In interpersonal communication, many people are afraid to associate with strangers, mainly because they don't know what to say to strangers and always feel tha
In interpersonal communication, many people are afraid to associate with strangers, mainly because they don't know what to say to strangers and always feel that they can't find a topic to communicate with. Here I have compiled the skills of communicating with strangers for your reference.
Communication and conversation skills with strangers 1. Listen to the accent.
When communicating with strangers, listen to the accent first. If you recognize this accent, say, "Are you from Shandong?" The other party said, "Yes, how do you know?" You said, "I hear your accent is like Shandong's. Are you here for business or development? ..... "Then we can talk about related topics.
But listening to accents requires you to be familiar with the accents of various places. At the same time, it is best to learn a few local dialects and a few more iconic words, such as learning a few Wuhan dialects: "What's going on?" Learn a few words of Sichuan dialect: "Do you catch the old man?" What's the matter with you? In this way, when you meet a Sichuanese, Wu * * *, saying a few words will immediately close the distance and naturally lead to more topics.
Communication and conversation skills with strangers. Ask your hometown and find a topic.
This is a widely used way, but many people have nothing to say after asking about their hometown. After asking about your hometown, there must be something to continue.
There are generally two situations when you ask your hometown:
One is that you are familiar with this place. For example, if the other person says that he is from Wuhan, I will immediately say, "I studied in Wuhan, Huazhong University of Science and Technology, and stayed in Wuhan for four years." Then you can talk to him about the weather in Wuhan, how the bus is blocked, and how the universities in Wuhan are.
There is another situation, that is, you are not familiar with that place and don't know the situation there. At this time, most people don't know how to continue their conversation. For example, if the other party says that he is from Sixian County, Anhui Province, and he has never heard of this place before, he will ask, "What is the most famous in Sixian County?" "Is there any specialty in Sixian County?" After throwing these questions, let the other party play. Every place always has something they think is good, which is also the topic that people are most willing to talk about. At the same time, there is obvious pride on their faces. This will gradually increase the number of topics.
Communication and conversation skills with strangers. Look at the face and observe the color.
After meeting strangers, look for relevant topics from the outside. For example, he has a book in his hand, and I can say, "Hey, what book are you reading?" Of course, what kind of related topics will be found to talk about. Furthermore, you can look at clothes. Generally, we can see a person's occupation, working environment and so on from his clothes, and we can make these breakthroughs.
Communication and conversation skills with strangers. Take work, occupation and graduation school as topics.
1, graduation school:
"You also graduated from Huazhong University of Science and Technology, alas, brother! Which session are you in? "
"Xiamen University? Oh, that's a beautiful university. One of my classmates went there for postgraduate study. That Yi Zhongtian is also from your school, isn't she? Awesome! By the way, what's your major in Xiamen University? "
"Sichuan University, I heard that you have a lot of beautiful women and are very happy, unlike our engineering school and monk school. Which session did you graduate from? "
People who have studied in universities should know something about universities more or less, and it is easy to find topics, especially those famous schools. What should I do if I meet an unknown school? You can focus on "ability".
The other party said, "A primary school. You certainly don't know what I told you." We can say: "School education is not the most important thing, the most important thing is the ability to work. Development in society depends on strength, don't you think? "
2. Work and occupation:
"You are a buyer and buy a lot of oil and water."
"Animal trainer? I admire the trainer most. I can speak clearly when I stand on the stage, but I can't. I was too nervous to speak when I went up. Can you help me with a few tricks? "
"Entrepreneurship? It is not easy to start a business, but this kind of life experience is still very valuable. Everyone who starts a business like you has many stories to tell, whether it is a success story or a failure story, right? "
"Do foreign trade? Is foreign trade good now? What kind of foreign trade do you do? Where to do it? "
Communication and conversation skills with strangers. Try to find out the dialogue and explore the similarities.
After you start a conversation with a stranger, you should gradually look for similarities and create topics in the conversation. During the conversation, we tried our best to find out whether each other has any hobbies.
For example, surfing the internet, what kind of websites do you usually go to? Do you want to play games? What kind of games do you play?
For example, calligraphy, I used to learn face. What kind of font do you write? I haven't practiced for a long time Can you teach me some skills?
For example, chess, China chess exercises one's thinking and makes people do things step by step. I haven't played for a long time Shall we kill two sets when we are free?
For example, reading, what kind of books are you reading? Economy and management? I've been reading Drucker's book recently, and I think his management concept is still very good, don't you think? Wait a minute.
Communicating with strangers actually boils down to one sentence: "Be good at finding the same topic."
If you feel that you can't find the same topic, there are two situations. In the first case, you don't listen carefully and don't look for it. Living in the same era, in the same country, looking for it with your heart, how can you not have the same topic? In the second case, I don't know anything about each other. At this time, you should think about why, is your knowledge narrow? Know too little about yourself? How to enrich yourself?
Eloquence and interpersonal skills are not enough, but also internal enrichment. Eloquence is a person's internal and external performance, so if you want to communicate with strangers smoothly, you should pay more attention to accumulating a little bit at ordinary times, so that you can know a little bit no matter what you talk about.