The death of 34-year-old Japanese female anchor Mao Kobayashi due to breast cancer touched the tear ducts of countless Japanese people. Her blog KOKORO during her lifetime is still visited by many people. Why is she so widely recognized? In addition to her own halo as a host and her active fight against illness, which has inspired many readers, are there any other reasons?
A combination of handsome men and beautiful women
When a kabuki playboy meets an innocent and beautiful anchor
In fact, Kobayashi Mayo also has another identity - the wife of Liyuan . She quit her job as an anchor and fulfilled her responsibilities as a wife in the opera house, which moved people even more.
The word "liyuan" originated from the Tang Xuanzong period and generally refers to kabuki in Japan. After a woman marries a kabuki actor, she is called a pear wife.
Kobayashi married Ichikawa Ebizo, a descendant of Naritaya, a famous Kabuki family. The two met on Xiao Lin's interview show at the end of 2009, and registered their marriage on March 3, 2010 the following year. It is said that Ebizo was attracted by Mayo's innocence, but people around Mayo were opposed to it at first. Ichikawa Ebizo is not only good at acting, he is also a playboy in the kabuki world. Among the actresses he dated before marriage were the famous Ryoko Yonekura, Rie Miyazawa and other beauties. Whether a playboy in the Kabuki world can regain his heart is a question, and the difficulty of being a wife of a Kabuki actor is probably also an important reason.
The husband sings and the wife follows
Proficient in all kinds of martial arts
Kabuki, a traditional art circle, still retains various ancient traditions. As the wife of a kabuki actor, in daily life, she not only has to manage her husband's health, but also arranges her daily schedule according to her husband's performance dates, and she also has to help her husband handle various human relationships inside and outside. In particular, it takes a lot of energy to deal with the husband's supporters.
During the 25 days of kabuki performances every month, I have to attend at least two events to greet the kabuki super fans who usually take care of my husband. When the national tour happens, I also have to communicate with fans from all over the country. deal with. It is said that no matter where you meet your husband's supporter, you should be able to remember the other person's name and be able to say hello smoothly. In general, not only should you be a good secretary to your husband, but you should also be responsible for helping your husband increase his followers.
It is said that after getting married, the wife of Kabuki actor Hashinosuke Mita, Hiroko Mita, not only learned tea ceremony, flower ceremony, calligraphy, etiquette, cooking and other skills, but also learned the history and tradition of Kabuki. There are more than 200 kabuki repertoires. Because without the support of these knowledge and skills, it is impossible to interact smoothly with husband’s advocates.
Hide your light and be a good wife
In addition to being proficient in all the eighteen martial arts, you must also pay attention to hiding your edge and highlighting your respect for your husband.
Generally, after marrying a kabuki actor, an actress will choose to retire behind the scenes and fully support her husband's career. Because the wives of Liyuan have heavy social tasks, they not only have to quickly memorize various traditional etiquette, but also frequently go to the theater to support their husbands. It is difficult to balance career and family, and many people have to choose to retire. Norika Fujiwara, who had just become a theater wife, was criticized by elders in the kabuki world when her fans flocked to her when she attended her husband's performance. Norika Fujiwara was also questioned when she said that her acting career must be balanced with her husband's career.
Mao Kobayashi, who graduated from Sophia University’s Faculty of Letters with a major in psychology, announced that she would quit her job as an anchor after her marriage to fully support her husband’s career. It was a pity that she resigned from her one-in-a-thousand anchor job just because she wanted to. At the same time, she was touched by her dedication. Especially for those of us who advocate female independence, it seems even more difficult to understand.
Critical moments test wisdom
In the Japanese kabuki world, there is a saying that cheating also serves to hone acting skills. When a husband cheats on his wife, it is also a time when the qualifications of the Liyuan wife are tested. Not only should you not get angry, but you should also use your own wisdom to support your husband and help him resolve the crisis. Shan Qianjing, the senior member of Liyuan Wife, commented on her husband when faced with his scandal, "He can't live without a woman. A man who doesn't have a woman is boring." Nakamura Yoshie, who was born in a Kabuki family, also tolerated her husband's remarks: "Floating body, floating body. Mental cheating is not allowed, but physical cheating is OK."
Looking back at domestic celebrity cheating incidents, many celebrity wives have also chosen to be tolerant.
Although it is difficult for ordinary people like us to understand, perhaps they have a similar starting point to the Japanese opera wives.
Ebizo was revealed to have an illegitimate child, and after six months of marriage, he caused a fight. Regarding her husband's romantic affair, Kobayashi Mayo kept silent. When her husband was injured, he took good care of her regardless of her pregnancy. When she was giving birth, she and her mother-in-law embarked on a journey of apology, visiting each family one by one to apologize to her husband's supporters.
The fourth wedding anniversary
Carefully raising the next generation
Although it is now an era of gender equality, the idea of ??paying attention to incense in the Kabuki world is very normal. Because traditional kabuki is generally hereditary, for wives in the theater, giving birth to a kabuki successor for their husbands is a top priority. If you really have no children, you can still solve the problem by adopting an adopted son, but you will still care about whether there is a male child. After having a son, he should start learning kabuki when he is about three years old. My mother will accompany me when picking up and dropping off here.
The skill of kabuki was passed down from his father, and his mother was responsible for her son’s education in how to treat others. Until the son marries a wife, the mother is responsible for the son's support group.
Kobayashi Mayo gave birth to a pair of lovely children to Ichikawa Ebizo. After the Ichikawa family had a heir, Kobayashi Mayo's task became even heavier. Not only must she take good care of her husband, but she must also arrange for her children to learn kabuki from an early age. In November 2015, Kobayashi Mayo temporarily stopped anti-cancer drug treatment and accompanied her son Quanxuan to welcome her first stage appearance. Kobayashi Mayo's son's new kabuki challenge, originally scheduled for next month, will no longer be able to see it.
She chose to open a blog to communicate with patients who had the same experience. First, she did not want to hide behind cancer, but wanted to treat her openly in the sun and inspire everyone. On the other hand, the reason may be that he is worried that after he leaves, his young son will have no one to support his growth. He hopes that people across the country can take his place and protect his son from growing up to be an outstanding kabuki actor.
A happy family
Live your own world
Ichikawa Ebizo said in his blog that since that day (the death of Mayo Kobayashi on June 22) Not a day goes by without tears. Mother-in-law Kishiko said why she got cancer, it would have been better if it had been me. During her cancer treatment, Mayo Kobayashi actively participated in her daughter's sports meets. After experiencing a small gathering with the mothers of her daughter's classmates after the sports meets, she once revealed in her blog that being an ordinary mother turned out to be such a blessing.
Kobayashi Mayo once said that illness does not represent my entire life. Although I sometimes experience pain, I have realized my dreams, met the person I love, and got two babies. My life is about love and Be loved and live a colorful life. Therefore, I refuse to let all the time God gives me be colored by illness. In order to make life more exciting, I want to live the way I want. Because, you only live once. Kobayashi Mayo also lived her own life in the Kabuki world with its strict superior-subordinate system and many traditions.
Note: The pictures in this article are quoted from the Internet.