Footprints on the Snow
Ever since dinner, you have been on the phone, calling once and not listening, calling twice and not listening, calling three times and not listening, until I yelled : "If you want to make a call, just go out and make a call!" With a bang, you actually rushed out the door.
It was snowing heavily outside, and grandma hurriedly ran to look at the wardrobe by the door, lest you didn't have a coat on. Mom is lying on the window looking out to see which direction you are running. I sat in the living room in astonishment, remembering a scene in the movie "The Rope": Chun Yuyi shouted to his "deep love and deep responsibility" apprentice: "Get out of here!" The dozen or so people who followed the master The young apprentice actually packed up his clothes and left.
I always remember the trembling voice of the old actor Wang Yin: "I have raised him for more than ten years, and with such a word, he is really gone!"
How good Wang Yin is in his acting. ah! The anger, confusion and loss in his eyes, aren't they exactly how I feel at the moment?
Son! We've been on the phone a lot lately for you, and we've had an argument so many times! Is the phone call worth hurting your parents' emotions so much?
Maybe it was an angry remark, but you forgot about it after you said it! But you have to know how much that will hurt your parents’ hearts!
Do you remember what you said back two days ago when we blamed you for spending most of your phone time? You said: "I'll pay for it myself, okay!"
Do you still remember your complaint when your mother asked you to help type a letter? You said: "Oh! I have to fight for my things; I have to fight for yours too!"
So I thought, maybe one day, when you can make a lot of money, you will have trouble with us again. , might say: "Let's do this! Calculate how much money I have spent on you since I was a child? How much milk powder I have eaten and how many clothes I have worn. I will write a check and pay it off in one lump sum. We will not owe you anything!"
Then you can just like Chun Yuyi’s disciples, pack up your clothes, run away, and become a truly independent man in the world! Isn't it?
In the past, I read Fromm's treatise on love, saying that the growth of children points to the separation from their parents; and after the separation, it points to the union with another individual to become a new family. I didn't have any feelings when I read it; but today, watching you move away from us step by step, I began to comfort myself with Fromm's theory:
"Is this of course? When the child is older, there are His opinion and rebelliousness are to break away from his parents and become independent!"
The question is, can being separated from his parents negate his parents' kindness? Can the love parents have given over the past ten years be measured by the value of milk powder and clothes? Why don't you count your life?
When I was your age, I was rebellious, always comparing myself with others, blaming my poor family background and too strict upbringing. But one day I read about the Nobel Prize winner Beckett ( Samuel Beckett's play "Endgame" contains a passage:
"The son yelled at his father: 'You bastard! Why did you give birth to me?'
Father: 'I I don't know. '
Son: 'What? What don't you know? '
Father: 'I didn't know it would be you! I began to think about the meaning and realized that there is no choice between children and parents. The most important thing is that this relationship can never be separated.
So you can blame us for inheriting myopia from us. The Chinese concept of discipline blames us for not being billionaires, and even blames us for being unreasonable!
But you can’t blame us for being your parents.
We will never blame you for giving birth. You are ordinary.
We are only grateful for you. I remember when you were a toddler, we often said that you were the cutest when you were a toddler, and you 100% belonged to your parents, but it was different after you went to school.
But when you go to elementary school, we say you are still innocent until middle school!
When you go to middle school, we will talk about how your son is older and you can chat as friends. It’s really interesting! I will leave home and go to college in the future. About to lose him!
But I believe that until you get married in the future, we will still say: "Although it is rare to come back once, thinking of him makes my heart sweet!"
This is love, persistence, and Just no regrets!
But, I don’t know, as you grow up, do you also feel that parents have different cuteness in each stage? Or are you getting more and more bored and really want to pay off what you owe your parents and never be controlled again?
Don’t worry! No matter how old you are, how great you are, how successful or unsuccessful you are, we will care about you as much as we love you.
When you come back from the public phone, if you are careful enough, you will find that although we seemed to have gone to bed without paying attention to you, there are clear footprints of your mother and me on the snow in front of the door...
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