shu Ting, Chen Ye is his wife, or more directly, Chen is his wife Shu Ting.
Chen is a big man, with ordinary appearance, casual clothes, simple as ever, almost pedantic, and belongs to the inner show type. He teaches in a university and is a well-known poetry critic in the province. He was supposed to attend some provincial and national poetry seminars, but since he married Shu Ting, he was squeezed out by Shu Ting.
They live together on a street in Gulangyu, facing the window and the street, both in the literary circle.
When I first entered the Jianghu, friends in the literary circle of Lu Dao got together, and everyone was talking loudly, but nine times out of ten Chen was silent. Shu Ting secretly observed that if the opponent is intentional, it must belong to him. Every time they cross the ocean and go to town for a meeting as writers and critics, they often "stand at the bow and I stand at the stern."
Although they like each other, no one wants to confess first. 78 years later, Yue Lao couldn't see the past, and finally tied the big man and the big woman together with red silk thread.
One day in 198 1 year, Shu Ting returned from a long trip to the Three Gorges. Before she could shake off the dust, Chen stood in front of her like a stump. "Four eyes are opposite" need not be pointed out. Shu Ting said "OK", which was not hazy at all. The couple are 32 and 29 respectively (Shu Ting said she was 28).
On the wedding day, Chen got up at 5 o'clock and walked in the cold wind for 3 minutes to pick up the bride.
Shu Ting's wedding ceremony is to twist a hot towel and iron the hair that stands at attention 365 days a year after the groom's head. The father-in-law brought a bowl of four poached eggs to the hairy-footed son-in-law. Chen swallowed two according to the rules and left the rest to the bride. Shu Ting swept the eggs and soup in one breath, filled the empty bowl and whispered to her father, "Today I am still your Gong daughter, so I can't waste it."
In order to enjoy the pleasure of getting married, Mr. Gong prepared four small wooden boards (Kashima has no motor vehicles) to transport dowry, clothes, manuscripts, longan candied dates, needles and three cars. There are 20 pots of famous roses carefully cultivated by the elderly for many years in Raising the Home Front, which is full of poetry.
The motorcade wandered in a side street for 5 minutes, and the couple entered the bridal chamber. After many years of marriage, the couple went shopping and were caught by Shu Ting's two young sisters. They quietly pulled her aside for questioning: Are you friends? Le Shuting bent down like a prawn.
A few years later, Ting recalled that things in her life were so hasty, and she was always a little sorry. She scolded Chen: "I married you like eloping!" "
Chen retorted humorously: "Then when you elope in the future, shall I make a big scene again?"
● From Cinderella to Aunt Gray
It is said that Chen Zhongyi fell at Shu Ting's pomegranate skirt, and when she formally proposed, Shu Ting did not forget to hold him. There were three chapters in the contract: First, no housework; Two young couples live alone; Freedom to make friends. Chen didn't say a word "no". Probably not.
But overnight, after Gong Shuting became Chen Gong's family, the "three chapters of the contract" was completely empty. "Don't do housework", Shu Ting dreams of being a wild crane in the clouds and devoting herself to writing poems. Unexpectedly, after marriage, she became a "writer" and upgraded to a "housewife". Seven days a week should be given to elderly in-laws, sick fathers, husbands who are not good at housework and naughty sons. Only about one-seventh of my time. After sending her son to school, she began to get up at 6 o'clock every day, make breakfast for the "little emperor" and tidy up her schoolbag; I have to sweep the floor and clean the table when the washing machine is running. What to buy in the market in the morning, what soup to cook at noon and what to cook at night still need to be considered. When friends and readers visit, they should "watch the clock and talk" (for fear of missing cooking). Originally, the correspondence with Wenyou was 1000 words, but now I need to contact by phone. To her embarrassment, the phone often comes at a bad time (cooking). She had to put down the spoon, turn off the gas, pick up the receiver and say, "excuse me, what's the matter?" There is smoke in the pot. " Busy as a top, running around.
When signing a contract, "not doing it" has long been reformed into "all-inclusive". The so-called "young couple live alone" is a joke. With strong traditional virtues, how can she bear to let her elderly in-laws not enjoy family happiness? As for "freedom of making friends", it is even more impossible. Even the cough is under the eyes of the whole family, not to mention the "tail-dragging dog" (the son is a dog) who follows around 24 hours.
When I got married, the only big desk with new furniture was handed over to my husband after I was not used to it. I had to lie on a desk with a broken drawer in bsqyzs, and my feet were shaking. Today and tomorrow, she unconsciously lost the word "poet" in the daily necessities sauce vinegar tea. Occasionally I think of what I want to find by striking a match. Shu Ting said humorously, Oh, my God, I just realized that a box of matches at 50 cents has risen to 10 cents.
In the face of Chen's harassment, she can only admit.
Their tables were next to each other, and her husband piled up handouts, manuscripts and other things from time to time, occupying her table like a besieged city. Seeing this, Shu Ting unceremoniously deported him. Shu Ting likes to collect stamps with beautiful patterns and hide them in small boxes. Mr. Shu wants to send letters just for convenience, and sometimes he even steals and robs. In anger, Shu Ting fired at her husband: "It seems that you will eat me in your life." There is resentment in words, but more is pride. "We have never quarreled, because we know each other very well and we both love literature. We regard literature as a belief, so he supports my writing very much. "
At sunset and sunrise, Shu Ting changed from Cinderella to grey eldest sister-in-law, and from grey eldest sister-in-law to grey aunt. Shu Ting said: "I try to be a good daughter, wife, daughter-in-law and mother, so I have to treat myself badly."
"Marriage is a lottery", Shu Ting won the lottery.
When they were at loggerheads in 1978, the fish did not move and the shrimp did not jump. Chen is worried that Shu Ting can't be contacted. Shu Ting is because her poems and people are in the whirlpool and limelight of the time, afraid of involving Chen. There is a poem to prove it: "I stand up straight/…/Ideal makes pain shine/This is my last sentence entrusted to the olive tree/I leave it to you."
Bottom line: They are all afraid of hurting the people they love.
Shu Ting reacted strongly during pregnancy and vomited. It is said that reading thrillers can improve his condition. Chen went to the library to borrow books every day for more than ten days.
Shu Ting suffered from severe lumbar spondylosis due to overwork when she jumped the queue. The cane chair is broken and she is uncomfortable to sit up. Chen Xian reinforced it with wire, but Shu Ting still felt uncomfortable. Want to buy a new one, Chen went to all the shops on the island, but didn't buy it. At this time, a Japanese friend happened to visit, and accidentally learned about it, saying that Shu Ting would be given a pair of leather chairs, and Shu Ting immediately declined. In the evening, after returning home, Chen heard about it. For the sake of China people's ambition, he dared to cross the sea to Xiamen for a day the next day. Finally, he came back with two high-backed leather chairs and did not forget to report to his wife: "The price of each one is 2.5 yuan!"
Shu Ting is delicate and wears thick myopia glasses. In family affairs, she pretends to be the "master", and sometimes the "master" is hard to compliment: she often presses three wrong numbers for a seven-digit phone number. A phone call cannot be made unless it is repeated two or three times. Her concept of numbers is also very vague. Ten thousand and ten million are the same to her. Sometimes, Chen laughs at her lack of faith. Shu Ting retorted, "Literature used to be my religion, but now you and your son have become my religion. What do I believe in? "
Shu Ting has been writing poems for 20 years, with a total of more than 130. It can be seen that her rigorous creation is not won by quantity, and the heavy housework shackles also make her unable to concentrate on writing. Chen is a "person outside the home", and things outside the home are hard. Moreover, Chen has to go to school across the ocean, and all his studies are in the evening.
As for publishing houses, newspapers, manuscripts, pen clubs, books, etc. Chen is all-encompassing. People joked that he was his wife's life secretary. The Collected Works of Shu Ting is published by the publishing house, all of which are selected, copied, cut and pasted, revised and even proofread by Chen. Shu Ting is happy to be the shopkeeper of cutting. Shu Ting said: "Chen is a very responsible husband."
An ancient philosopher said: "Marriage is a lottery, men bet on freedom and women bet on happiness."
Shu Ting won the lottery. Their lives are still colorful. In his spare time, he plays football, bungee jumping and "the eagle catches the chicken" with his son. On sundays, a family of three will go shopping, have an outing, visit friends or go to the movies, and go to a restaurant every three to enjoy the delicious seasonal food and enjoy family happiness.
Chen is very considerate to her, but Shu Ting doesn't want to say more. She has turned the feeling of love into a poem: I must be a kapok beside you, standing with you in the image of a tree ... we share the cold wave, snow and thunder; We * * * enjoy the fog, enjoy the flowing haze and enjoy the rainbow, as if we were separated forever, but dependent on each other for life.
Chen never drinks, smokes or drinks. Besides books, Shu Ting only needs to pay the monthly fee of 3 yuan Ocean and a hair salon to send Chen away.
Home is a warm harbor. The boat of love is moored in this port, and Shu Ting can meet the waves of the moon and stars and dream of becoming a poem.
Shu Ting said: "The husband is a mouse, the son is a dog, and there are no cats in the zodiac. I live with a mouse and a puppy, hoping to get comfortable and barely enough. "
"Enough" is true, and "reluctant" is just that the poet hides wealth from the people and is honest.
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Shu Ting's Classic Love Poems
Go to the oak tree
If I love you-
Unlike climbing Campbell,
Show off yourself with your tall branches;
If I love you-
Never imitate spoony birds,
Repeat monotonous songs for the shade;
It is not just like a fountain,
Send cool comfort all year round;
It is not only a dangerous mountain peak,
Increase height and set off dignity.
Even during the day.
Even spring rain.
No, these are not enough!
I must be a kapok beside you,
Standing with you as the image of a tree.
Roots, close to the ground;
Leaves, touching in the clouds.
Every time a gust of wind blows,
We all greet each other,
But no one,
Understand what we said.
You have your copper branches and iron stems,
Like a knife, like a sword,
Like a halberd;
I have my red flowers,
Like a heavy sigh,
Like a heroic torch.
We share cold waves, storms and lightning;
We like mist, flowing mist and rainbow.
As if we were separated forever,
But they are lifelong dependent.
This is great love,
Loyalty is here:
Not only love your strong body,
I also love your stand and the land under your feet.