1. Actively help the national disaster and actively persuade the family crisis.
The most typical positive relief is "Yan Feng; In the Pool by Mrs. Xu Mu is the first patriotic poetess in the history of literature. In this poem, Mrs. Xu Mu expressed her determination to "mourn for Wei Hou", expressed indignation at Ren Wei's obstruction, and showed women's consciousness and initiative in state affairs. Regardless of the minister's obstruction, she went to defend her country and make suggestions without hesitation. This breakthrough hindered the behavior of changing reality according to their own wishes, which undoubtedly reflected the strong self-awareness and independent spirit of women in Zhou Dynasty. Although her original intention was to care about her family, it was just and inspiring that she could think about everyone's sufferings from her own self-interest in that era when women's awareness of participating in politics was deprived. So she affirmed herself and dared to defend herself. " Women are kind, but they also have their own ways. ""Doctors and gentlemen have their own advantages. Bai Er didn't think as well as I did. "
Compared with the national disaster, it is a "family crisis". Marriage is a woman's best survival guarantee. In ancient times, women were dominated by men, and they liked the new and hated the old. In the end, women abandoned them. This is a common tragedy in ancient society. Therefore, when there is a family crisis, it often happens. Women remind their husbands of their previous vows and hope that their husbands will look back on their old feelings, put family first and return to harmony between husband and wife. Such as "Zheng Feng; The husband in Wife's Persuasion follows Lu Gaofeng; In Gu Feng, the heroine said, "When you are angry, you will die with me. "These can also reflect Zhou's concern and struggle for women's marriage. Instead of resigned themselves to fate, they reasoned with their husbands. They have clear goals and aspirations, put them into practice, and strive to change the status quo, hoping not to be abandoned.
Second, choose marriage and love independently, and fight resolutely against arranged marriage.
When The Book of Songs came into being, it was also a period of transition from slave society to feudal society. The primitive matriarchal society has disappeared and been replaced by a patriarchal society dominated by men. Under such social ideology, women's social status has gradually declined, demanding a place in society. At that time, in order to gain a certain social status and establish a stable social relationship, women had to combine with men to establish a family. But they are not all "parents' orders, matchmakers' words", but there is a phenomenon that they choose their own spouses and make their own lives. Such as "Zhao Nan; "Plum Blossom" said: "Please ask me to be an ordinary scholar. "Modern people may find it incredible and think: This woman is so bold. However, I think this can only be explained by "naive thinking". The heroine is a straightforward person who dares to say and do. She is realistic and brave. Her words and deeds are tantamount to a declaration: when and how to get married is up to me, my marriage is up to me, and my fate is in my own hands! This kind of potential sonorous words and the spirit of independent personality are rare not only at that time, but also today, when democratic consciousness is widespread! Another example is Feng Wei; Papaya: "Vote for me in Mutao and repay me with Qiong Yao. Reporting is always good. " "national wind; "Webster and Qi Yi teased each other and gave them peonies." It's already "two of a kind" and I hope "we will be together forever". What's more, there is a phenomenon of "teasing". Zheng Feng; In Qian Shang, the girl shouted to her lover across the river, "Keiko thought of me, but I didn't think of me. Is there anyone else? " The woman in the poem has a strong sense of autonomy. She is well aware of her value in love. Between love and not love, she stays calmly and stays. Of course, she loves this man, so her tone of voice is a little more hopeful, a little more urging and a little more angry. This is also the declaration of women in Beautiful Love, which tells us that in the face of love, women should not be too reserved, should not be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, should not avoid speculation, but should strive for the initiative, boldly express their inner feelings, have the freedom to pursue and the sweetness of being loved, and can indulge a little when appropriate. How interesting, how natural and frank, how confident. This is a folk woman with unrestrained emotions, who welcomes the arrival of love with her free personality. But things are not always good. With the formation and strengthening of ethical shackles, women's love is first bound and destroyed. They can no longer casually date and talk with their sweetheart, but also worry about being discovered by their parents at any time. This has brought them a lot of pain and contradictions. For example, "General Zheng Feng": "A general must not surpass me, and he must not lose his throne. How dare you love and fear my parents? Zhong kehuai, parents' words are also awesome! "The girl in the poem clearly loves her" Zhong Zige ",but she is afraid of the control of her parents and brothers and everyone's criticism, so her heart is extremely contradictory. In the persuasion of her lover, she reveals extremely euphemistic and touching feelings, and also contains dissatisfaction with the constraints of ethics. But her strength is too weak to change this situation at all. Of course, there are also some brave girls who dare to openly resist, such as "Bai Feng Zhou": "Don't leave the boat on the other side of the river. If you are arrogant, you will be loyal to me, and your death will defeat it. Mother only heaven, and tide wait for no man! "The heroine, determined not to obey the marriage arranged by her parents, resolutely loyal to the man she loves, and vowed to die. She seems to be throwing caution to the wind and has shown great courage in "not marrying a gentleman" This is her self-appeal for love and loyalty, and also her accusation against those who hinder the freedom of marriage. No matter how harsh the moral code is and how tough and heartless the external pressure is, the girl is still firm and not easy to die. The infinite bitterness and deep resentment against the freedom of marriage brought by the twists and turns of love are contempt and rebellion against the arranged marriage of "parents' orders"