Li Bai was very playful when he was young. Once, he saw an old woman grinding a thick iron bar by the river. Asked why, the old woman said that she would use this iron bar as an embroidery needle. It is such a simple sentence that Li Bai has heard the true meaning of life. "As long as you work hard, grind iron into a needle." If Li Bai didn't have a pair of listening ears and didn't hear the "punch line" that influenced his life, then a dazzling page would have been lost in the history of China literature. For the same sentence, different time and space, different mood, it sounds different. When the spring breeze is in full swing, what you want to hear is praise rather than criticism; When you encounter setbacks, you want to hear comforting words, not straightforward words ... these are great obstacles in our obedience process.
To learn to be obedient, you must first have a rational mind, be able to face everything calmly and not be influenced by your mood at that time. We should be able to transcend the secular self and face the real life. As the saying goes, "a good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, and advice is good for action when it is not satisfactory", which is not unreasonable. It takes a lot of courage to learn to obey. At that time, the young Russian chemist Mendeleev was laughed at in scientific experiments, but he firmly believed that he was not wrong, and his chemical research was not wrong. He ignored all the gossip in society and finally discovered the periodic law of elements. Just imagine, if he balked at the gossip, how could he achieve something that would later stir the world? In fact, his "disobedience" is a kind of "obedient" performance. While praising his great contribution to today's chemistry, we should also praise his courage to "go your own way and let others say it". Of course, "let others talk" here does not mean going ahead and turning a blind eye. We must not use this as a shield to refuse to accept well-intentioned accusations and criticisms. For those accusations, it is necessary to distinguish whether the accusation is reasonable, whether it is well-intentioned criticism or malicious ridicule.
What needs to be pointed out in particular is that our middle school students are very rebellious, and often their parents let them go east, so they have to go west. In fact, most of what parents say is right. After all, their experience is much broader than that of us middle school students who are wet behind the ears! For some of their incorrect words, we should also sincerely exchange views with them; No matter what your parents say, as long as you open your mouth, you block your ears, stare at your eyes, say "I won't listen" and run. This is not the correct performance of listening.