The formation of inferiority is also in interpersonal relationships, and one's core needs are constantly being hit and distorted, so inferiority arises in order to protect oneself.
An inferior person is like a balloon with a small hole. On the surface, he looks chubby, but in fact, he is secretly discouraged.
1. I am stingy and sensitive, and it is easy to remember small details that others are not good to me. On the surface, I am generous and tolerant, but actually I still have some resentment in my heart.
Example: Dare not go downtown, dare not go to crowded places. I'm afraid the clothes I wear are not good-looking, I'm afraid I'm looked down upon by others, I'm afraid I'm not good-looking, and I'm afraid my shoes can't put on clothes. There is another person who obviously likes him and the other person likes himself, but he always feels that the other person is lying to me just to not make me sad. When the other person approaches a boy, he will feel that he can't compete with that boy, won't tell him, and even pretend that he is not happy at all, but he is very embarrassed in the mainland.
3. Love to compare, who is great and who is cute, the topic is how he is. Look at yourself again, hey … when the girl you like says that other boys are good and handsome, she seems to agree, but in fact she is jealous of the person who is better than me. When I met two women who passed by in my life, they all compared me with other men, and they collapsed in their hearts and secretly made up their minds that even if they were killed, they would not be good to you. Go find that man and leave ...
4. Fragile, weak in the outside, weak in the heart, especially like to express themselves. Very strong, I want to suggest, intervene and show my ability in everything. Enthusiastic and worried about other people's affairs. I can't handle my own affairs well. Once others don't recognize my efforts, I lose my breath, get elected, resent others for not understanding me and secretly break my heart at night.
For example, pretend to be confident and chic, pretend not to say that he has a house, a car and money, pretend not to say who he knows, and pretend not to tell others which luxury brand he is wearing. Once the shortcomings of people who are better than me are found, they will spread everywhere. Once you hear someone criticize some social phenomena or improper behaviors, you will think that they must be cursing and humiliating others and describing their shortcomings as advantages. Once others don't refute, you will think that you have cheated successfully.
Once in my memory, the geography teacher told a historical story that the warlords in Chen Jiongming were famous during the Northern Expedition. It happens that my own surname is Chen, so I feel honored to say that this warlord is related to me by blood.
There are often victims' psychology, trying to please themselves, and the other party is ungrateful and can't get the due reward. Of course, pretending not to care on the surface is actually a much-needed recognition. Others seldom feel my inner needs. As a result, I often ignore my own existence and my own needs, feeling sorry and hurt. It is not good for me to behave so well.
6 Inferiority and extreme arrogance At the same time, psychologically speaking, we are not satisfied with place A and want to escape to the ideal place B.
This desire is the key reason for the continuous cycle of our lives.
Because the idealized B was born from A, they are actually the same thing.
For example, a man is dissatisfied with his inferiority complex, so he gives birth to an ideal-to find an ideal appearance of perfect self-confidence.
In fact, people look at us in the same way as we look at ourselves. Just encourage yourself more.
There is an interesting psychological experiment called "scar experiment". Make a vivid and shocking scar on the face of volunteers, let these volunteers experience people's eyes in the crowd and observe people's reaction to their facial scars. Volunteers in the experiment didn't know one of the steps. Before going out, volunteers must go to a room without a mirror to prevent scars from falling off. In fact, the staff used makeup paper to wipe off the scars they had just made, leaving no traces. Volunteers who knew nothing about it went out to observe people's reactions with nonexistent "scars". Volunteers who came back all described the same feelings: people showed surprised eyes, frightened eyes, puzzled and disdainful scrutiny, and stared at their faces curiously and unreasonably. An interesting conclusion is drawn from this experiment: how does a person perceive himself in his heart and what kind of vision can he feel outside.
In psychology, inferiority is a personality defect. Inferiority means that a person makes a low evaluation of his own ability and quality, and always feels that he is inferior to others, pessimistic and disappointed, and loses confidence. In social communication, people with inferiority complex are lonely and isolated, which inhibits their self-confidence and sense of honor. When despised, ridiculed or insulted by people around you, this inferiority complex will be greatly strengthened, and even manifested in deformed forms, such as jealousy, rage and self-deception. Inferiority is a kind of inferiority complex, a negative psychological state and a huge psychological obstacle to realize an ideal or a certain desire. People who feel inferior are often prisoners of failure and despised. Serious inferiority will lead to a person's decadence, backwardness and distorted mind. Therefore, inferiority is the enemy of success.
People who usually have a strong sense of inferiority often have a particularly harsh manager and have psychological trauma. However, the same psychological trauma, not all people will have a sense of inferiority, because psychological trauma is not entirely caused by external stimuli, there is also a subjective reason-personality. People with a strong sense of inferiority generally have the following personality characteristics: caution, introversion, loneliness and prejudice, and perfectionism.
Some people's inferiority complex is caused by their physical qualities, such as facial features, being too fat, being too thin, being too short, stuttering, being physically disabled, having defects, etc. This is called true inferiority complex.
The inducement of some people's inferiority is social environment, such as being born in rural areas, poor economic conditions, low academic qualifications, bad working environment, the influence of family or unit, etc.
The inducement of some people's inferiority is personality and temperament, such as introversion and withdrawal.
Some people's inferiority is caused by life experiences, such as frustration in love, making a fool of themselves in public and being laughed at.
Inferiority is distressing and painful, so people with inferiority always try their best to get rid of this heart disease. The method of psychological conflict to cover up inferiority is generally to pursue superiority, that is, to strive for superiority and strive to surpass others. Actually, it's not a bad thing to be competitive. Excellent athletes must study hard and practice hard to win the championship. However, we should also see another valuable quality of excellent athletes, that is, they are not afraid of setbacks and failures, and they will never be discouraged if they fail. However, people with low self-esteem are competitive and can't afford to lose, which is their fatal weakness. Why can't you afford to lose? Because once you fail, you can clearly see that you are inferior to others, and your inferiority complex can't be concealed in your mind, which makes him unbearable and makes him feel more inferior.
Inferiority is generally diligence. In order to surpass others, people with low self-esteem are very demanding of themselves, often reaching the point of demanding themselves. This will bring two adverse effects:
First, in the process of hard work, it is difficult to experience relaxation and happiness, and even feel nervous. Of course, it will be boring. Such people are not interested in what they have learned or done, but only interested in surpassing others, experiencing the pleasure of being superior or getting compliments from others.
Second, because the standard setting is too high, it will often lead to frustration and failure, which will aggravate the pain.
Superiority is the compensation of inferiority and unhealthy. In order to completely cover up inferiority complex
You have to walk under the eaves in case something hits you. Every word you say must consider whether it will offend people. I don't have a problem, because I have been hurt by others and I don't talk much. Always put your hand in your bag, don't make friends actively, and fantasize about your future every day.
Sometimes I think, if you do more good deeds, you will be rewarded and your luck will get better. In fact, that's just the sustenance and imagination in people's hearts!
Inferiority can make people feel ashamed, suspicious, lonely and lose confidence in life. The soul is dead, the spirit is paralyzed, and life is worse than death. It's hard to explain in a few words.
Just like me, I feel inferior even if I am alive.
Cheerful, lively and lovely! But when things happen, you will only hesitate and shrink back! Will only cater to other people's preferences! Find a sense of existence! Hide your true thoughts and feelings! Never show it!
The first kind: cowardly eyes.
The eyes are the windows to the soul. People can read your heart, your positive side and your negative side through your eyes. A quarter of people who feel inferior in their hearts can see it at a glance by observing each other's eyes, because they can't fool anyone at all. Eyes full of cowardice, especially in public, or when getting along with strangers. Even dare not look directly at others, even dare not communicate with others, thinking that they are escaping, even their own eyes are dodging, completely out of their inner control.
The second type: super guilt.
Maybe when a person finishes something, he will feel guilty for no reason. Maybe when he relaxes under high pressure for a period of time, his brain will subconsciously remind him that he is not successful enough and others are still working hard. How can you stop? So this person will have a feeling that comfort is sin. This feeling may stimulate people's fighting spirit, but sometimes it is too much, which will also make people extremely nervous and do some harm to both body and mind.
The third type: I always feel imperfect.
This kind of person always thinks that some things are not perfect. In fact, in the eyes of others, they have done a good job, but they always feel that there are still flaws and imperfections. At first, they will try their best to improve these defects, and after a long time, they will become very depressed. As the saying goes, no one is perfect, and everyone has different shortcomings. If you blindly pursue the limit and don't know how to satisfy it, it will be quite dangerous, because such emotions will make people very "sad." Cherish every day, this is the true meaning of life.
The fourth kind: inner jealousy.
The more self-abased a person is, the more likely he is to have jealousy. When others have something they don't have, their hearts will change at this time. Psychology always thinks, why can't I have what he can have? However, they don't know that jealousy is meaningless for the change of their situation, and even has a certain negative effect. Instead of having time to envy others, it is better to use this time to do something meaningful and strive to improve yourself.
Fifth: eager for success.
Another manifestation of people with extremely low self-esteem is their desire to achieve something. Because he is eager to be recognized and affirmed by the outside world, for him, 10,000 years is too long to seize the day. He needs worldly success, such as power, money, reputation, etc. Therefore, he is crazy about worldly success, eager to get rich overnight and become famous overnight. He felt that as long as he achieved worldly success, he could hold his head high and be a confident person. In fact, people who are extremely inferior in their hearts have not become confident even though they have achieved these worldly successes.
People with extreme inferiority are polarized, and sometimes they show passive and unconfident appearance. For example, our general impression is that we are timid, introverted, shy and insecure. But there are others who are extremely inferior, and his performance is arrogance. The opposite of inferiority is pride. Sometimes his inferiority makes him feel more necessary to cover up his shortcomings in front of the world and cover them up with another extreme performance. It's like a humble person, but deep down, he is a very proud person.
I don't know what is the purpose behind asking this question. Want to know if people who are interested will feel inferior? So you want to know the performance of people with extreme inferiority? Or do you want to put yourself in the right position through everyone's description?
We say that inferiority is a negative emotion, and it can also be said that it is a less sunny and positive side of personality. But as a person, everyone will feel inferior, but in different occasions and different environments, the feeling of inferiority will be different.
Some people will turn inferiority into a kind of motivation to forge ahead, vowing to change their current bad situation to get rid of inferiority completely, but some people will regard inferiority as a stone in the way and never move forward again. He doesn't try to change his current bad situation, even if he doesn't change the inferiority caused by these situations, then the latter is the last thing we want to see and has no positive effect on changing inferiority.
So I want to know why you raised this question and how we can really help you. There must be a deep root behind the emergence of a certain emotion. If this emotion affects your life, study and work, it depends on how strong your willingness to change is and how to find the right way to change the status quo. I wish to get rid of inferiority complex as soon as possible and find my own sunshine. @yoyo Bose Yu Qian
First, inferiority is the essential feature of excellent people, which makes people with dreams more passionate and appealing.
Second, people begin to be in a weak state. As long as they have goals and directions, as long as they have a sense of inferiority and persist in exploration, they will make progress one day, be outstanding, be confident, and "inferiority" will disappear;
Third, people with inferiority can be divided into two categories: first, they will be outstanding because of their inferiority; Second, if you escape or hurt others because of inferiority, you will lose the opportunity to grow up.
Psychology: People with extreme inferiority often have these three characteristics, and every sentence is true!
1, define yourself as a loser.
In fact, this kind of psychology mainly comes from parents and teachers. If things are not done well, parents will accuse them of not doing such a simple thing well. If things are done well, parents will still feel that they are not doing well. Instead of praising them, they will compare others, which will lead to inferiority complex. Such people will feel that even their parents deny themselves so much, which must be very pitiful! Don't think so, in fact, you have done very well!
2. Know yourself subjectively and thoroughly.
Generally speaking, inferiority is a subjective and evaluative psychological state, and people with inferiority can't clearly understand themselves from an objective perspective. They often ignore the objective laws of social development. In some ways, inferiority complex is also an extreme manifestation. They can't see their own bright spots in life and work, and it is their normal state to compete with themselves. And often comparing with the best will only increase your sense of powerlessness and tension. Usually this subjective extreme comes from excessive criticism in the process of growing up, which leads them to stay in this state for a long time.
Step 3 get used to worrying
In psychology, the more a person cares about the trivial things in life, the more painful his mentality is. But he will think in a bad direction, so he is prone to depression. And to get rid of the influence of this emotion is to let yourself learn to let go. Therefore, no matter what you encounter, you should relax and imagine things in a good direction. Maybe you will get a good result. The more you worry, the more stressed you are. When the stress can't be eliminated in time, you will not only be anxious, but also suffer.
In fact, what people with low self-esteem need most is actually to get encouragement from themselves or people around them after failure, so as to build their self-confidence. No one is perfect. How to cheer up quickly after failure, establish long-term self-confidence and know yourself comprehensively and objectively is the best way to treat inferiority complex.