Two Three Virtues
Article/Zhuxi Yunshan
"A gentleman is more virtuous than bamboo", which is a metaphor for his integrity; "A gentleman is more virtuous than jade" , is a metaphor for gentleness and cleanliness; a gentleman who has "two or three virtues" will start to mess up and end up abandoning them, and he will change his mind when he sees something different, which means he has no moral integrity.
The overall impression given to us by ordinary civilian women in ancient times has long been changed beyond recognition after being crushed by ethics and education, and they are full of bitterness and hatred.
There is a poem by Love: "The embroidered shoes tell half of the ambiguous life experience of the well, and the moss tells the other half."
The embroidered shoes beside the "well" always give people the chilling impression that the only way for ancient women to resist was to throw themselves into the well.
In a patriarchal society, the two roles of women are treated completely differently. "Mother is more valuable than her son." If a son has a future, the role of a mother is noble, and the status of a wife or concubine is generally If those who are humble and have no voice are "poor and lowly couples who have nothing to worry about", it will be even more dark.
Men are the makers of rules, but men exclude themselves from the binding force of the rules.
The poem "Going Up the Mountain to Collect Weeds" during the Han Dynasty brings the humbleness and kindness of this abandoned woman to the extreme:
"Going up the mountain to pick weeds, coming down the mountain to meet my old husband.
>I knelt down and asked my old husband, how will the new couple be like?
Although the new couple is nice, they are not the same as the old friends.
The colors are similar, but the hands and claws are different.
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A new person will not be as good as before.”
A woman working in the mountains met her ex-husband by chance when she came down the mountain. She knelt down and asked with concern, "How is your new wife?" The feeling has passed, and I am not afraid of embarrassment. I still feel that "the new person is not as good as the old one".
In this regard, our ancestors were actually very knowledgeable. There were many warnings in the Book of Songs as early as possible:
“It is possible to say that a man is lazy. A woman is lazy. It’s too late to say anything!” "A scholar is extremely ignorant, but only has two or three virtues."
It means: Most men are not good birds. They all have the problem of liking the new and hating the old. Women, don’t be too infatuated!
Bai Juyi's "Women's Suffering" explains the woman's difficulties more clearly and sadly:
"The cicada's hair is combed carefully, and the eyebrows are swept carefully.
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Once a woman loses her husband, she will remain alone for the rest of her life.
It is like a bamboo in the forest, which is suddenly blown by the wind.
Once broken, it will not be reborn, but it will wither and hold its knot.
If a man loses his wife, he will not survive. Feeling sad?
It should be like a willow in front of the door, it is easy to flourish in the spring.
When the wind blows, one branch will still grow.
I will tell you the truth. , I hope you will listen again and again.
You must know that women are suffering, and you should never look down on them from now on. "
A woman likes her, but this husband has not even raised his eyebrows since he got married. I accepted my fate for this unlucky husband and planned to live and die together, but the man who was stabbed was still thinking.
This is back to the "bamboo" mentioned earlier in the article. What a beautiful metaphor. If the head-chopping person dies first, the little girl will be "like a bamboo in the forest, which is suddenly blown by the wind. If you are not reborn, you will wither and cling to the knot." Like a bamboo broken by the wind, it will never be reborn again. A good woman has no need to have two husbands.
And this man, if his wife dies first, can he pretend to be too excited first, "It should be like a willow in front of the door, it is easy to flourish in spring. When the wind blows, one branch will break, and another branch will grow." "This man is so heartless, just like the willow trees in the flower streets and willow alleys. If the wind blows them off, they will have strong self-healing power, and they will soon be in full bloom again."
These two poems can scare men to death and show no mercy. Of course, don’t be too discouraged. Gentlemen still have limited editions. As the saying goes, “Filial piety comes first among all good deeds. Discuss the heart regardless of the matter.” "When it comes to things, there is no filial son in the world. All kinds of evil are sexual immorality. When it comes to things, there is no heart. When it comes to heart, there is no perfect person in the world." It seems that both men and women have a share, and there is hope for equality.
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