Most of today’s children are only children, or in families of three or five, all with children as the center and focus. Their material life can be said to be oversaturated, while their spiritual life is relatively monotonous. , bland, vague, and even somewhat missing. Under the influence of the baton of the college entrance examination and the blind fierce competition, while ensuring the children's good physical fitness, everyone invariably focuses more on the students' academic performance. Little attention is paid to students' physical and mental health, and little attention is paid to the improvement of children's actual abilities. "Everything is for the children, for everything for the children." Although as a teacher, I am not knowledgeable enough or experienced enough, we have the enthusiasm for teaching and educating people, keen observation, endless creativity, the courage to explore, and the courage to practice. In practical activities, I found that every child has rich potential and active desire to create. They can obtain a variety of information from the external environment, and selectively absorb and internalize it to make their own Various abilities have been developed to a certain extent and gradually matured and improved. Below I will share with you all the details during the actual operation. 1. Timely communication, equal talk, and full trust. Each child is a relatively independent individual, coming from different families, with different life experiences, and unique personality. In learning life, some friction will inevitably occur. If handled properly, everyone will be happy, and it is more likely to enhance the friendship between each other; if handled improperly, a small matter may turn into a big deal, or even lead to a fight, causing accidental injuries, which not only hurts the body, but also hurts the emotions. When dealing with conflicts between students, I adhere to one principle: timely communication, equal talk, and full trust. Primary school students already have a certain ability to judge right from wrong, control emotions and solve problems. It is often better to give them a certain amount of time and space, give them appropriate guidance and guidance, and let them solve their own problems. The more important point is to always believe that they make mistakes unintentionally, and that they will "never do it again". Over time, just like the "Pyramid Marion Effect", they will become gentle and rational. ① As children grow older, expand their knowledge, and enhance their abilities, they become more and more independent and want to have the right to decide things. But when it comes to communicating with others, there will also be corresponding hurdles. Especially when you have disagreements with your elders, you will always have unspeakable troubles and you will inevitably feel aggrieved. If communication is not carried out in a timely manner, conflicts will accumulate, the mood will become worse, and rebellious psychology will gradually form. Timely and reasonable communication is very necessary. Practice has proven that it is easier to reach an agreed solution when talking based on trust. 2. Create an atmosphere, encourage reading, and cultivate sentiment. Books are one of the most important ways to record human knowledge. Read, read, there is a golden house in the book. Why do some children not like reading? Let’s put this question aside for a moment and take a look at why some children like reading so much. The book contains a lot of knowledge and hides many mysteries; the storylines narrated in the book are very vivid and exciting; the language used in the book is very beautiful and intoxicating; books are our silent mentors, inspiring us. Make us smarter... Create a comfortable reading environment for students, prepare suitable reading books, and create a good reading atmosphere. Then good reading habits will be formed unconsciously. Look! The classroom is very quiet, and his deskmate is watching the numbers with relish, with a faint intoxicated smile on his face from time to time. Will he still get carried away and have nothing to do? During the story telling, all the classmates were eloquent and vivid. Didn't he regret that he had read too little and had no "goods" in his stomach? 3. Cultivate interests, develop potential, and show off your strengths. When it comes to "interest", most people will equate interest with specialty training classes, such as calligraphy, painting, musical instruments, dance, vocal music, etc. Are all the children in those interest classes interested in those skills and really like them? This is not the case. The reason may be that he is really not interested and is forced to do so; or it may be that the instructor failed to make him interested, and the instruction method needs to be improved. I think interest itself is not the most important thing, what is important is cultivating students’ perseverance qualities. If you want to take a specialty class, you should carefully consider it when choosing, and finally let them choose on their own, and tell them that since they have chosen, they should be responsible for their own choices, and they should not give up halfway unless there are special circumstances.
Of course, instructors and parents should actively cooperate and provide appropriate support for children on their way forward, and parents should be more persistent. The skills may not be developed, but the process should leave a deep impression, the ups and downs should be tasted, and the quality of perseverance should be developed. "Interest" does not equal specialty training. "Interest" refers to something you particularly like to do, and cultivating it invisibly in real life is the most important. It is more reasonable to make them spontaneously develop a certain interest in something through various channels and then cultivate it in an orderly manner to make it a specialty. 4. Participate in practice, exercise abilities, and cooperate to win. Practical activities involve all aspects, and people, things, and things are intertwined. The relationships between them are intricate, and some of the situations that occur can be predicted while others are unpredictable. It is related to but not the same as talking on paper and preaching verbally. Whether the knowledge you have learned is truly mastered, whether the principles you have learned are truly understood, and whether the ideas in your mind are practical and feasible, the key depends on whether the practical activities and actual operations are successful. Organize practical activities with rich content and various forms to allow students to go out of campus and understand society. They not only learn to study, but also learn to do things and learn to be a human being. One hand cannot clap, and one person cannot perform "double act". In practical activities, you can exercise your brain and hands-on skills, learn to divide labor and cooperate, brainstorm, do your best, make choices and give up, and maximize efficiency so that you can achieve the best results. These cannot be achieved in ordinary independent learning. 5. Seize opportunities, challenge yourself, and enhance confidence "Why are lucky people always lucky and unlucky people always unlucky?" ② The key lies in "choice". Our life is actually a process of constant choices. In the face of opportunities, we choose to seize or give up, in the face of difficulties, we choose to overcome or compromise, all in one thought. How to cultivate students' spirit of challenge, improve students' resistance to frustration, and make students more confident? Through organized and planned practical activities, students have made certain progress in the exercise process. For example, a "press conference" is held every week, with equal opportunities and rotation. When they learned that they could broadcast the news they collected and compiled to their classmates like a newscaster on TV, some students were looking forward to it, some were worried, and some were indifferent. But everyone must do this, and how well you do it depends on whether you take it seriously. Some students attach great importance to "news broadcasting", use various channels to collect the latest facts, rehearse actively, make full preparations, and broadcast on stage confidently and loudly, winning rounds of applause from their classmates; while students who do not pay attention and perform poorly You can only get kind criticism and suggestions from teachers and classmates. Of course, the mood afterwards was different. Of course, if you experience failure, you should learn lessons and strive to do better next time; of course, you should not be proud of small successes, and you will try your best to do better. Gradually, in daily conversations, you will find that their expression and communication skills are constantly improving, and people have become more confident. In the future teaching process, we will pay more attention to the harmonious development of students' body and mind. While enriching students' knowledge, we will pay more attention to the cultivation of students' abilities. "Teaching them a fish" is not as good as "teaching them how to fish", which will benefit students throughout their lives. 1. Yin Jinjin and Hu Hui "Analysis of the Formation of Student Autonomy Behavior from a Psychological Perspective"