In some novels, we often see such a scene. In order to boost morale, a general will make an impassioned speech before going to the front line, telling the soldiers that as long as they win this battle, they can drink and eat meat together and get more money.
In real life, people who can make others profit can often be "favored" by more people, and it doesn't matter if they are used for profit. It is human instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.
Someone said, "whoever can give me money, I will call him dad."
A little too much. You can't forget your parents and do some immoral things because of money. However, there are always some people who, driven by interests, even forget who their ancestors are and even forget human nature.
Really smart people are often good at "winning people's hearts", using the characteristics of others "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages" to get help from others, thus becoming the biggest beneficiary.
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Winning people's hearts often means winning interests.
To win people's hearts is to win them over by means; Play tricks and win over others. Literally, this word is derogatory. But smart people will see the positive side from the words.
To win people's hearts, we should not only win them over and do bad things together, but also do good things and great things together.
My classmate Lao Li went to Dongguan to work after graduating from junior high school. His education is not high, so when he first entered the factory, he could only be an ordinary employee.
Once, in Lao Li's workshop, a piece of equipment broke down and could not be repaired for a while, so the workshop supervisor was in a hurry. Suddenly, Lao Li began to cry. Everyone asked him, "Why are you crying?"
Lao Li cried and said, "I am anxious for everyone." Think about it. If the equipment is not repaired in a few days, everyone can't finish the task, the supervisor will criticize, and we will also reduce our salary. "
Lao Li's words moved the workshop supervisor very much. Soon after, Lao Li was promoted to team leader, and later to deputy director and supervisor of the workshop.
From an ordinary migrant worker to an immigrant star, Lao Li used the method of winning people's hearts to the fullest.
Last summer, Lao Li returned to his hometown from Dongguan and started an electronic product processing factory. When he first opened the factory, Lao Li was worried that he could not recruit people.
One day, the old man in Lao Li Village held a birthday party. Lao Li not only took the initiative to go, but also gave the old man a big red envelope. At the birthday party, Lao Li said, "Folks, all the young people in the village have gone out to work. Many people have gone far away and never come home all the year round. In the future, the elderly in the village, if necessary, feel free to contact me. Although my ability is not very strong, I have done a good job in setting up a factory in the county, being close to my hometown and driving the old people to get a license ..... "
Lao Li's words deeply touched everyone present. Later, many people in the village went to Lao Li factory to work.
Lao Li is considerate of others everywhere. On the surface, he has lost interest. In fact, he has "won the hearts of the people" and expanded his social circle. At the same time, he also gained greater benefits through the help of others.
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Winning people's hearts is actually a great wisdom.
How to win people's hearts? Why do people want to revolve around you and listen to your command?
Mencius wrote on Li Lou: "Get the way of the world, win the hearts of the people, and win the world." Get people to know the Tao, get people's hearts, and get people. "
He who wins the hearts of the people wins the world. If you make others' hearts warm, then others will find ways to repay you. Good people all know "reciprocity". Changing hearts for hearts is also a sign of reciprocity.
As a unit leader, you should take the initiative to care about your subordinates and let them know that you have met a "good leader". You will succeed as long as you work hard in the future. Leaders who are indifferent to their subordinates can be disciplined with dignity, but they will not be convinced. Competent subordinates will jump ship to other places.
As an ordinary worker, we should unite people around us and make them believe in themselves. Once we encounter difficulties, we can rely on our colleagues to solve them in time.
As a business partner, you should be honest. Honesty is the foundation of standing and career development. You must do well what you promise others; Borrow money and pay it back.
If you make a mistake, you should take the initiative to admit it, be a city dweller and "make up" in time. Dare to admit mistakes and apologize to others, often can get others' understanding, also can "bury the hatchet" with others, and make friends with others.
If someone else makes a mistake, you should forgive him. Don't haggle over every ounce. Your generosity will make people feel "ashamed of you". If something happens in the future, he will help you to ease your guilt.
When you get along with your family, you should trust each other unconditionally and avoid any suspicion. When you help, you shouldn't care about the return. Only by uniting with the family can we "make our family great" and achieve a better self.
To win people's hearts, the key is "to be enthusiastic, to have morality and discipline".
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The essence of interpersonal communication is "mutual utilization".
If you want to win people's hearts and get help from others, you must be willing to give, not just take.
The greater your use value, the more likely you are to win people's hearts. Even if you don't ask for help, others will surround you and hope to cooperate with you.
If you don't use value, you must learn to "attack the heart", impress others with words and deeds, and help others as much as possible.
When using others, you should be grateful, and you can't take all the benefits for one person. For example, a friend brought you a truckload of fruit, from which you made a profit of several thousand yuan. You should invite your friend to dinner or give him one or two thousand yuan.
Greed is a person's nature, and profit is a person's wisdom. Winning people's hearts is to gain greater benefits, to consider long-term development, not to be a mercenary.
Anything, single-handedly, it is difficult to achieve great success, only rely on each other.
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