To be kind to yourself is not to indulge yourself blindly and do whatever you want, but to choose something really beneficial and pursue a truly happy life.
So, what is a real happy life?
Russell has a profound understanding of happiness. He once said: The secret of a happy life is actually to love life itself. The more you love life, the happier you will be.
Your attitude towards life determines your happiness index.
Everyone wants to be happy, so how to open the door to happiness?
Lin Dihuan, a painter with unique style, created a beautiful key to open the door to happiness. This key consists of colored brushes and humorous words. Its name is waiting for a flower.
Many people may not know Lin Dihuan's name, but if Kobayashi paints, many people will say, Oh, it's him! Yes, that's him. He is the author of Waiting for Flowers to Bloom.
The famous painter Kobayashi has many works that we are particularly familiar with. For example, I am a passer-by of the world. Fortunately, I am in the same boat, and my troubles are like onions. When I looked inside, it was empty.
Waiting for a Flower is a transformation work of Lin Dihuan, a collection of some ink paintings, calligraphy works and some miscellaneous words, which records the infinite fun in trivial life. He speaks freely, talks about delicious food, tastes tea, appreciates Song Ci, speaks calligraphy, and discovers the little happiness in life with beautiful eyes, thus realizing the interest and Zen of life.
He said that there is only one kind of success, that is, to spend your life in the way you like.
1, the best cosmetics in the world are heartfelt happiness.
In Kobayashi's paintings, there is a picture of a beautiful woman surrounded by various cosmetics, but even the best cosmetics are not as beautiful as the smile on her face.
This painting makes people instantly understand that even if a person is beautiful, if he is unhappy, he is not beautiful. True beauty is not the beauty of the face, but the smile on the corners of the mouth. The curvature of the corners of your mouth will reveal the secrets of your heart, whether it is happiness or sadness.
Xiao Lin's paintings are a bit like Feng Zikai's. There are only a few paintings, simple but vivid. The essay is humorous, full of life interest and rich in philosophy.
Ordinary us have to face all kinds of troubles every day, for example, for exams, for work, for love, for interpersonal relationships, for family chores. ...
Surrounded by all kinds of troubles, how can we find happiness and fun in life?
Russell said that a quiet and leisurely life is the source of happiness. This kind of life, seemingly calm, is actually nourishing our hearts. Human life, like flowers and trees, must conform to the laws of nature. Trouble and excitement will consume our inner life energy, and real happiness comes from a lasting and peaceful life.
When you can be calm, you will find the happiness of life, the best cosmetics and the most beautiful yourself.
Whose life is not full of holes? May you go through hardships and remain natural and graceful. Looking at the world around us, the wind is still blowing, the flowers are still blooming, and the sun is still rising, but something is different. Things change with your heart, because your mood has changed.
2, interesting is poetic and far-sighted.
"Life is not just a glimpse, but also poetry and distance." The popularity of this sentence must have hit many people's hearts, and many people feel that they are living a miserable life.
The so-called "getting along" is not about not having enough to eat and not being warm, but for the sake of food and clothing and comfort, and finally voluntarily accepted the unchangeable life and future.
Therefore, we will yearn for poetry and distance.
Many people understand "poetry" as writing a few limerick poems, that is, poetic people. And the understanding of the distance, of course, that it is a trip they want to leave, as if to escape from the boring environment of the present life, life will shine.
However, poetry is a kind of interest and has nothing to do with writing poetry. Those who want to leave, except adding some selfies and chats, will not bring about essential changes. They will continue to lead a miserable life after their trip.
Think about it, if a person does not have a certain knowledge reserve, even if he travels all over Qian Shan and walks a few Wan Li roads, he is just a postman.
Russell once said: the pursuit of happiness is a basic right of human beings, and everyone can get happiness through their own efforts. And a person's misfortune is largely attributed to his wrong world outlook.
Thought determines action.
Lin Dihuan said that hobbies that don't cost brains are just a part of life.
He told a story:
A friend fell in love with sea fishing and dreamed of catching a grouper weighing more than two kilograms. It is not easy to catch such a fish. Friends spend a lot of time studying astronomical and geographical knowledge such as fishing gear, bait and the influence of tides on fish.
He once went fishing in Hainan with his friends. In order to fish, I spent the night on a lonely stone in the sea and cooked instant noodles with a portable small gas stove.
When the sky is slightly bright, the morning glow is red through the boundless sea, countless seagulls are flying, the sun is shining, and the clouds are opening and closing.
For this friend, poetry and distance boil down to a fish, and the figure waiting for the fish to take the bait is poetry. And those who dabble in astronomy and geography for fishing have become his distant places.
Later, my friends applied their knowledge of astronomy and geography to their business, which promoted the prosperity of their business and doubled their income.
It can be seen that as long as there is an unimportant little thing that can make you indulge in it regardless of utility, you may become an interesting and poetic person.
For that friend, it doesn't matter whether you catch fish or not. The most beautiful time is waiting for the fish to bite.
Interesting is poetic and far-sighted. Only in this way, our life will not be miserable again.
3, the starting line will not affect the overall situation, insist on running the whole course, is the perfect life.
Since the phrase "don't lose at the starting line" was born, many parents have rushed to the starting line, as if they were one step behind and would all lose.
However, anyone who has run a marathon or participated in other long-distance races knows that it doesn't matter how fast the distance ahead runs.
In fact, happiness and health are the most important things in a person's life.
Even though I was a mediocre talent when I was a child, as long as I am honest and kind, rational and self-disciplined, and full of positive and optimistic spirit towards the world, I will always find my own spiritual world and become an interesting and talented person in the future.
Life is a long journey, the starting line does not affect the overall situation, it doesn't matter if you start slowly, it doesn't matter if you have a rest halfway, and it doesn't matter if you run down the road and come back. Running at your own pace is the most perfect life.
Speaking of the starting line, I suddenly remembered Wang Mian, a great painter in Yuan Dynasty, who was a standard loser at the starting line.
Wang Mian has an ancient poem "Mo Mei", which reads: "I am the first tree in Xiyan Lake, and the flowers bloom and fall with faint ink. Don't praise the good color, just leave the air full of dried Kun. "
This poem surpassed all the poems of Yongmei in the Tang and Song Dynasties and was handed down from generation to generation.
We have heard the story of Wang Mian when he was a child: when he was a child, his family was poor. When herding cattle to others, he learned to draw with branches as strokes on the beach by the river.
When it comes to learning painting, there are many people who won at the starting line, but the children of those famous teachers have long since disappeared, and the plum blossom painted by Wang Mian has now become a national treasure.
Many times, the starting line is not important. It's more important to bite the bullet and keep running.
For the truth of the starting line, Kobayashi drew it with a cartoon, which is very pertinent: don't let the children lose at the starting line, but in fact, don't let their faces lose at the starting line.
We are eager for happiness and hope to get happiness through our own efforts. Whether a person is happy or not stems from his own world view. When we take the initiative to change our wrong world view, our life will also change.
In Waiting for a Flower, Lin Dihuan also told many interesting and informative stories. He poked fun at life and recorded his feelings in a relaxed and humorous tone, as if giving us a key to open the door to happiness. Let readers follow his pen and ink, experience the little happiness in life, and have some interesting pastimes that directly crush wisdom and make people laugh.
After reading this book, I was deeply moved by the happiness between the lines, and I could deeply feel his love for life.
He made me understand that life is a hard journey, only interesting is poetic, and the horizon is far away. In fact, there is only one kind of success, that is, to spend your life in the way you like.
As Russell said in The Road to Happiness, the secret of a happy life is to love life itself.