Hope it will be adopted. Because of Wang XX’s Weibo, overnight, “elopement” became popular on the Internet.
The common modern understanding of the word "eloping" is that the love between a young man and a woman is not recognized by both families, and then the two quietly run away to pursue their own happiness. The definition of "Ben" in the "Modern Chinese Dictionary" is: ⒈ run, run hastily; ⒉ hurry; rush or rush for something urgent; ⒊ run away. The explanation of the word "elope" is: in the old days, it meant that a woman went to the person she loved privately; or ran away with him. The explanation for "Ben" in "Shuowen Jiezi" is: to walk. From Yao, Ben Shengsheng. If you agree with me, you will die together. From this point of view, the "run" in the word "elope" is a verb, which means "escape". In fact, "Ben" does have another meaning. The "Chinese Little Dictionary" has this explanation for "Ben": Ben,..., the third marriage is not done by the matchmaker. "Mandarin Zhouyu": "There were three women running towards him." From this we can see that "running" has other meanings. From this explanation, "Ben" refers to getting married without the help of a matchmaker. It is a noun and refers to a phenomenon. He also cited scriptures, saying that "Guoyu Zhouyu" records that three women eloped during the Zhou Dynasty, which shows that the phenomenon of elopement has existed since ancient times. This note also illustrates the role of matchmakers in ancient marriages. To understand the important role of matchmakers in marriage, we must understand the marriage system in ancient China, especially the Western Zhou Dynasty. The Western Zhou Dynasty established rituals, and under the norms of rituals, the principles of marriage, the conditions for the establishment of marriage, and the system related to the dissolution of marriage were formed that have influenced China for more than three thousand years. During the Western Zhou Dynasty, there were three major principles for concluding marriage, namely, monogamy, no marriage of the same surname, parents' orders, and the words of the matchmaker. "The Book of Songs" says: "How you marry a wife, you must tell your parents..., how you marry a wife, no matchmaker can do it." This means that in the Western Zhou Dynasty, marriages must adhere to the "parents' orders" and go through the "matchmaker's words" "That is to say, under the patriarchal system, marriage must be presided over by the parents, and coupled with the help of a matchmaker, it can be regarded as ritual, legal, and recognized by the clan and society. Marriage without the consent of parents or parents is called "promiscuity". This kind of parents' orders and matchmaker's words must also be expressed in a certain form, that is, to establish a marriage relationship, the "six rites" procedures for betrothal must be fulfilled. The so-called six rites procedure refers to the six wedding rituals performed by both men and women. Specifically include: ⑴Nacai, which means that the man asks the matchmaker to bring gifts to the woman's home to propose marriage; ⑵Inquiry, which means that when the woman's parents agree to discuss marriage, the man's parents ask the matchmaker to ask about the woman's birth date and identity, and then divination. Go to the ancestral temple to ask about bad luck; ⑶Naji, which means that after the good omen is obtained by divination, the man's family brings gifts to the woman's family to confirm the marriage; ⑷Nazheng, also called Naqi, means that after the man's family agrees to conclude the marriage with the woman's family, Send betrothal gifts to the bride’s family to formally confirm the marriage; ⑸ During the invitation period, the groom’s family brings gifts to the bride’s family to discuss or announce the wedding date with the bride’s family; ⑹ Personal wedding means that on the confirmed day, the groom goes to the bride’s family to marry the bride. At this point, the marriage is completed and the marital relationship is finally established. The "Six Rites", as the formal requirements for marriage, occupy an important position in the ancient patriarchal etiquette system. It is not difficult to see from the entire process of the "Six Rites" that each step reflects the will of the parents (parents) and the matchmaker. If the "Six Rites" are incomplete, it will fundamentally violate the "parents' orders and the matchmaker's words" "principle. Therefore, getting married without completing the marriage process is also called "running". At this point, the meaning of "Ben" is clear at a glance: getting married without the consent of parents and parents is called "Ben"; getting married without the help of a matchmaker is called "Ben"; not preparing for the "six rites" And getting married is also called "running". Therefore, "elopement" refers to a private marriage that does not conform to the patriarchal etiquette, and does not just mean that a woman goes to her loved one privately or runs away with him. Of course, the way of "elopement" can be to go to the person you love privately or to run away with him. In China's thousands-year-long feudal era, "elopement" has always been cast in shame and has a heavy shadow. After the "May 4th" movement, the Chinese people's moral judgment on "elopement" gradually changed. Today, "elopement" is already a long-standing historical term.
"Modern Chinese Dictionary" annotates the word "elope" as: "In the old days, it meant that a woman privately defected to the person she loved, or ran away with him." There are two key points in this comment: one is in private, that is, it is not done publicly and secretly; the other is specifically used to refer to women. In China's long feudal etiquette society, the husband is the wife's guide, and when you marry a chicken, you follow the chicken, and when you marry a dog, you follow the dog. Women have never had real freedom. Modern people may be surprised and puzzled by such comments, and may even find them ridiculous. As everyone knows, throughout the ages, human beings, especially Chinese women, have experienced a gradual process of autonomy in the right to marriage from scratch, from weak to strong. Love is like life and death, and marriage without love is immoral. The ancients looked up to this sacredness, and in order to pursue the freedom of marriage, even under the suppression of the power of "preserving heaven's principles and destroying human desires", they always eloped for love, with the tenacity and righteousness like a moth to a flame. Elopement thus became a special way for Chinese women to fight against feudal ethics. It was soaked with the passion, blood, tears and desires of countless youths. It was the first to tear apart the shady curtain of feudal ethics and shine out the light of freedom, love and humanity. .
The first case and the first person of Chinese women to elope recorded in "Historical Records" was the talented and beautiful Zhuo Wenjun who eloped with Sima Xiangru.
As a result, Linqiong has become the number one elopement city in China and is well-known at home and abroad. As a representative figure of "eloping and rebellion" and "freedom and love", Wenjun combines the excellent qualities of intelligence, bravery, and "never be slutty when rich and wealthy, and unyielding when poor". She is the earliest awakener and enlightenment of Chinese women's self-awareness. The author was the first person to declare war on feudal ethics and power, pursue free love, and ultimately win. Guo Moruo once praised this: "Resistance to feudalism is a pioneer, and good stories will be passed down through the ages." In a sense, it can be said that Zhuo Wenjun is the god of freedom for Chinese women and the goddess of freedom for the Chinese people!
Looking back at that star-studded night in the ancient city of Linqiong more than 2,000 years ago, Wenjun shocked the world with his passionate and rebellious act of "elopement", which not only lit up the world for people pursuing free love. A ray of hope. He also left behind precious spiritual wealth that promotes humanity for future generations. I always think that Tai Shigong not only set up a biography for Xiangru, he also took great pains to build a monument for Wenjun.
The story of Zhuo Wenjun has been passed down as a legend through the ages. How many literati, empressed women in the palace, and even ordinary people have used this to express their yearnings and pursuits. Throughout the dynasties, there have been endless poems, paintings and operas about Wenjun and Xiangru. The great poets of the Tang Dynasty, Du Fu, Li Shangyin, and Lu Zhaolin, all left beautiful poems; "The Solitary Yuan-Ming Zaju." "Elopement" was the first to put this ancient story on the stage; in 1923, Guo Moruo created the historical drama "Zhuo Wenjun"; in the 1970s, Emei Film Studio put Wenjun on the screen; recently, CCTV released 32 episodes TV series; Xu Hengyu, a famous painter from Qionglai, was full of passion in the 1980s and created a series of six works "Wenjun Elopement Pictures" with splashes of ink; poet Yu Guangzhong sang over and over again in the poem "Dadu Mountain": Zhuo Wenjun died After two thousand years/spring is still spring.
In ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, love and freedom have always transcended national boundaries and time and space. Wenjun’s story is still so shocking and touching when read today. As long as love is mentioned, people can't help but think of Zhuo Wenjun and Sima Xiangru, Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai, Romeo and Juliet... Naturally, when Qionglai is mentioned, the first thing people think of is the story of Zhuo Wenjun's elopement and love. Witness Wenjun Well and the fragrant wine.
Because of Wenjun, the word "elopement" eventually became the logo and symbol of Qionglai, as well as the logo and symbol of human free love!