Versatile girls are all piled up by their parents with money.
No matter in the past or in the past, no matter what you study, tuition is not a small expense for any family. All kinds of talent classes in China charge according to class hours, ranging from dozens (or remote small cities) to hundreds. The hourly salary is comparable to that of foreign high-income lawyers and psychologists. It takes a year or two to more than ten years for children to get a basic introduction to talents, and it is another matter to take a professional road. In addition, the supporting expenses are a dime a dozen, and you need to learn painting, calligraphy, ink, paper, ink and watercolor pigments; Learning musical instruments, the price of a musical instrument is at least one month's income of a worker's family; Dancers, costumes, props and competitions are all inseparable from money; When I was in college, I caught up with the youth training team of Real Madrid and cooperated with Guangzhou Evergrande to recruit young players by borrowing the football field of our school. As a fake fans, I signed up as a volunteer, registered children and families, and chatted with the staff. Only then did I know that they should look at their children's families as well as their qualifications when enrolling students, because the cost of training a player is beyond the affordability of ordinary families.
Forgive me for being an amateur. Every time I see a versatile friend, I can't help silently calculating how much effort and money her/his parents put into them when they were young. How parents coerce their children to persist and how to pick up sparring partners rain or shine, the children need not say more. When I was a child, I watched other people's parents force their children to be more compassionate, so I thought why not let them have their own childhood. When you are old, look at your skills and your versatile friends. Only envy and happy childhood? Honestly, who remembers what he looked like when he grew up? Are you happy? In memory, it will naturally change its appearance. It was the most bitter and tiring at the beginning, and it may be the sweetest to recall. At the beginning, the happy childhood had already disappeared in the ocean of memory. Chatting with many versatile friends, most people say that I didn't understand my parents when I was a child. When I grow up, I am really glad and grateful. Probably what our parents and teachers used to say when we were young, "You will understand when you grow up."
So if one day I have a child of my own, I must be bad mother who ignores the child's beautiful childhood, which will be the wealth of the child's life when he grows up.
What if I don't? I can only make up lessons by myself.
Which girl doesn't dream that she is brilliant and admired by ten people, and which parent doesn't want her children to be versatile and eye-catching. Unfortunately, due to economic problems or such and such problems. I and many friends like me don't have such an opportunity. What should I do? When I grow up, I can only make up lessons by myself!
Maybe it's because I am a restless person. Since I started working in SOHO the year before last, I have been able to arrange my own time freely. I always want to learn everything and make up this important life lesson. Fortunately, now that I have earned money, I have the ability to support my dreams with my own income, and I don't have to feel that I have added a burden to my family. I calculated the cost of my own study or self-study.
Guzheng: The second-hand guzheng bought on idle fish, the elm pipa in Dunhuang is 693OH, 1 1,000 yuan, and the tuition fee for guzheng class is 4,500 yuan a year. This is one of the few things I have learned seriously in class, and most of the others are self-taught or semi-self-taught.
Piano: used Korean Sany piano, 65,438+00,000 RMB. I found a piano teacher who is also a teacher and friend. The elementary course 1000 RMB. I usually browse various piano teaching videos at home and press them myself.
Calligraphy: Pure self-study, bought brush and ink Xuan paper, and doodled on copybooks and videos.
Violin: This is a second-hand violin that my father bought me for 80 yuan when I was a child, and then sent me to study for two months. My father brought it to me from my hometown after I moved. Now there is a crack on the back of the violin. I don't remember whether it was cracked when I was a child or left for so many years. Although this will be a huge investment by my father, my friends still think what I said is a joke. I occasionally take it out and think about what the teacher said when I was a child, and then play it to the teaching video, but friends who know a little about musical instruments know that the violin is really a bit difficult. After playing the piano for ten years, you must be a master, maybe you haven't started playing the violin for ten years. I'm still sawing wood. No, sawing iron pipes. They move and sound like sawing iron pipes. It's really ugly. At this stage, it is basically thrown aside and occasionally picked up for fun. Of course, on the premise of not disturbing the people.
As my signature says, "I have a wide range of interests, but I have no experience at all", which is really wide. Maybe I suddenly want to try to learn something else. Maybe one day I will learn from Ming Xi, who lived in Zhu Youxiao, but I don't like mountains and rivers and love carpentry.
I am 28 years old. Being a junior, it's frustrating, right? Is it too late to learn something? I think it's too late to start now if I want to take the professional route. If it's just fun, I don't think it's too late to be 40 or 50. Learn something, not to please anyone, not to achieve anything, but to please yourself. When the work pressure is high, writing two strokes or playing a song is really decompression. The pressure of modern life is too great. I need something to decompress myself and divert my attention.
Why I don't want children (now)
My classmates and friends around me have gone into sunbathing madness, and my parents often beat about the bush to urge me, but I'm really not interested, not because I don't like children. On the contrary, I belong to the alarmist who began to study how to educate the next generation when I was single. But I'm afraid of having children, but I can't raise children according to my own ideas because of financial constraints. I have only one child (or at most two) in my life. What kind of powerlessness is it that I can't provide the resources I want at the best training time? I think it's also irresponsible to raise a child without my ability. If you've been incapable, it's no big deal not to have children. Cultivate yourself to be the person you want to be and live the life you want. If you have children, provide the necessary resources so that he/she can learn his/her talents and live the life he/she wants.
Some people say, why do you think you can cultivate your talents, but you can't afford to cultivate a child? My point is that adults have a certain degree of self-discipline and know what they want, so they can learn by themselves with interest. Children must go through systematic training and lay a good foundation, so the cost of training is different.
In fact, it is not only to cultivate a child's talent, but also that it is difficult to cultivate a child in all aspects now. A while ago, I read a sentence in an article that "the state advocates a second child, but it makes people feel that two-income families are not worthy of having children", which is deeply touched. Don't really give yourself this trouble when the conditions are not enough. Now, unlike my parents' generation, my dreams can't be realized, and I can only pin all my hopes on my children. In today's society, we cultivate ourselves with the energy of cultivating children, and believe that we will live a different life.