Life is like a speeding train. Opportunities and fate will allow many strangers to meet and get to know each other during the journey. At the stations along the way, we have to get off the train one after another and rush to our destinations. Therefore, there is the luck of "having only one confidant in life" and the regret of "all the banquets in the world".
When a person reaches middle age, there is no need to know everyone in the world. Just having these three confidants is enough to comfort him throughout his life.
If you encounter it, please cherish it.
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Someone who really understands you
Cao Gong said in "A Dream of Red Mansions": "Ten thousand taels of gold are easy to get, but it is hard to find a close friend. . ”
A close friend is hard to find, and you are lucky to meet one in this life.
Yu Boya, a famous musician in the Spring and Autumn Period, was extremely talented and loved music. At that time, many people praised him for his beautiful piano sound and superb piano skills, but Boya knew that no one really understood his piano sound.
Once, he took a boat to the mouth of Hanyang River. Because the wind and waves were too strong, he parked the boat under a hill. At night, when the wind and waves gradually subsided, the clouds opened and the moon rose, and the night became hazy, Boya's state of mind became very pure, so he took out the piano he carried with him and started playing.
But before the song ended, one of the strings broke. He stopped and looked around, and saw a handsome young man standing in the moonlight. The man smiled and explained that he was just a firewood collector. He heard the song while passing by. Just stand there and listen to the sound of the piano.
Bo Ya asked him if he could tell me about the piece he just played. Unexpectedly, this person actually knew the piece. Boya asked him to board the boat, put on the strings and played again. The man was able to interpret the emotions and thoughts expressed by Boya wherever he played.
Bo Ya was very happy and asked his name. He was Zhong Ziqi, whom we all later knew. The two talked about piano technique and music theory, and the more they talked, the more they became more and more congenial. They felt that it was too late to meet each other, so they became sworn brothers.
After Zhong Ziqi died of illness, Boya was very sad. He played a song "Mountains and Flowing Water" in front of Zhong Ziqi's grave. After finishing the song, he said to Zhong Ziqi's grave that he had no music anymore. There will be no one who can understand me anymore. I throw the piano down and leave, and I will never play the piano for anyone again.
The most important thing between people is to know each other, and only by knowing each other can they last long. A truly intimate friend brings you not just formal greetings, but heartfelt appreciation and continued support.
People who really understand you really want you to be happy. With such people, you will become more confident.
02
People who are willing to tell you the truth
As you go on in life, you will find that there are more and more people around you who dare to tell you the truth. The less.
After all, the truth is hard to hear, but good words are easy to say. Everyone is busy with their own lives. When it comes to other people's affairs, many times they express opinions in a way that saves trouble.
It is easier to offend people by telling the truth than by saying a few perfunctory words.
However, there is always someone who is willing to tell you the truth from the bottom of his heart, give you advice from time to time, and make you enlightened.
Cao Yu, a well-known dramatist, was trapped in fame, fortune and praise for a while, and gradually lost his original intention of creation, and his works became worse than before.
However, people around him still praised him full of praise, and he himself was very satisfied.
At this time, Huang Yongyu, a well-known painter who had always admired him, wrote him a letter, sternly pointing out his problem.
Huang Yongyu wrote in the letter:
In Huang Yongyu's heart, Cao Yu was the pinnacle of dramas of that era. He couldn't bear to watch a generation of famous actors sink, so he made this little drama. Hurtful decisions.
Fortunately, Cao Yu was not angry after receiving the letter. Instead, he seriously reflected on himself and wrote back to Huang Yongyu to express his gratitude.
Cao Yu also framed the letter written by Huang Yongyu to himself and hung it in the most conspicuous place at home to alert himself at all times.
Lies are easy to hear, and anyone can say words of praise and praise; truth is rare, and those who are willing to tell the truth to you are true friends.
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People with positive energy
The most beautiful thing in the world is to have a few friends with upright minds and hearts.
Around us, there are countless friends who seem to have a solid relationship, but disappear without a trace when you need help.
Fortunately, there are always some friends with positive energy who will accompany you when you are feeling down and encourage you when you want to give up.
Confucius said: "Living with good people is like entering a house of orchids and not smelling their fragrance for a long time, then you will be transformed by them; living with bad people is like entering a house of abalones and not smelling them for a long time." The odor will be transformed by it. ”
When you are with people with positive energy, your whole body will be immersed in the warmth of the sun.
When the world dissipates, what will remain is another you full of positive energy, growing up from confusion, one person influencing another person, one generation influencing another generation.
Just as Wang Guozhen wrote in the poem "It's so nice to know you":
Life is a long road, don't be afraid to walk alone.
One day, you will meet a few people who will exchange their most sincere souls with you and accompany each other forward.