Code of conduct for making friends English
How to be better friends?
Please tell me this sentence: If you can be friends with yourself, will you? You think you're. You're a good friend? Friends play a vital role in our overall happiness, but what about them? S often more difficult than simply spending time together. It can be difficult to know whether you are surrounded by good people or you can do better yourself. Vincent Nguyen shared some ideas about how to be the kind of friend you want to be:
To be a good friend, you first need to know what makes a bad friend. From there, it? Reverse engineering is very easy.
As a friend, you may be a little bad.
1. You project your negativity on them.
After a while, you start to assume that because you think in a certain way, so do your friends and others. For example, if you? You tend to talk about others behind their backs. What about you? Suppose everyone else does the same. Eventually, you start to blame others and talk about how they do something, even though they never do it. This has become very annoying, yes, your friend did notice it.
You criticize or blame them for everything.
You don't think there is anything between you and your fault? You are always right. All the mistakes are because of them. Then, you start to let them know, even without words, how you feel about this situation. That's how you lost your friends.
You will lend a helping hand only when you need it.
When you reach for the phone? Never seen them. Or get together and have fun. There's always a reason to call or text. It has become so accustomed that every time you call or send a text message, their response is "What do you need?" What if that happens? Is this a common answer you get from many people? I have a clear warning sign.
You let them handle everything.
When will it arrive? What work to do, what responsibilities to divide, you just sit back and relax. Team spirit disappeared because of you? I would rather do something else than help. What? To make matters worse, when things get tough, you walk away. Soon, and you? Your friends will avoid you.
5. Don't you know? Don't consider their feelings.
Your words hurt people like a knife, and you may not even know (or care) because you ignore their feelings. Don't you know? Don't stop to think about how your decisions, actions and words will affect your friends' thoughts. Sometimes it? What hurts them most is the lack of action. There are too many things to pay attention to! Are you lost?
6. You always have to "beat" them.
Although it's not? Not always referring to you? If you are not a good friend, it shows that there are some shortcomings in your character. If the other person thinks that you are always showing off or belittling their achievements, you may start to destroy the friendship. People have enough insecurity and self-esteem problems. Don? Don't let them feel the same way in front of their friends.
7. Don't you know? Never listen.
Their opinions mean nothing to you and it? It is usually overwhelmed by your own story. You buy time to talk when they are talking about you? You usually stomp impatiently, waiting for your turn to speak. Oh, when do they know about you? You pretend to be listening. It is insincere to throw a question to make others think that you care. What? To make matters worse, when you ask them something, you interrupt them halfway so that you can start talking.
8. Don't you know? Don't break your word.
Let's go What about you? I'll do something, don. Don't go back on your word. Punctuality is included. Don? Don't always be an hour behind the promised time.
The way to be a good friend
1. Make sure they. You're okay.
It? It's easy to go to extremes, but when you show your wit, it means the world to them? We're worried. Send them a text message, make a phone call (or even better), or surprise them by showing up at their door. Find an excuse to spend time with them. It's not. This doesn't mean that you have to force them to accept advice. It just means you hope they're okay.
Unfortunately, is there? There is no universal method to make you care about others without being aggressive. On the contrary, what about you? I must find the most effective method and make adjustments as needed.
Some people are very good at hiding their negative emotions. I hope it's you I learned that when they? You are wearing a mask. The mask will become heavy if you wear it for a long time, and sometimes you will forget how to take it off. I always pretend to be brave when I go through difficulties. It's terrible, but with my good friends around, who knows when I won't be here? "It really doesn't matter" helped a lot.
2. Know when to be serious and when to be stupid according to appropriateness.
What time? It's time to be serious. It's time for you to get down to business. Don't be lazy. Don't try to avoid the real problem by being funny. You may argue from time to time. It doesn't matter. It? It's natural. Grow up and focus on finding common ground instead of trying to shift your attention elsewhere.
Sometimes you can fuck around, but if you don't, others will feel tired? I don't know how or when to turn it off. If you can? T So how can others trust you enough to share important things with you?
Invest extra money to help them.
When they ask for your advice or help on something meaningful. It means they value your ideas. If someone hands you an article and asks you to proofread or revise it, do more. Take out a red pen and start marking crazily. Show them you? You are as devoted as they are.
This means never doing anything stupid when it comes to your friends. Are these your friends? You mean here. It? This is a loyal relationship, and when the other party is not loyal, it feels bad? Don't try your best to help when necessary.
4. Spend the darkest hours with them.
It is closely related to the first point, isn't it? Do not give up. What if they? You are going through a very difficult period, and then they may start to close themselves off and stay away from you and your other friends. They? Refuse to go out and stay away from the world. This makes some people very angry, and finally they give up, but good friends will continue to work hard.
Of course, it's bad to be a person who tries to pull friends out of trouble, and it's really hard to raise your hands without being depressed, but damn it, I know them? You won't be able to go out alone.
Let them know that you like their company.
This means that you listen attentively to everything they say. You show that you like being with them. Hell, sometimes even say it straight out. "You? You are a great friend. It's not so interesting when you ... "You're not here," or "I like being with you, you know?" You should be comfortable together, and you can call a spade a spade without being surprised.
Insecurity will appear when it shouldn't? T., isn't it Don't spend too much time showing your concern and reassure them from time to time.
6. Tell them directly about you? We will support them.
Remind them of you. Let them know you, and you are their friend for life? I will always be there. Does this mean keeping in touch or being there to encourage them when they are unhappy? I had a hard time.
What if you? I've never told your closest friends about it, so the next time your friends tell you about their problems, be sure to tell them? Re hung up.
7. Respect boundaries.
Do you know that?/You know what? You don't have to be together 24/7. I need my own space to charge, but I don't have it? T always like going out to play with others. That's not? Doesn't mean I don't know? I don't like them. Good friends, aren't they? T pushy and don? Don't be depressed by the occasional "no". In fact, good friends know how to start again where they left off, no matter how long. It's been some time since they last met.
8. Be honest and provide constructive feedback when asked.
There? There is a difference between realizing their feelings and letting them eventually destroy themselves. What if they? I formed a bad habit and pointed it out to you in a friendly way? We're worried. They? You started smoking? You care about their lungs. Drink too much? Let them know you? I noticed that.
For less serious examples, imagine their breath smell and them? We are going on a date. Do you want them to collapse in the future, or would you rather let them suffer from self-attack, correct their behavior and go out with confidence? If you think the criticism is severe, give them some suggestions on how to improve it.
9. Introduce them to others.
Your social circle may be close, but? There is always room for expansion. Introduce them to people they don't know? I don't know. Just to show you? You are not afraid of being seen with them. Remember, you should be proud of being with them in public.
It? In the long run, it is up to them to decide whether to go out with these new friends. Actually, it didn't? It doesn't matter if there is. Do you think it's funny? Our goal is here.
10. When they need help, they must promise.
We will all encounter unexpected troubles. It's good to know those who are willing to help you. My car? At 3 am last month, the battery died in the parking lot. I call people who I know will help me, because they are the kind of people who are willing to help others. Guess I didn't. Stop calling? Everyone I know has an excuse.
1 1. Don? Don't do anything that makes them uncomfortable.
It's not. This does not mean avoiding important topics that may change your life. Me? I'm talking about putting forward something that is not constructive, just to annoy them, or just to fill the silence. This brings me to my next point.
12. Embrace silence and enjoy their company.
There will naturally be silent gaps in the conversation. Be comfortable with them. Don? Don't feel that you have to fill every second with one sentence. It? Is it okay to enjoy each other comfortably? S company
Especially as an introvert, after spending some time with many people, I need time to recharge. I really enjoy my time, but I need to recharge sometimes. Keep this in mind and understand the real difference between introverts and extroverts. You may have misunderstood.
13. Be reliable and punctual.
When you say you? I will do something to be a man of my word. This means being punctual, not breaking your word, and making sure that you? We are regarded as reliable friends.
Being unreliable will make your friends think twice before asking you for something.
14. Apologize when it is time to apologize.
It takes a lot of effort to admit that you have done something wrong. Don? Don't be afraid to admit to your friends that you screwed up. It happened to the best of us. Someone who can put down his self-esteem and admit himself. You are wrong. You are a great friend.
Don? T know how to apologize? Look at this article, the art of polite masculinity.
15. Show you? You're happy for them.
We are all so absorbed in our lives that we forget how to express our gratitude. Of course, we know we care, but? If you don't say it, it's hard for others to know what you said. Don't show it.
It? When a person is dishonest, it is easy to tell. "Wow, me? I'm so happy for you. "You don't look eager, do you? Not very convincing. Throw yourself into their success and show in your facial expression that you are really happy.
16. Remember to make small moves occasionally.
It can be as simple as buying them something you think they might like. Me? If a friend of mine bought me a sonic screwdriver from Doctor Who, I would be very excited. That will tell me a lot of things. First of all, I know they remember what I like. Second, they thought of me. Third, they spent their hard-earned money to let me know that they like me. Awesome feeling.
17. Spend more time with them and say "yes" more.
It? Being rejected by your friends is a bad feeling. Sometimes life gets in our way. It doesn't matter. After all, remember one thing about boundaries. However, I know how easy it is to say no, and it has become a habit. It? When you ... you don't feel it, say "yes" to your friends as much as possible.
What about you? You're not that busy. Unless you ... It is absolutely impossible for you to make room for your friends. There is no reason why you don't have time for your friends. It? Are you easy to convince yourself? You are too busy. Don? Don't believe your own story. Always make time for them because of it? It's easy to alienate.
18. Are you sure you haven't? Don't alienate.
Life goes on, and everyone has their own things to do. Of course, it may be easy for you to start from where you left off, but? It's easy to lose contact completely. It takes effort, especially in. Keep a good friendship. It? This is a relationship that requires the joint efforts of both sides.
Share this article with your friends and let them know what you think of them? You are my good friend.
Or? Passively convey this feeling to others? Who are you mad at?
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