The ultimate goal of the rules is to make children become themselves and serve spiritual embryos. The seven rules provide an ideal environment and platform, and do not conflict with other new education. Educators should have a high degree of consciousness. Parents' attitude towards life is the environment for their children to grow up and create an ideal "country". The world environment and the family environment are two different things. Parents feel that life is beautiful, and children absorb family culture and environment.
1. Rude behavior is not allowed. Any behavior that violates self-awareness is violence. Violence refers to the damage to the senses and the violation of the mental embryo. Including behavioral and psychological harm, threats, ridicule. Sensitive period doesn't count. For example, threats can be demonstrated in the class when they are discovered, and older children can discuss them in the class theme class.
Example: one person guessed the number correctly and cheered, while the other person was uncomfortable. It doesn't matter if you're not in a competitive environment. If there is an evaluation environment for small red flowers, others will feel bad if they take small red flowers.
How to compliment: You must have spent a lot of time on this thing.
For example, the teacher praised one person in the class, and the other children felt bad. See if the teacher's praise has a purpose. You can pay more attention to the process rather than the result. For example, both teachers are recruiting jiaozi, not to mention that Teacher A is recruiting jiaozi, so that Teacher B has a gap ... If you pay attention to the process, just say: Teacher A, how is your jiaozi?
Don't let emotions become the masters of yourself and your children, accompany them first. What did you find after your relationship abdicated? Do you have a better idea? Practice will make each of us better.
If the child does something wrong and the mother overreacts, it will stimulate the child to do the same thing in disguise.
Example: Imitating others to their face will make them uncomfortable (be gentle and firm), but you must have your reasons for doing so. What did you find? ..... Next time you find something interesting, you can share it with your mother.
You can't take other people's things, but your own things are owned and dominated by yourself. (sovereignty and independence) (tangible and intangible). Others' opinions are others' and others' emotions are others'. Other people's space belongs to others. Whether it's your own or someone else's. Your suggestion is your own. You can't give it to others without asking. Suggestions are valuable and need to be invited. Before speaking and sharing, you need to have a consciousness: why do you want to speak? Knock first: I want to give you a suggestion. do you want to hear it ? )
Example: Assign classes to the main class to express my thoughts on teaching. I have some feelings about today's teaching. I see … I heard … I have a question I want to discuss with you. Advice and guidance should be top-down, not bottom-up. Or the organization has a mailbox and a channel to receive suggestions.
Oh, what you think is important to you, and what she thinks is also important to him. Everyone is just sharing their opinions. /kloc-children before the age of 0/4 need the guidance of teachers, and teachers are very sure. For the adolescent children with 14- 16, teachers need to step back if they want to convey their ideas. A better way is: this is my idea, you can figure it out yourself.
/kloc-When a 0/0-year-old child says what he thinks, he can say: Oh, I know what you think now. This can limit his thoughts, and that is his thoughts.
For example, there is a child who crochets to write calligraphy classes. The stroke order and hook method are always different from those of the teacher. First, I looked at him: Oh, your approach is really different. You can write it again, watch it for a while, and then say: I see, this is really different, but you need to be like us in our class. You can write according to your own ideas after class.
At this time, other children also want to scribble. Can we put the lesson plan aside in this class? I have observed that everyone has this demand. Change today's class first, and you can use your pen freely today.
Or put the heavy brushwork into a larger pedigree: let's experience it together. This is the heaviest point, this is the second point, this is the strength we want, and this is the lightest. Let's try it together, all of them. Then try to use the power that suits you best.
Children exchange goods: tell children what they only have the right to use and what they can exchange. Everything at home belongs to mom, except what mom gave you. You can invite children to your space, but you have to ask your mother's permission first.
When children exchange regrets, if it is expensive glasses. The teacher can tell the child who received the glasses that she gave them to you, but because they are too expensive, her mother doesn't agree, and she has no right to share them, so she needs to return them to her. Also tell the child's mother that she needs to distinguish what she has the right to share with her children.
If we can exchange, we can say to the regretful child: it's time for us to say goodbye to it. This means that even if he regrets it, he still needs to accept the result of the exchange.
3. Don't disturb others
When a child is at work, he is disturbed with his child in his arms and says, what are you doing? Yes, don't disturb others. (Reduce interruptions that do not occur)
You can interrupt in an emergency (an emergency is a life-threatening time). If the child bothers you when he is busy, stop and help him at this time. Don't stop her on the spot. It's no use cursing, and it's no use cursing. It's no use cursing death. If you don't teach, he will never know a better way. The child needs to learn. ) Before going to bed at night, teach him how to do it calmly and gently. Just call mom if you need anything today. But it will be better to change the way next time. If there is an emergency, I will disturb my mother.)
For example, when a mother cooks, she must first observe what the child is doing. Don't disturb him when he is quiet and focused.
Please wait: whoever chooses public things first will use them first. Waiting needs psychological space. Take a book and a pen when you go out. You can wait, but you don't have to stop living. Arrange your own time.
Example: If others are late, make your own arrangements. I really have something to say to him: don't worry, I'll go first and make an appointment another day. Or tell him, don't worry, I'm reading. The initiative is always in your own hands.
If many people don't come to the meeting, and the number of people doesn't affect the energy of the meeting, you can tell everyone: I'm sorry, because there are too many people who didn't come, I decided to wait for 3 minutes without authorization, and we will start on time after 3 minutes. You tell everyone how long to wait, and everyone will be relieved and won't be in a hurry. )
For example, children can prepare things and drinks first, and then do homework. Develop a rhythm and habit for children's life. What will she drink when she gets home? After that, she will do her homework naturally There's no need to worry. Parents prepare their children's life order and turn it into a biological clock. If two children start chatting while doing their homework, you can give them something to eat and say, why don't you chat 10 minutes? (10 minutes is an appointment. Sometimes they realize it's time to go back and do their homework and don't remind themselves to chat for a while. )
Please go back to your position: where did you put your things? Note: thoughts, consciousness and emotions should also be in place. What has happened, we have tried our best to solve it. If we still miss them, we can tell ourselves that this matter has been dealt with and we can go back to our position. )
Let's see if there is a place to go back. The order of home location design should be very clear and logical. For example, you will find bags, shoes and hats as soon as you enter the door.
For example, if the child doesn't return to his position, he can say: Ian, I noticed your hat on the table. Watch your tone, son. You can hold her over and squat down and say to her, please return to your position. If the child uses intelligence to say, mom, I'm really tired, observe the child. If you don't want to return to your position, you can rest for 2 minutes and then return to your position. Gentle but firm. If the child is really tired, you need to support the child at this time. Do you want me to help you get back to your place today? Be gentle and firm when the child cries and doesn't want to go back to his place: you can cry, mom will accompany you, and we will go back to your place after crying.
If the husband of the old man intervenes at this time, some old people can't hear the child crying, not because they don't want to hear it, but because they don't have enough psychological space. You can tell them: Are you sad when your child cries? Then take a break and I'll take care of it.
Everyone and every child need an orderly environment, but there are ways to cultivate habits or learn: 1. Watch others do it first, 2. Take it with you, and three. Finally, let her do it herself.
Yi En, may I bother you for a moment? Holding her hand, what did you observe? She will find herself in need of help. Don't stand on the moral high ground and ask children, just cultivate awareness.
Example: The mother reminded the child to clean up, and the child said that I already felt very good. This is a good opportunity to cultivate habits, and you can also take him to the big market to learn classification. But don't use the tone of accusation to ask the child, don't be superior, so the child's feeling is that he is not good and will fight.
6. Learn to reject and accept others' rejection
For example: 1. People don't knock, just go in. You can ask him: Do you need any help? Remind him.
Example 2. How to refuse other people's advice: Thank you, but I don't need it now.
Example 3: How to refuse other people's food? Thank you. Please let me eat by myself.
If the child refuses rudely, it will also hurt people. Children need to be told how to refuse others.
7. Apologize: Have the courage to apologize and ask others to apologize.
Apologizing is actually very precious and cannot be abused. The essence of apology is freedom, not that I am terrible. This determines that apologizing is very slow and needs to be accompanied by emotions to accompany the children to summon up courage.
Wrong is not evil. I'll believe that when I see it. If we don't make mistakes, we have no chance to learn more correctly. We have learned the right things from countless mistakes. Children dare not admit that they feel unsafe.
Taking care of emotions is the first priority. After companionship, in the process of solving problems, we should still take care of the children's feelings.
If the child says no forgiveness, teacher: You don't have to forgive if you are not ready. When you are ready, the teacher will bring him to speak.
For the child who wants to apologize, you need to ask him: Are you ready? If you are not ready, you don't have to apologize.
Apologize and express appreciation: It takes courage to apologize, and I appreciate your courage.
It must feel unsafe not to apologize. Morality comes from feelings, and you can treat it well when you are wrong. When children feel love, they will have a view of right and wrong from their hearts. Doing something wrong is not bad.
For example, when some children apologize, they don't mean it, but they still put pressure on each other and disdain to say, I'm sorry! I have apologized to him. This shows that he is not well accompanied, and the teacher is not neutral when measuring the strength of energy between children.
Before apologizing, it is adventure, and after apologizing, it is freedom. Children need internal development: 1. Everyone makes mistakes, including adults. 2. Experience my courage. If I don't apologize, I will feel guilty.
Others:
Montessori-mental embryo, decoding: absorbing mind, sensitive period. People are now developing into themselves, and adults only provide the environment, mainly relying on their own self-strength. So we should provide an environment for children to develop their spiritual embryos.
Children are naturally quiet, and directly remind them that silence is meaningless. Provide the environment, repair the environment, and the children will come slowly.
Respect is not just an act, but an environment full of love and respect.
The teacher is just a bystander, so don't disturb the children easily. For example, prepare a stool for the teacher next to the bunker.
Reflection:
1. My emotions, I need to take care of my body and emotions first.
2. I can't wait patiently, and I don't have enough psychological space. I always strongly demand to remember my gratitude. So how can children learn to wait?
3. Learn to be your own master, whether it is life, family or time. Emotions and feelings can't make decisions. You need to be responsible for everything yourself.