On one occasion, the host Dani's "Zhou Yiwei's Way to Deal with the Cold War" got a hot search on the program, which made netizens question the steps.
At the same time, the program "Men do housework" began to attract attention.
The attraction of the program "Men Doing Housework" is not to spit on men, but to make men do housework the most fashionable thing in the eyes of 20 19 men.
The data given at the beginning of the program can't help but make people stunned: China ranks fourth from the bottom in the world in housework time. Women do housework for 2 hours and 6 minutes, and men do it for 45 minutes.
Seeing this, many men are afraid that they will condescend for less than 45 minutes.
Dani asked Li Dan when was the last time he did housework.
Li Sheng said, "Put that box of beer in the refrigerator bottle by bottle."
This "housework" made Dani nod reluctantly.
However, the housework arrangements of husband and wife are different. In the program, the lives of Zhang Xinyi and Justin are enviable, while Zhang Xinyi just hinted that this is just a standard husband.
Let the place be occupied and the barrage be unsettled. Someone said: "This husband is obviously a top match!"
After all, what kind of configuration is the husband?
1, low-key husband-relax yourself and let your wife do housework.
In the program, Wei's parents went to take it home. As soon as they entered the door, their father and son were lying on the sofa, so comfortable and carefree.
Only mother Wei went directly into the kitchen to wash rice and cook, and then packed her luggage. The busy figure was not seen by their father and son.
Ma Wei just said helplessly, "This is the case with traditional women in China."
Throughout the ages, it seems that only women who are willing to pay and bury themselves in housework without complaining deserve the good in men's eyes.
Seeing this, I can't help feeling sorry for so many virtuous wives in China.
The family saw such a disparity in exercises on the screen that both Daxun Wei and his son admitted that they felt a little guilty.
Zhang Xinyi said: "A man is used to being lazy."
Everyone is convinced.
During dinner, Wei's parents quarreled a few words. Wei's father was indefensible and went to wash the pots and dishes halfway. Wei's mother was very happy.
Everyone says that women are too easy to coax.
That's true.
However, although Wei's father mopped the floor to make amends, he dragged the floor water directly to the vegetable washing table, which made everyone in the place a little crazy.
Dani asked Ma Wei, "Do you feel wronged after doing housework for so many years?"
Ma Wei said: "Of course, it is time to be wronged."
Seeing this, I believe that almost all women who contract housework feel the same way.
Paying silently at home, taking on all the housework alone, working hard, in exchange for a sentence of "deserved it", everyone is particularly wronged.
However, I don't know when housework became exclusive to women and was equated with "a woman in charge".
My friend A Ping was the apple of her family when she was unmarried, but after she married Ali, she was inexplicably given the responsibility of "nanny".
But Ali is busy at work, and A Ping is doing all the housework at home. After doing it for a long time, Ali naturally said, "The man is in charge, the woman is in charge, and you do the housework."
It's not that A Ping doesn't want to do housework, but that she also has a job. Why can't she share housework with each other?
By the time they got home, Ali was already lying "Ge You". She was cooking, mopping the floor, cleaning the table, washing clothes and hanging clothes, and her whole body ached. ...
Ping is not happy. She is taking care of the home of two people. If she is tired, she will be angry.
A Ping often asks Ali for help, but Ali casually says, "I don't want to move. I'm so tired. I am very busy in the company. Let me have a rest. "
After such a rest, I have never done housework again.
Recently, two people quarreled about housework again. A Ping's husband is thriving outside, but he is unwilling to undertake any housework at home.
No matter how capable people are, they don't share housework, and they also lower the average value of good husbands.
There is a saying in the movie "Rouge Kou": "It's really hard to be a woman, and I don't know why I still can't do it well despite my efforts."
Because, in a woman's marriage, she met a man with a low match, who did all the housework alone, and all the charm of the past disappeared, leaving only the trivial discord and resentment of life.
2, the standard version of the husband-husband and wife do housework together.
As we all know, the famous director Ang Lee worked as a "home cook" for six years before becoming famous. After becoming famous, he still took the initiative to do housework with his wife.
Ang Lee's wife also bluntly said, "No matter how many golden statuettes you take, you are still the Ang Lee. Your family is not a set, and you have to do housework. "
The most standard men and couples are like this.
Home is for two people, and housework is for two people.
Everyone is born equal, and housework is never a low-level job, nor is it linked to position and money. What should be done? The responsibility should be shared by two people.
As the saying goes, "Men and women are not tired from work." It is precisely because life is not easy, life is very tired, and it needs two people to face it together, so that we can have fun in suffering, as if life is a little sweeter.
My best friend told me before that after she got married, she asked her husband, "Can you do all the housework in the future? Am I just a princess?"
Generally, a man with a sweet mouth will coquetry and agree, and the trend after that is a big change after marriage.
However, her husband unexpectedly said, "No, two people have to do housework together. If you are tired, do less and I will do more. "
I thought they were going to quarrel. Unexpectedly, my best friend is very quiet. After thinking for a while, she silently washed vegetables and cooked them for her husband. Unconsciously, they talked and laughed and joked with each other.
My best friend said, "It's like doing housework when we play together, which is much better than eating Weibo alone."
Richard Steele said: "For a gifted person, knowing how to treat others equally is the greatest and most upright quality."
In fact, both husband and wife can't regard each other as nannies who do housework, but should be equal partners.
Companionship, as the name implies, is: life, walking, housework, crying, laughing, the world of mortals.
Everyone wants to keep their fingers away from the water, and both of them are willing to touch it out of love, not orders.
It's best for two people to live well. Don't turn into a pool of stagnant water, but reap the joy of the Water-splashing Festival.
After the retirement of former US President George W. Bush, he also took on the days of taking out the garbage and mowing the grass.
In fact, each of us is an ordinary person, and we must always learn to be infected with some "tacky".
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "Love words are just lies that are cashed by chance."
People, instead of indulging in the uncertainty of love words, might as well honestly undertake trivial things together.
3, high version of the husband-know how to promote the relationship between husband and wife through housework.
Dan ariely, a famous economist, once did a marriage matching experiment.
In this experiment, there are 100 volunteers, 50 men and 50 women, and each person has a number from 1 to 100 to represent his own value.
Next, let this 100 people find a heterosexual pair by themselves. The greater the sum of two people, the higher the bonus.
The result can be imagined.
The higher a person's value, the more he will look for high-value people to match.
The same is true of marriage. Every high-profile husband has a considerate high-profile wife, thus running a high-profile marriage. Therefore, it is not enough to have a high-profile wedding list, it is more demanding.
From the perspective of housework, both husband and wife have the obligation to share housework equally. However, when the husband is too busy, the wife should be more considerate and help with some chores; At the same time, wives are prone to fatigue and discomfort during special periods such as menstruation, pregnancy and confinement, and husbands are willing to do some housework instead of doing what they can.
Everyone is lazy sometimes, but everyone has a hard time. Unwilling to let the other person do too much housework is a warm-hearted and high-profile partner behavior.
Justin was rated as a "standard husband" by Zhang Xinyi in "A Houseman", but the audience gave a very high evaluation of "Top Match".
Justin, get up early to make breakfast, skillfully fry eggs, take care of the baby, and then send it to express delivery, willing to listen to Zhang Xinyi's idea to wash things. After breakfast, Zhang Xinyi also took the children to the sofa belt, while Justin ate and watched the ball.
Yuan Hongbian helped her massage, while holding back enough strength to wipe something on her mouth. Someone's eyes and corners of the mouth are full of envy in the place.
However, not everyone can meet such a well-matched husband, but it is hard to meet.
Although not everyone of us is good at doing housework perfectly, the "fishy smell" in the kitchen, the water mopping the floor in the vegetable pond and the eggshell of poached eggs are all pleasing and sharing by love.
In the eyes of the other half who knows you, I still think you are the best in my heart.
Bai Yang once said: "For the continuation of love and the happiness of marriage, the wife must please her husband, and the husband must also please his wife. As for how to please, it is a profound art. "
I'm impressed.
Advanced art comes from the careful practice of high-end couples.
The British company Philips conducted a survey of 2,000 couples in Britain. They found that "110 people quarrel with their partners every day; 1/20 people quarrel with their partners several times a day. "
For reasons, the first problem is housework.
In China, many couples quarrel mostly because of trivial matters such as housework, which makes them fidgety.
Wives generally complain that husbands don't do housework. They get bored when they listen to it, and they don't like to be wordy. Everyone is getting more and more fierce and out of control.
There are two main reasons:
First, from ancient times to the present, the traditional thought that men are the masters and women are the masters.
In the Journal of Women's Studies, Zuo Jiping believes that "the reason why employed women still undertake more housework is that their income and professional status are still lower than their husbands, so they still have different degrees of economic dependence on their husbands. This dependence puts the wife at a disadvantage in the' negotiation' with her husband and has to undertake more housework after work. "
Second: lazy, always making excuses.
Makarenko, an educator in the former Soviet Union, said, "Laziness is the root of all evil."
Men are unwilling to do housework, often because they are lazy. Then find an excuse to say that you are tired and busy. However, how many excuses can women have to rest themselves?
Tu Lei said, "Men don't have much ambition. Some people just lead a dull life. But men are not diligent and have no ability to make money. They can take care of children, do housework and do more things for their families. Whether a man has the ability or not is not just about how much money you earn, but whether you have the heart to take on this responsibility! "
People always envy the love between Huang Lei and Sun Li. They have been married for 24 years and have three children. They looked at each other lovingly.
Their love words are not romantic, sunny or rainy, but she praises the delicious elbow. He said, "Go home and stew your elbow."
Huang Lei once described Sun Li like this: "At home, she can't cook, and she is not good at handicrafts. Although washing dishes is first-class ... I cook and she likes it ... "
Star couple is like a firework. One is willing to cook and the other is willing to wash the dishes. There is a clear division of labor, and there is only one thing in each other's hearts.
In fact, no matter what version of the husband, he is the most important partner in his life. At the same time, no matter what, whoever is willing to do a little more and pay a little more should sincerely thank TA for his contribution.
In short, there is nothing wrong with pursuing perfection, but no one is perfect, and standard couples are the most desirable.
The best state of husband and wife is actually to pay each other in balance, which will be stable for a long time.
From now on, we can gradually learn to share housework, so that the other party is not so tired, so that housework is no longer a reason for quarreling or even divorce.
Ye Yilan once said: "Happiness is always available."
The standard of happiness lies in people's hearts. If the standard you set is too high, it is really far away.
However, the happiness contained in ordinary housework is readily available.