We live in comparison. Where there is darkness, there is light, where there is hatred, there is love, where there is badness, there is good. Only with others and what others do can we know who we are and what we are doing. What.
Everything exists in comparison. Without ugliness, there is no beauty, and without loss, there is no gain. Similarly, we are always afraid of death, and if people could really live forever, I think people would be equally afraid of eternity, or tired of eternity, as they are afraid of death.
Socrates’ teachings on life
Several students asked the philosopher Socrates: "What is life?"
Socrates took them Go to an apple forest and ask everyone to walk from one end of the forest to the other and pick an apple that they think is the biggest and best. Don't go back, don't choose twice.
During the process of walking through the apple forest, the students carefully and carefully selected the apples they thought were the best. When everyone arrived at the other end of the apple forest, Socrates was already waiting for them there. He smiled and asked the students: "Have you picked the fruit that you are most satisfied with?" Everyone looked at me and I looked at you, but no one answered.
Seeing this, Socrates asked again: "What's the matter? Are you not satisfied with your choice?"
"Teacher, let us choose again," said a student Qiu said, "When I first walked into the orchard, I found a big and good apple, but I also wanted to find a bigger and better one. When I walked to the end of the orchard, I found the apple I saw for the first time. That one is the biggest and the best."
Another one went on to say: "I am exactly the opposite of him. Not long after I walked into the orchard, I picked what I thought was the biggest and best fruit. However, later I picked another fruit. I found a better one. So, I feel a little regretful.”
“Teacher, let’s choose again!” Other students also asked in unison.
Socrates smiled and said sincerely: "Children, this is life - life is a choice that cannot be repeated."
Faced with a life that cannot be turned back, We can only do three things: make a serious choice and try not to leave regrets; if you regret it, face it rationally and strive for change; if you can't change, accept it bravely, don't regret it, and keep moving forward. .
Don’t be angry but strive for success, don’t see through and try to break through.
Those who are tired must learn to let go. Free yourself from the prison of your heart. All the depression is buried in the bottom of my heart. You might as well learn from Banqiao's confusion, or you might as well imitate Ah Q's self-deprecation, face today bravely, and face tomorrow with a better smile.
If your hands are sore, you can put down the things in your hands; if your heart is tired, please put down your worries. Don’t be angry but strive for success, don’t see through but make breakthroughs, don’t be jealous but appreciate, don’t delay but be positive, don’t be tempted but act. How much we deviate from the truth creates how much trouble and anxiety we create.
?Independence - Standing at Thirty
Confucius said: "I am fifteen when I am ten, and I am determined to learn. I am standing at thirty. I am not confused at forty."
< p> Standing at thirty is a kind of ideological independence, having one's own attitude towards dealing with the world and life.During the Eastern Han Dynasty, there was a young man who relied on copying books to support his family because of his poverty. One day, he stopped writing and sighed: The real man is on the battlefield. Faced with the ridicule of his contemporaries, he said, "A young man knows how to be a strong man."
After that, he joined the army and went out to the Western Regions, making great achievements.
The true sign of a person's maturity is to have his own opinions when things happen and to have his own principles in doing things.
Integrity - Keeping your word
People cannot stand without faith. Those who have achieved great things in ancient times are all people who keep their word.
At the end of the Qin Dynasty, there were knights in Chu land who were upright, righteous and helpful. No matter how difficult it is, he always tries his best to do what he promised. There is a popular saying among the people that "it is better to get a hundred catties of gold than to get a promise of Jibu", and this is where the promise of a thousand gold comes from.
Integrity not only means not telling lies, being honest with others, and being able to keep your promises, but it also means being able to know yourself honestly and face yourself without making excuses for yourself.
Self-control - be sad but not sad
"The Analects" says "Be happy but not obscene; be sad but not sad". Xunzi also said "You cannot take away anger, and you cannot give out happiness" . ”
Self-control is an essential ability in life.
There are many temptations on the road of life, and self-control is your safety barrier to successfully pass the edge of the cliff.
Wu attacked Yue and the king of Yue was captured. After three years of working in the palace of Wu, after returning home, he slept on straw and tasted gall, never forgetting it for a moment, and finally three thousand Yuejia were able to swallow Wu.
Only those who can control themselves can control their own destiny.
Tolerance - don't blame bygones
Don't talk about things that have happened; don't admonish people for things that have happened; let bygones be bygones.
Let the past go. If you hold on to the past, you will not be able to embrace the future.
Whether it is hatred or resentment, let the past emotions fill your heart, and the sunshine and love will naturally not be able to enter.
Jiang Wan presided over the administration of Shu, and his subordinate Yang Xi was speechless. Some people said that Yang Xi was neglecting Jiang Wan, but Jiang Wan laughed it off and said, "This is exactly what makes him reliable as a person." This is the story that the prime minister can hold a boat in his heart.
Tolerance is the driving force for people to move forward. You can chase after those who come. Don't wallow in the clouds of the past.
Reflection - Three Reflections a Day
People cannot live without criticism and self-criticism, otherwise a person cannot make progress.
Examining the heart and reflecting on yourself is a good way to understand yourself and gain efficiency in life.
Liu Gongquan has shown talent in calligraphy since he was a child. One day, he met an old man without hands. The old man's writing with his feet and ink was better than his handwriting. From then on, he guarded against arrogance and impetuosity, reflected on himself, and eventually became a master of calligraphy.
Han Yu once said, "Walk the clear spring to purify yourself." Only by putting yourself among the crowd and examining yourself can you truly see your own shortcomings.
Action - Silent words but quick deeds
Talking without doing is equal to zero. The road is not talked about but walked out. Success is not thought out but actually done. .
"A gentleman is slow in words but quick in deeds", and it is just a dream that turns into nothing. People who do everything by talking without actually doing anything are hypocritical and hypocritical.
Learning - Reviewing the past and learning the new
Time never stops, and learning never stops for a second. Learning is an indispensable ability for people.
Lu Meng, the general of the Three Kingdoms, was born in the army. He did not like to study at first. He started studying under Sun Quan's persuasion. Later, during a political discussion with Lu Su, Lu Su sighed: "The people you have today are talented and talented, and they are not the ones who restored Wu." "Down to Amon". This is where the amazing story comes from.
Learning is not limited to the student years. Modern society is advancing rapidly and information is flowing. If you don’t learn for a moment, you will be abandoned by the times.
I remember someone said this: People always have to learn. When you die, you graduate.
Summary - Think of others when you see them
A person who is good at summarizing will not have bad luck. Summary is not a calculation, but a spur and encouragement to yourself.
Only by summarizing can people turn experiences into experiences. Summary is like a kind of accumulation, a kind of precipitation. Summarize your own shortcomings and find your own position, so that you can surge forward next time the wind blows.
People who do not understand summary progress will be slow.
Optimism - A basket of food and water in a humble alley
A simple hut, a basket of food and a basket of water is all that life has to offer. Will you feel bleak and downcast in such a life?
This kind of life is exactly the true portrayal of Yan Hui’s life. When others feel painful about this ascetic life and feel sad for Yan Hui, Yan Hui lives happily with a sunny attitude. .
Happiness does not lie in things, but in ourselves.
Easy-going - gentle and gentle
Easy-going people are the most blessed.
Many people have the impression that Lu Xun is serious and cold, and they feel that it is difficult to get close to him. But in fact, Lu Xun was also an easy-going person in life.
Xiao Hong once said: "If someone said something ridiculous, Mr. Lu Xun would laugh so much that he couldn't even hold his cigarette, and he would often laugh until he coughed."
Easy-going is the fifth The wind of the moon can warm everything. An approachable person can always broaden his life path unconsciously.
Regardless of whether you are rich or poor, everyone must possess these ten abilities.
These ten abilities are like ten steps. Only with them can we walk more steadily and go further.
Every path in life is an opportunity to open up a new world
Only by keeping a normal heart can you face the storms in life with a smile. Everyone has something to do. A truly smart person is confused about small things but wise about big things. He is low-key and insightful. Being a human being is like water, using softness to overcome hardness. Only those who fight without fighting can have the last laugh and become the real winners.
Life is so long, live your own life, others don’t need to say anything, as long as you think it is right, it is right! There is no wasted road in life. Any road you take is an opportunity to open up a new world. If you have the opportunity, why bother thinking about other things?