Whether we are studying or working, we all know that it is very important to set goals, and we will also formulate our own goals before taking action. But we must pay attention to how to set the right goal, otherwise it will be in vain.
1. Goals vary from person to person
Everyone has different abilities, time, and experience. You can use other people's goals as a reference when setting goals. Then combine it with your actual situation and set the appropriate one. For example, Teacher Zhang Meng advocates getting up at 4-5 o'clock in the morning. Like me, I usually go to bed late (after 11:30). If I get up at 5 o'clock and cannot take a nap during the day, I can only sleep for more than five hours a day. In the long run, it will affect the body and then affect work and life. So I set a goal for myself to get up at 5:50 and not take additional naps during the day, so that I can maintain 6-6.5 hours.
2. The goal is clear and single
Clear and clear means that there are definite standards that can be calculated and measured. For example, specify writing goals. The first category is to strengthen writing practice; the second category is to write 30 articles a month, each with 1,000 words. The second category is clear and specific goals.
Having a single goal means not setting goals in too many areas on the same timeline. If you have writing exercises, calligraphy practice, running, and learning English at the same time. First, each piece of learning consumes a lot of our energy and even interferes with each other. Such as encountering difficulties in the process of learning English and feeling depressed. When you start practicing running, you may be tired and have no energy to face running. Furthermore, as soon as things pile up and we are too busy, we will break everything, creating a vicious cycle.
3. Specify the target that can be achieved by jumping
Specify the target according to your own ability. If your usual level is 80 points, set 85 Or a 90-point goal. If it is too low, there will be no challenge and freshness, and it will be meaningless for one's own growth; if it is set at 95 or 100, we have many abilities and will be easily hit when we can't pick it up, which is also disadvantageous. So we set goals that are a little higher than the original ones based on our abilities. When doing it, you can work towards harder and higher directions.
In the past few days, I have been reading the "Life Efficiency Manual" and started to set goals for myself. Maybe I am too impatient. I also want to learn this, and I also want to learn that. So I decided on three or four sections for myself. I could barely finish it on the first two days, but on the third or fourth day I started to procrastinate, and then I lost confidence in myself.
So tonight I talked to Lin Yi about Lele’s study. The school has various school tasks, which are all uniform. But for Lele, some tasks are too much or beyond his capabilities. At this time we cannot blame, all we can do is encourage and praise. Because the children are already frustrated and defeated, it is meaningless for us to educate them. Love and understanding are even more needed at this time. Maybe with love and understanding, he will have more courage to face challenges.