Now when you grow up, you should just make fun of this statement and become a joke at the dinner table. There is nothing so simple, but if you can judge a person's future development by his quality and values when he is young, you will be very confident.
Because quality, personality and values are a person's basic abilities, they will not be easily changed by outsiders and the external environment, and they have certain stability. The so-called "a leopard cannot change his spots" means that a person's personality is hard to change. Looking at the old three times and looking at the old seven times also reflects the influence of the bottom ability on a person.
In psychology, a person's personality and values have a characteristic, that is stability. In other words, maybe your personality and values will never change in this life. Unless there are some serious accidents, your nerves and brain are stimulated, leading to changes in your personality. That's already related to mental illness, which is very unlikely. Of course, personality is easier to change than personality, and a personality may gradually become extroverted after school leaves society.
Therefore, although the above two sentences are proverbs, they do reflect the rationality and necessity to a certain extent, and I have seen many examples in my life to verify their correctness.
Next, I also want to share with you the conditions and standards for success after judging people by three points. This is my personal idea. These standards are also used to judge people and make friends in my own daily life. I think in the future, whether you are making friends by yourself, looking for a partner, or recruiting people in an enterprise, you can use these standards to be a business partner. If you have feelings about this, please communicate with me.
1. Very enthusiastic. Not content with mediocrity.
Generally speaking, people with this characteristic are people with high achievement motivation. He always hopes to stir up something, and he really wants to do a good job and get the respect and appreciation of the people around him. I will not give up easily when I encounter difficulties, but will try my best to overcome them and do things well.
And once he does something, he wants to be the best, not the second. Even in adversity, he can face all this with a positive and optimistic attitude and adapt to adversity, but instead of obeying adversity, he regards adversity as a stepping stone, faces difficulties and flies against the wind.
At the same time, he will not be satisfied with the status quo, but constantly pursue better himself, challenge himself, get out of the comfort zone and constantly improve his personality.
If we observe the people around us a little, we will find that there is a kind of person who is always eager to do something in a certain field and make some achievements. I had a classmate of the opposite sex in high school who had this characteristic. Although I am the same age, I really feel sorry for myself. The gap with him is too big.
Not only did he get excellent grades, but he was among the top in every exam. His math scores can reach 140+, and his comprehensive literature is above 220. Not only that, he has a wide range of interests. He often appears on the blackboard newspaper in our class and organizes activities. In junior high school, he was the president of the student union. I can cook, play the piano, repair circuits, write calligraphy, swim and have a strong learning ability. Leadership is also excellent. The point is that many of his ideas are completely beyond his age.
When he was in junior high school, he began to make money by himself. The author says selling real estate, looking after shops, etc. And his monthly income and expenditure is 3W+. At that time, he was lucky to sit at the same table with him and share his experiences with me every day. Although he was already excellent at that time, he still worked hard, which can really be described as extraordinary efforts. Every day, I see that his plan is very reasonable and I think very long. I may write the topic late every day and get up at four or five in the morning.
I remember what he said to me at that time. He said he didn't want to be a mediocre person. He must do something to make his family recognize him and people around him recognize him. At that time, I really admired many excellent qualities in him. Now it seems that an objective analysis of this feature in him can also help us judge the people around us.
2. Super self-management ability.
Secondly, I think that people with strong self-management ability are more likely to succeed, which is also the general quality and characteristics of successful people. Throughout ancient and modern times, Chinese and foreign countries, which celebrity is not extremely self-disciplined to himself. Never. Either I am demanding of myself, or I arrange my time reasonably and learn to manage my energy.
Because they have time and energy to manage themselves, that is, to manage their own lives. Is to control your own life. As the saying goes, "Don't sweep the house, don't sweep the world." I don't even want to do my most basic things, I don't want to do it, I can't do it well, I can't manage my time, energy and life well. How can you say that you can manage others? You can manage others well.
Those who observe the outstanding people around me are very good at managing their own time, having their own daily plans and arrangements, long-term plans, and even three-year plans, five-year plans, and 10-year plans. And what they want to achieve. And they will break down the goal and do it step by step. Timely feedback and adjustment when encountering difficulties. This is one of the secrets for them to become excellent.
So do managers. Everyone in the workplace has a lot to deal with every day. Whether it is the daily work arrangement of the company, the task of docking the superior, or the adjustment of special circumstances, it needs strong time management ability to endorse, otherwise it will make things a mess.
When I went to the company for an internship before, I happened to see my responsible sister Sisi. Her computer interface is full of documents and software, which has covered her whole computer interface. I was shocked when I saw it. This is a task that people in the workplace need to deal with every day.
3. There is a big pattern.
We often hear the proverb that "the prime minister can get off the boat in his stomach." This means that the prime minister has a large pattern and a large capacity, and can tolerate other people's mistakes. It is because of the large capacity on board that I can sit in this position. I can leave a good story.
So is modern society. Anyone who wants to be a leader or manager needs a big mind and a big pattern. He should not haggle over every ounce, but talk about other people's faults behind their backs. A person with a small measure will not go far even if he is temporarily in a high position. Because he will always be involved in some personnel disputes, or because of some small interests and reputation.
Meng Yutong, the secretary of Dong Mingzhu, who was very popular some time ago, saw this news. I feel that Meng Yutong is very powerful and capable. She is really a goddess with coexisting values. But at the same time, I admire Dong Mingzhu's big pattern and great measurement. She is willing to cultivate new people, tap new people and recruit Meng Yutong as her private secretary.
Dong Mingzhu pulled Meng Yutong to her side, gave Meng Yutong many opportunities and cultivated her wholeheartedly. She hopes to train Meng Yutong into a senior manager. She doesn't want Meng Yutong to surpass herself, but wants to provide Gree with more high flyers and join Gree to make Gree better, bigger and stronger. I admire Dong Mingzhu's integrity and Dong Mingzhu's overall situation.
In our daily life, how to judge whether a person has a big pattern? 1 I'll see if he has a heart to share. If he brought three bottles of milk, but he enjoyed it himself, but he didn't bring you one, it shows that he is selfish and unwilling to share it with others. The second point depends on his attitude towards things. Some people have to fight for every little thing, and it is completely unnecessary to fight for a victory or defeat. Moreover, he also showed a careful attitude. Third, look at his attitude towards his family doing something wrong. Maybe some people will blame others for all their mistakes, or feel that others are not good and they will be fine. Or unwilling to forgive others' mistakes, always bitter. ...
My personal views on the above three points actually depend on others and the world. When you see yourself more clearly and others more thoroughly, you will know how to deal with the world, you will know what kind of friends you want to make, you will know what you want and take control of your life.