However, we find that some people who have crossed many bridges still make low-level mistakes.
Why?
As the saying goes, "once you fall, you will gain wisdom."
People, who do not suffer, will certainly increase their wisdom. Only by continuous reflection can we make the losses we have eaten valuable.
1 often introspect
Ceng Zi said, "I save myself three times a day."
Many times, what we lack is not experience, but reflection.
If we can constantly reflect on ourselves from our own experiences, then we can make rapid progress.
On the other hand, if you don't reflect on yourself, you won't make much progress even if you take Wan Li Road.
In Xia Dynasty, a rebel warlord invaded and sent his son to fight.
As a result, Kay was defeated.
Kay's men were unconvinced and demanded another battle.
Kay said, "My land is bigger than his, and I have more soldiers than him, but I was defeated in the end. It must be that my virtue is not enough and my method of leading troops is not as good as his. "
Since then, Kay has been more strict with himself, caring for the people and being close to people with both ability and political integrity.
A year later, the rebellious princes surrendered voluntarily.
Mencius said, "Do not do whatever you want, but do whatever you want."
When we encounter setbacks, then, first of all, don't complain in a hurry, but look for reasons from ourselves first.
It is not terrible to have your own shortcomings, just correct them.
Once we correct our shortcomings and do things again, it will naturally be easy.
On the contrary, if you blindly blame others and pass the buck, you will only make mistakes again and again and hesitate in failure.
Being good at introspection is the fastest way for a person to make progress.
2 Self-discipline
How does the gap between people widen?
Just pull it open in the subtleties.
Some people insist on reading and writing after work; Some people just play games or brush videos.
The gap can't be seen in a day or two, and there will be a world of difference in a year or two.
People who are really good are long-term.
They will not ask for immediate results, but can calm down, resist all kinds of temptations, and polish their strength silently with the mentality of dripping water and wearing stones.
On one occasion, Socrates said to his students on the first day of school: "Today we only learn the simplest movements. Please throw your hands forward as far as possible, and then throw them back as far as possible. " Then Socrates demonstrated it again.
"Starting today, do it 300 times a day. Can you do it? " Socrates asked.
The students all laughed. How can such a simple action not be done?
After a month, Socrates asked which students insisted, and 90% of them raised their hands.
After another month, Socrates asked again, and the number of people who raised their hands became 80%.
A year later, Socrates asked who was still insisting. At this time, only one person in the classroom raised his hand, and that person was Plato.
The so-called "forbearance, unfinished; No way, out. "
Those powerful people may have nothing outstanding, but they can be "strict with themselves." Once they set a goal, they will keep moving towards it.
And those who can't stand loneliness and impatience, even if their EQ and IQ are high, will eventually be defeated by "halfway".
Know how to cure yourself.
South of Huaihe River in Qinling Mountains, there is a plant called Pinus massoniana.
Under normal circumstances, the bark of Pinus massoniana is reddish brown with smooth branches and no foreign bodies.
However, when loggers cut off the branches of Pinus massoniana, the wound will secrete oily juice to prevent the invasion of dirt and bacteria and promote wound healing.
This is the "self-healing power" of Pinus massoniana.
In this world, no one is always smooth sailing, and there will always be great and small hardships.
In the face of difficulties and setbacks, the weak will indulge in them, and the result will only make their situation more difficult;
The strong can regard suffering as their own "whetstone".
Under the tempering of "hardships", their minds will become more and more tenacious.
This so-called "bitter its mind, tired its bones and muscles, hungry its body and skin", and finally "get what it can't."
The essence of a thing depends not only on itself, but also on how we look at it.
Look at it with a positive attitude, it will become our stepping stone; If you look at it with a negative attitude, it may become an abyss.
As the saying goes, "the environment changes at will", and when the mentality changes, everything outside will change.
Conclusion:
A truly powerful person is not rich and powerful, but has a strong heart.
Only when people are armed with their hearts can they be fearless of the ups and downs of life.
"No matter how big the storm is, it's better than walking around."
Only a person with a strong heart can be so calm and calm.
"Do you know what is the greatest weapon of mankind?" "It is the determination to go out." Author: Kotaro Isaka