Filial piety comes first among all good deeds. This is a true portrayal of my country's five thousand years of history and a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. Ancient China paid great attention to the way of self-cultivation for being an official. According to historical records, it originated in the Xia, Shang and Western Zhou dynasties. Its main representative was the politician and thinker Duke Zhou. He emphasized respecting virtue and protecting the people, and put forward the theory of moral cultivation with etiquette as the core and filial piety, brotherhood, respect, and love as the main categories. During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, Confucianism, represented by Confucius, first put forward the idea of ??"benevolence" and combined "benevolence" with "propriety". From "benevolence" and "propriety", "filial piety" and "loyalty" were extended. ” Thus establishing a Confucian moral cultivation system for cultivating individuals, dealing with the relationship between individuals and families, and between individuals and the country. The ancients not only talked about filial piety and loyalty to the country, but also practiced it in everything. "Three Kingdoms" records: "Lu Ji was a native of Wu during the Three Kingdoms period. He was an official and became a prefect, and he was good at astronomy and calendar. In the sixth year of Ji's year, he met Yuan Shu in Jiujiang. The skill made people eat oranges. Ji had three pieces in his arms and said goodbye before leaving. Shu, the orange fell to the ground. Shu smiled and said: Lu Lang is pregnant with the orange, what is wrong? This story is that Lu Ji knew that he should be filial to his parents since he was a child, and he would become a genius when he grew up. Later, he became a prefect.
Honoring your parents and caring for your family is not a private matter, but a matter of public ethics as a person or an official. It depends on where you stand and whether the correct way to handle public and private affairs is appropriate. According to "Shishuo Xinyu": "Kan was a great general of the Eastern Jin Dynasty, a pillar of the country, and a parent to the people. He was respected by the world. When he was young, he was a Liang official. He tried to pay his mother with a piece of crucible. His mother said: "What's this? Come? The messenger said: It belongs to the government. My mother Feng You wrote back and said, "You are an official and you are paid by official property. Not only is it not beneficial, but it also increases my worries." This story is about parents in the world who want their children to honor them, but the filial piety must be appropriate. It is not appropriate to give away public property to parents. Tao's mother refused to accept a jar of pickled fish and wrote a letter seriously criticizing her son. This is her mother's good education. Tao Kan has been very filial to his parents since he was a child. He always pays attention to his parents' warmth, warmth and words and deeds. No matter how big or small his official position is, he obeys his parents' instructions and eventually becomes a pillar of the country.
Family is the cell of society. To build a harmonious society and correctly establish the socialist concept of honor and disgrace, we must start from the basics. The family is the earliest place where people receive moral education. Filial piety must be started from childhood and cultivated from an early age. The family is the first classroom for children. Parents should teach by words and deeds in family life, handle various conflicts rationally, respect parents-in-law, be diligent and thrifty in housekeeping, and Be friendly to neighbors, harmonious to relatives and friends, and develop good moral character. In order to ensure that her son would never forget to serve the country, the mother-in-law of the Southern Song Dynasty stabbed the four characters "Serve the Country with Loyalty" on her son's young and immature back. Under her mother's influence, Yue Fei finally became a great national hero. During the Warring States Period, when Tian Jizi, the prime minister of Qi State, returned home, he dedicated a hundred taels of gold donated by his subordinates to his mother. Tian's mother didn't like to question her, so she asked her whereabouts. When she learned the whole story, she warned her son earnestly: To be an official, one must have noble conduct, to honor one's parents, to be upright and honest, to take bribes and to make money is to be unfilial, and unjust money should be rejected. An unfilial son is not a son. My son too! Chairman Mao Zedong was also a model of filial piety. Every time he returned to Shaoshan, he would go to the graves of his parents and kneel down to worship his parents. He was very strict with his children. Shortly after the liberation of the country, before Mao Anying returned to Shaoshan, Mao Zedong specially told her: "You are not allowed to regard yourself as my son in front of the villagers, and you must know how to respect your elders and love your children." Anying was very filial to his father, loyal to the country, and sacrificed his life on the Korean battlefield to protect his family and country, and was praised by the world.
The inheritance and development of the excellent traditional family virtues and filial piety of the Chinese nation are related to the happiness of thousands of families, the harmony of society, and the long-term stability of the country. It is one of the important criteria for judging whether an official is good or bad. . It is conceivable that a person who is not even filial to his parents will be an official. In all dynasties, there were unfilial sons and bad officials. There is a story about "Three Transformations of an Unworthy Son" in "The Wind and Moon and the Laughing Forest": "There are unworthy children in the world who undergo three transformations: first, they transform into locusts, which eat their property; second, they transform into silverfish, which they prey on. The ancient books are kept in the family and eaten; the third one turns into a big insect, and the slaves eat them. If there is no unworthy son, it is because the ancestors did not teach poetry and justice. The ancients said: The leftover son has a box full of gold. , it is better to teach once and even discuss it." The story goes that most unfilial prodigal sons rely on their ancestors’ family fortunes or their parents who are officials. They eat, drink, have fun, and do nothing, which first ruins the family and then destroys society.
Of course, the responsibility lies with them first. However, parents who have not strictly disciplined their children since childhood also have unshirkable responsibilities. Lin Biao and his son Lin Liguo did not teach their children well when they were old, and their sons were not filial to me. They did not behave like me, and their sons did not behave like sons. They acted recklessly and acted tyrannically. They were eventually reviled by the world and became the scum of history. Due to the influence of the market economy, the officialdom is a mixed bag of good and bad, full of the smell of copper, and traditional ethics and morals have been forgotten. Today, there are many unfilial sons and unfilial officials, and there are many people who do not care for their wives and children. Some corrupt officials take bribes wantonly and use unethical property to honor their parents. The essence is not filial piety, but the selfish intention of honoring the ancestors and showing off to others to show that they are capable. Some corrupt officials not only do not care about their wives and children, but also outsource their mistresses. Some of the mistresses are younger than their own daughters and have no official appearance at all. Not only do they not honor their parents and care about their families, but they also corrupt morals, corrupt official conduct, corrupt folk customs, corrupt social atmosphere, and also corrupt the five thousand years of traditional virtues of the Chinese nation.
Using history as a mirror, we can learn from filial piety. Hejin and Jinchang regard filial piety as a standard for selecting cadres. Not only is there nothing wrong with this, but it shows that it is a historical inheritance. The food, clothing, and parents of an official are the common people in the world. Only by being filial to the common people can one be a good person and a good official. This is beyond doubt. It is also worthy of promotion.
Meng Zong was a native of Jiangxia during the Three Kingdoms period. His father died when he was young, and his mother was old and seriously ill. The doctor ordered him to make soup with fresh bamboo shoots. It was a severe winter, and there were no fresh bamboo shoots. Meng Zong had no choice but to run into the bamboo forest alone, holding the bamboo and crying. After a while, he suddenly heard the sound of the ground cracking and saw several young shoots growing on the ground. Meng Zong was overjoyed and took it back to make soup. After drinking it, his mother recovered from her illness. Later he was promoted to Sikong.
Yu Qianlou, a scholar of the Southern Qi Dynasty, served as the magistrate of Chiling County. Less than ten days after taking office, I suddenly felt frightened and sweating. I had a premonition that something was going on at home, so I immediately resigned and returned home. When I got home, I found out that my father had been seriously ill for two days. The doctor said: "To know whether the patient's condition is good or bad, just taste the patient's feces. It tastes bitter." So Qian Lou tasted his father's feces and found that it tasted sweet. He was very worried. At night, he knelt down and worshiped the Big Dipper, begging for his body. Die on behalf of my father. His father died a few days later. Qian Lou buried his father and stayed there for three years.
Zhu Shouchang was a native of Tianchang in the Song Dynasty. When he was seven years old, his biological mother Liu was jealous of her aunt (father's first wife) and had to remarry someone else. For fifty years, there was no communication between mother and son. During the reign of Emperor Shenzong, Zhu Shouchang was an official in the court. He wrote the Diamond Sutra with blood and traveled far and wide to find his biological mother. After getting clues, he decided to abandon his official position and go to Shaanxi to look for his biological mother. He vowed never to return unless he saw her mother. Finally, I met my biological mother and two younger brothers in Shaanzhou. Mother and son happily reunited and returned together. At this time, my mother was already over 70 years old.
Huang Tingjian, a native of Fenning (now Xiushui, Jiangxi) in the Northern Song Dynasty, is a famous poet and calligrapher. Although he held a high position, he served his mother with utmost filial piety. Every night, he personally washed the toilet bowl for his mother. He never forgot his responsibilities as a son.
Cai Shun, a native of Runan (now Henan) in the Han Dynasty, lost his father when he was young and was very filial to his mother. At that time, Wang Mang was in chaos and there was famine. Firewood and rice were expensive, so they had to pick mulberries and their children to satisfy their hunger. One day, he happened to meet the Red Eyebrow Army. The rebel soldier asked sharply: "Why are the red mulberries and black mulberries put in two baskets separately?" Cai Shun replied: "The black mulberries are for the mother to eat, and the red mulberries are left for the mother." Eat it yourself." The Red Eyebrow Army took pity on his filial piety and gave him three measures of white rice and a cow to take back to his mother as a show of respect.
Huang Xiang, a native of Xia'an, Jiang, Eastern Han Dynasty, lost his mother at the age of nine and was extremely filial to his father. In the hot summer, she fanned her father's pillow and mat to cool down; in the cold winter, she used her body to warm her father's bedding. When he was young, he was well versed in classics and his literary talent was very high. It was widely spread in the capital that "there is no one like him in the world, the Huangtong of Jiangxia". Emperor An (107-125) was the governor of Wei County (now part of Hebei Province). Wei County suffered from floods, and Huang Xiang did everything he could to help the victims. He is the author of "Ode to the Nine Palaces", "Ode to the Emperor's Crown", etc.
Guo Ju was a native of Longli (now Linxian County, Henan Province) in the Jin Dynasty. It is said that he was a native of Wenxian County, Hanoi (southwest of Wenxian County, Henan Province today). His family was originally well-off. After his father died, he divided the family property into two shares and gave them to his two younger brothers. He was solely supported by his mother and was extremely filial to her. Later, the family gradually became poor and his wife gave birth to a boy. Guo Ju was worried that raising this child would inevitably affect the support of his mother, so he discussed with his wife: "We can have another son, but the mother cannot be resurrected after death, so it is better to bury the son and save some food to support the mother." "When they were digging a hole, they suddenly saw a jar of gold two feet underground, and wrote: "God has given Guo Ju, and the officials cannot take it, and the people cannot take it."
The couple received gold, returned home to honor their mother, and were able to raise their children.
Lu Ji, a scientist from Huating (now Songjiang, Shanghai), Wu County, Wu State during the Three Kingdoms period. When he was six years old, he followed his father Lu Kang to Jiujiang to visit Yuan Shu. Yuan Shu entertained him with oranges, but Lu Ji hid two oranges in his arms. Before leaving, the oranges rolled to the ground. Yuan Shu laughed and said, "Lu Lang came to my house as a guest. Do you want to carry the owner's oranges when you leave?" Lu Ji replied, "My mother likes to eat oranges. I want to take them back and give them to her." Mother has a taste. "Yuan Shu was very surprised to see that he knew how to be filial to his mother at a young age. When Lu Ji became an adult, he became erudite and knowledgeable, proficient in astronomy and calendar calculations. He once wrote the Map of the Huntian, annotated the Book of Changes, and wrote the Commentary on the Taixuan Jing.
Jiang Ge was a native of Linzi, Qi State during the Eastern Han Dynasty. He lost his father when he was young and served his mother extremely filially. During the war, Jiang Ge fled with his mother on his back. He encountered bandits several times. The thieves wanted to kill him. Jiang Ge cried: his mother was old and had no one to support him. Seeing his filial piety, the thieves could not bear to kill him. Later, he moved to Xiapi, Jiangsu Province and worked as a hired worker to support his mother. He was poor and barefoot, but his mother had many needs. During the reign of Emperor Ming, he was promoted to be filial and honest, and during the reign of Emperor Zhang, he was promoted to be virtuous and upright, and he was appointed as a lieutenant general with five senses.
According to legend, Ding Lan was born in Hanoi during the Eastern Han Dynasty (now north of Henan and Yellow River). Both his parents died when he was young. He often missed his parents’ nurturing grace, so he carved statues of his parents out of wood. , everything is discussed with the wooden statue, and he eats three meals a day after serving his parents. He must inform him before going out, and meet him when he returns home. He never slacks off. Over time, his wife lost respect for the wooden statue and curiously pricked the wooden statue's fingers with a needle, and blood flowed from the wooden statue's fingers. When Ding Lan came home and saw tears in the eyes of the wooden statue, he asked for the truth and then abandoned his wife.
Dong Yong, according to legend, was a native of Qiancheng (now north of Gaoqing County, Shandong) during the Eastern Han Dynasty. He lost his mother when he was young and moved to Anlu (now in Hubei) to avoid war. Later, his father died, and Dong Yong sold himself as a slave to a wealthy family in exchange for funeral expenses. On the way to work, I met a woman under the shade of a locust tree and said she was homeless. The two got married. The woman spent one month weaving three hundred pieces of brocade to pay off Dong Yong's debts. On her way home, she walked to Huaiyin and told Dong Yong that she was the daughter of the Emperor of Heaven and was ordered to help Dong Yong pay off his debts. After speaking, he flew away in the air. Therefore, Huaiyin was renamed Xiaogan.
Lao Laizi, a hermit from Chu State during the Spring and Autumn Period, farmed at the southern foot of Mount Meng to avoid chaos. He was filial to his parents and served them all the delicacies he could. He was still young at the age of 70. He often wore colorful clothes and played like a child with a rattle in his hands to make his parents happy. Once when he was delivering water to his parents, he fell when he entered the house. He was afraid that his parents would be sad, so he simply lay on the floor to study. The child cried while the elders laughed.
Tanzi, a native of the Spring and Autumn Period. My parents are old and suffer from eye diseases, so they need to drink deer milk to treat them. He put on deer skin and went into the mountains, got into the deer herd, squeezed the deer milk, and offered it to his parents. One time when he was collecting milk, he saw a hunter about to shoot a muntjac deer. Tan Zi hurriedly lifted up the deer skin and walked out. He told the hunter about the fact that he had squeezed deer milk to treat his parents' illness. The hunter respected him as a filial piety and gave him deer milk as a gift. , escorting him out of the mountain.
Min Sun, courtesy name Ziqian, was a native of Lu during the Spring and Autumn Period and a disciple of Confucius. He was known as highly virtuous as Yan Yuan among Confucius. Confucius once praised him and said: "How filial, Min Ziqian!" ("The Analects of Confucius·Advanced"). His biological mother died early, and his father married a second wife and gave birth to two more sons. His stepmother often abused him. In winter, his two younger brothers wore winter clothes made of cotton, but they gave him "cotton clothes" made of reed catkins. One day, when his father went out, Min Sun shivered due to the cold while pulling the cart, and dropped the rope. He was scolded and whipped by his father. The reed flowers flew out along with the broken seams, and his father knew that Min Sun was being abused. The father returned home and wanted to divorce his second wife. Min Sun knelt down and begged his father to forgive his stepmother, saying, "I am the only one who will suffer the cold if I leave my mother. If I divorce my mother, the three children will suffer the cold." His father was very moved and agreed to his request. When his stepmother heard about it, she regretted her mistake and treated him like her own child from then on.
Zhong Yuan, also named Zilu or Ji Lu, was a native of Lu during the Spring and Autumn Period and a proud disciple of Confucius. He was straightforward, brave and very filial. In his early years, his family was poor, so he often picked wild vegetables to make meals, but he carried rice home from hundreds of miles away to serve his parents. After the death of his parents, he became a high official and was ordered to go to the state of Chu. He was accompanied by hundreds of chariots and horses, and he had as much grain as ten thousand bells.
Sitting on the folded brocade mattress and eating a sumptuous feast, he often missed his parents and sighed: "Even if I want to eat wild vegetables and carry rice for my parents, where can I get it again?" Confucius praised: "You Serving your parents can be said to be doing your best while you are alive, but you will miss them after you die." ("Confucius' Family Sayings: Thoughts")
Zeng Shen, courtesy name Ziyu, was a native of Lu during the Spring and Autumn Period, Confucius' pride*** *, known as "Zengzi" in the world, is famous for his filial piety. When he was young, his family was poor and he often went into the mountains to collect firewood. One day, a guest came to the house, and my mother was at a loss, so she bit her finger with her teeth. Zeng Shen suddenly felt distressed. Knowing that his mother was calling him, he quickly returned home carrying firewood and knelt down to ask why. His mother said, "A guest came unexpectedly. I am biting my fingers in hope that you will come back." Zeng Shen then received the guest and treated him with courtesy. Zeng Shen was a man of profound knowledge and once proposed the self-cultivation method of "I should examine myself three times in a day" ("The Analects of Confucius·Xueer"). It is said that he wrote Confucian classics such as "Great Learning" and "The Classic of Filial Piety", and later Confucians respected him as "Zongsheng" .
Emperor Liu Heng of Han Dynasty, the third son of Emperor Gaozu of Han Dynasty, was born to Empress Dowager Bo. He became emperor in the eighth year of his reign (180 BC). He was known all over the world for his benevolence and filial piety, and he never slacked off in serving his mother. His mother had been ill for three years, and he often couldn't sleep without blinking an eye or taking off his clothes. He personally tasted the decoctions his mother took before letting her take them with confidence. During his 24 years in office, he emphasized moral governance, promoted etiquette, and paid attention to the development of agriculture, which made the Western Han Dynasty stable, the population prosperous, and the economy recovered and developed. His reign with Emperor Jing of the Han Dynasty was known as the "Government of Wen and Jing."
Shun, a legendary ancient emperor and one of the Five Emperors, had a surname of Yao and a given name of Chonghua. His nickname was Yu, and he was known as Yushun in history. According to legend, his father Gusou, stepmother, and half-brother Xiang tried to kill him many times: when they asked Shun to repair the roof of the barn, they set fire under the barn, but Shun jumped down and escaped with two bamboo hats in hand; when they asked Shun to dig a well, Gusou Sou and Xiang went down to fill the well, while Shun dug a tunnel to escape. Afterwards, Shun showed no resentment and was still respectful to his father and loving to his younger brother. His filial piety moved the Emperor of Heaven. When Shun was farming in Mount Li, elephants plowed the land for him and birds weeded for him. Emperor Yao heard that Shun was very filial and capable of handling political affairs, so he married his two daughters Ehuang and Nvying to him. After years of observation and testing, Emperor Yao selected Shun as his successor. After Shun ascended the throne as emperor, he went to visit his father. He was still respectful and made Xiang a prince.
Jiang Shi, a native of Guanghan, Sichuan in the Eastern Han Dynasty, married Pang. The husband and wife were filial, and their home was six or seven miles away from the Yangtze River. Pang often went to the river to get the Yangtze River water that her mother-in-law liked to drink. The mother-in-law loved to eat fish, so the couple often cooked fish for her to eat. The mother-in-law didn't want to eat it alone, so they invited the neighbor's old lady to eat with her. Once, due to strong winds, Pang returned late from fetching water. Jiang Shi suspected that she was neglecting her mother and kicked her out of the house. Pang lived in his neighbor's house, worked hard day and night spinning and weaving, and entrusted his neighbor with his savings to send home to honor his mother-in-law. Later, her mother-in-law learned about Pang's expulsion and ordered Jiang Shi to invite him back. On the day Pang came home, spring water suddenly spewed out of the courtyard. The taste was the same as that of the Yangtze River water, and two carps jumped out every day. From then on, Pang used these to worship his mother-in-law, so he no longer had to go far to the riverside.
Wang Pei, a native of Yingling (now southeast of Changle, Shandong) during the Wei and Jin Dynasties, was erudite and versatile. His father Wang Yi was killed by Sima Zhao. He lived in seclusion and devoted himself to teaching. He never sat facing the west throughout his life, indicating that he would never become a minister of the Jin Dynasty. His mother was afraid of thunder when she was alive and was buried in the mountains and forests after her death. Whenever he heard thunder in windy and rainy weather, he would run to his mother's grave, kneel down and comfort her, saying: "Pe'er is here, mother, don't be afraid." When he was teaching, whenever he read the chapter "Polygonium", he would often With tears streaming down my face, I missed my parents.
Cui Shannan, named, was born in Boling (now part of Hebei Province) in the Tang Dynasty. He served as the military governor of Shannan West Road and was known as "Shannan". At that time, Cui Shannan's great-grandmother, Mrs. Changsun, was old and lost her teeth. Her grandmother, Mrs. Tang, was very filial. After washing every day, she would go to the hall to feed her mother-in-law with her own milk. After several years, Mrs. Changsun no longer ate any other food, and her body remained healthy. healthy. When Mrs. Changsun was seriously ill, she called the whole family together and said, "I can't repay the kindness of the bride. I hope that the bride's descendants and daughters-in-law will respect her as she respects me." Later, Cui Shannan became a high-ranking official, and he was indeed like the eldest grandson. Madam's instructions, honor your grandmother, Mrs. Tang.
Wang Xiang is from Langya. His biological mother died early. His stepmother Zhu said bad things about him many times in front of his father, causing him to lose his father's love. When his parents were sick, he was still undressed to serve him. His stepmother wanted to eat live carps. It was freezing cold, so he undressed and lay on the ice. The ice suddenly melted and two carps jumped out. After the stepmother ate it, she recovered from her illness. Wang Xiang lived in seclusion for more than 20 years, and later rose from the rank of magistrate of Wen County to Grand Sinong, Sikong and Taiwei.
Wu Meng, a native of Puyang in the Jin Dynasty, knew how to honor his parents when he was eight years old. The family was poor and had no mosquito net. Mosquito bites prevented my father from sleeping peacefully. Every summer night, Wu Meng would always sit naked in front of his father's bed, letting mosquitoes bite him without driving them away, fearing that the mosquitoes would leave him and bite his father.
Yang Xiang was from the Jin Dynasty. When she was fourteen years old, she went to the fields to harvest rice with her father. Suddenly, a fierce tiger ran up and knocked her father down. Yang Xiang was unarmed. In order to save her father, she completely ignored her own safety. She hurriedly jumped forward and strangled her with all her strength. The tiger's throat. The tiger finally put down his father and ran away.