Blue sky, white clouds, clear water, green willows, sitting alone, watching "The Forty-Nine Days Sacrifice". At the beginning of the plot, Meng Fanming, a government official and director of the Transportation Planning Department, fell in love with Zhao Yumo, the most promiscuous woman in Qinhuai River. However, Meng's daughter Shujuan only had her late mother in mind and could not accept her father falling in love with another woman. And the fact that she was a prostitute, Meng Fanming had no choice but to say something to Zhao Yumo: How can my daughter let you compare with her mother. After hearing this, Zhao Yumo sneered and said: "Why can't I compare with her mother? From the stove to the bedside, I think no woman can compare. What I can't compare with them is life."
Yes, Life, woman's life.
As the saying goes, a woman's life is like rapeseed. Sowing in fertile soil is absolutely different from sowing in poor soil.
Lucky girl, meet a hard-working gardener who can protect you from the wind and rain, fertilize and water you, and remove the weeds around you, so that you can face the sun and live a happy life every day. On weekdays, you can meet up with friends to drink tea, play cards, go shopping, do beauty treatments, and keep fit. During holidays, you can chat with your family, take a walk, go on vacation, travel, let your mood go, and gain joy. You don’t have to run around for life, you don’t have to cater to your superiors for work, you just need to wait for the gardener to come home and reward him with the most beautiful flowers: brush away his worries at work with gentle words, and envelope him gracefully. In a quiet, pure and cool atmosphere. Such a woman is gentle, considerate, considerate, and has an elegant temperament. She regards fame and wealth as dirt, and wealth as clouds. All the virtues a woman should have are combined in you; such a woman is respected by her children, loved by her husband, envied by her friends, and envied by her colleagues. Admired and looked up to by the world, you have all the labels a woman should possess. And all of this comes from your life - sown in fertile soil.
The unfortunate girl fell into a barren land without any nutrients. Poverty is not terrible, but what is terrible is that she did not meet a hard-working gardener, and no one protected her from the wind and rain or removed weeds. In order to survive, she would keep turning like a top every day when she opened her sleepy eyes. When she was tired, she had no shoulder to lean on; when she was sad, there was no one to comfort her. She had to find a place where no one was around to cry secretly and wipe her hands off. Face the tears with a smile. In the workplace, she is very busy, working overtime like a superman, thinking about who will take care of the children and how to eat them; in life, she cares about everything, like Grandet, wishing that she could pick up three of them if she dropped a penny on the floor. As for the gardener who has no sense of responsibility, what he does when he returns home is limited to eating, sleeping, watching TV, and playing with his mobile phone. Usually his eyes will not stay on the child and her. If she shows the slightest yearning for cars, houses, and money, he will quickly judge her as a "vanity material woman." And torture her soul: "How did you become like this? Since you like money so much, who cares? Go to whoever has the money." All she could repay him for was: a loud roar; an unkempt dress; and resentment like the water of the Yangtze River, but what followed was "vulgarity, incomprehension of style, materialistic women, and men. A lot of titles that describe a woman as "good-sounding and elegant", such as "grandmother-in-law, tigress" and so on, are all crowned on her head. And all of this stems from her fate - she fell into a barren land and did not meet a hard-working gardener.
So it is said: A woman's life is like rapeseed, the quality of her life depends on the man she meets. For example, Meng Fanming's wife in "The Forty-nine Days Sacrifice" was married to a director, so even though she died, her daughter could defend her dignity; while Zhao Yumo, a beautiful, patriotic, and ambitious daughter, could not control herself because of the troubled times. The woman who lives in the prostitute due to her fate is still looked down upon by others.
But those were troubled times. In modern times, I think women’s destiny must be in their own hands. Life tells me that women must have five musts and six million
Five musts
1. Women must have a job. When your life is in a mess, at least you still have an income to survive on, and you don't have to swallow your breath and beg anyone, because no one will remain enthusiastic about parasites forever.
2. Women must have dignity. Women can live with their heads down, but they can never live on their knees. Even a soft vine must grow proudly and tenaciously without the attachment of a big tree.
3. A woman must have a best friend. A woman may not be beautiful, but she must not be short of best friends. The so-called pain should be poured out and happiness should be shared. When you don’t even have a best friend, how can you talk about talking and sharing? You can’t be like Xianglin’s sister-in-law who cries and asks every person: Where is my Amao?
4. A woman must listen to her mother. The reason why I listen to my mother is because my mother has changed from a girl to a woman. She has suffered and been cheated once, and she knows who she should marry and who she should not marry.
5. Women must represent themselves well. Your life comes from your parents. Except for them, no one is worth the price of your life. You should dress yourself fresh and refreshing every day, and face life with a cheerful smile.
Six Ten Million
1. Women must never believe in love. No matter how vigorous and soul-stirring love is, it will die with the arrival of marriage. The Butterfly Lovers who turned into butterflies are eternal because they did not really enter the long marriage years; "Wen Jun Runs at Night" achieved a thousand years of romantic love. From love to marriage, didn't Sima Xiangru still fall in love with each other?
2. Women must not lose themselves.
Life is not about how much you accommodate him, how much he loves you, appreciates you, and understands you. On the contrary, he hates you even more when you are personalityless and spineless. Remember, no matter how busy you are, you must take time to do something you like. You are the sun, not the moon, and the earth can revolve around you.
3. A woman must not put all her thoughts on one man. Marriage is not about getting more the more you pay. Don't give up your friends and ignore your family for a man. One day love is gone, and the people standing by your side to support you are not the people who once vowed to be together, but your friends and parents.
4. Women must not underestimate themselves. Everyone has his own advantages. If he doesn't know how to cherish them, others will cherish them. If he doesn't know how to appreciate them, others will appreciate them. If you miss this stop, it is because there is a better one waiting for you at the next stop. If you miss this grass, there will be a forest for you to choose from. You should thank him for his unappreciative kindness today.
5. Women should never impress others with tears. Tears can only make you humbler. You must be like a snail, wrapping your fragility with stubbornness and hiding tenderness with strength, for no other reason than to one day stand at the same height as others and talk to their spirits on an equal footing.
6. Women must not take anything seriously. We live in this world, and everyone is a story told by others, and they are all actors. They perform on the stage and watch on the stage, so those who perform can take it seriously, and those who watch it just treat it as entertainment.
Finally, I sincerely wish that female compatriots can face all the good and bad things in life with a calm mind, cherish it and live a good life.