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The head teacher asked me to talk about family education for children, that is, how we educate children. To be honest, this really puts me in a bit of a dilemma. I really don't have anything special to say, so I stopped by to discuss it with you.
How to educate children and make them grow up healthily and happily is really not an easy task. In my opinion, what kind of mentality parents use to treat their children and their success or failure have a great influence on their growth. Every child has his own advantages and disadvantages. As parents, it is important not to always compare the strengths of others with the weaknesses of their children. How to do this well, parents must have a good attitude to pay attention to their children, which is what we often call "normal heart". We should see more children's strengths and weaknesses, affirm and appreciate more, and criticize less, so that children will not lose confidence because of their parents' nagging. Take our children's exam results as an example. When children show me their report cards or test papers, I never ask her where you rank in the class. I never scold her (I can't do well in exams every time) so as not to cause her psychological pressure. I often tell her: you are not stupid, but you are not particularly smart, but if you can think more and don't know how to ask more questions, then don't compare with others, just compare with yourself and see if you have made progress than before, so you can definitely do better. At the same time, make use of children's bright spots, praise them more and give them enough confidence. As long as children are confident, they are not afraid to do things badly.
At home, we are not only children's elders, but also children's friends. Don't use our thoughts to influence children's behavior, give them some self-space, and use a fashionable word-decentralization, so that children have the right to decide their own affairs, respect their opinions and affirm their decisions. I remember when I was in primary school, I sometimes asked her to do some homework. After she finished the school homework with good quality and quantity, she protested that we had the right to control our spare time. We think what the child said is reasonable, so we respect her opinion and believe that she has the ability to arrange her spare time. Later, we found that she did her homework faster, finished her homework at school, and the quality of her homework improved, so she had a lot of extra time to do what she liked. We often treat children as adults, talk to her about the problems we encounter and listen to her opinions and suggestions. Although the degree of adoption is not very great, I can know the child's thoughts in conversation, and more importantly, I can understand the psychological and ideological growth process of a child. When you tell your child the truth, the child will also tell you the truth about himself and truly become friends with the child. At the same time, I can also get the first-hand information of my children, so that I can find and solve problems in the first time, which is more conducive to the healthy growth of my children.
In the process of children's growth, parents should also make some sacrifices. In the lower grades, the homework assigned by the teacher every day generally needs the signature of the parents. I don't think it is necessary for our parents to check whether their children's homework is done correctly, right? Instead, we can learn about children's learning situation, the amount of homework at the present stage of the school, and the depth of homework in various courses, so that we can find out the problems of a certain class of children in time. In my opinion, it is very important to find problems in time at an early stage and help children in time. At the same time, we don't watch TV when our children are doing their homework, because children are always children and have poor self-control ability, so we need to be reminded once and for all to cultivate good study habits. In the process of children's growth, our parents should also keep learning, accept new things and get closer to their world. In short, study with children and grow up again! !
2. An old friend said, "A strict teacher makes a good apprentice; Strict father has a dutiful son. " Saint Amethyst said, "If you don't teach, your father is wrong, your teaching is lax and your teacher is lazy." All illustrate the importance of strictness. I have also inherited this traditional educational concept in educating children, and I have always been strict in education and management. I have criticized the child's growth and even hit him. Under my strict education and management, children have achieved good results in all aspects.
With the growth of children's age, they have been able to distinguish right from wrong, know honor and disgrace, and their self-esteem has been continuously enhanced. It is no longer appropriate to solve problems strictly. What children need more is more understanding, more tolerance and more care. Parents also need to change their educational concepts from "strictness" to "leniency". For example, my child was elected vice monitor in the fifth grade next semester, and his grades in all subjects in the first half of the semester were excellent. However, in the second half of the semester, due to our busy work, we didn't supervise him enough, and he was complacent because of his excellent mid-term exam results, so he relaxed in his studies and didn't know the final exam results. I didn't do well in the exam and the children were under great pressure. I dare not inform my parents on the school open day, and I stayed up late on the day of returning to school. What are we doing? Go on the rampage. Or be lenient? According to my previous personality, it must be a scolding. But I didn't do it this time. In order to stabilize the child's mood, I specially rushed home to see him at noon, and let him have free activities in the afternoon, go out for a walk together in the evening, talk while walking, help analyze the reasons and put forward the goal requirements. Tell him to put down his ideological baggage, forget the past and only look at the future. This incident touched him greatly, educated him deeply, and put pressure on him invisibly to turn bad things into good things. At the beginning of the new semester, with the careful training and education of teachers, his learning attitude is correct, his consciousness is stronger, his academic performance has been greatly improved, and all aspects of the school's performance have also satisfied us. Here, I would like to express my deep gratitude to the teachers for their training and education!
Educating children is the biggest headache for parents. How to grasp the degree of "strictness" and "width" is easier said than done! I am willing to explore and solve this problem with all parents.
3. From the sociological point of view, any role has its specific role norms. Under the general goal of cultivating children to become useful people, the roles of parents and teachers have their own contents and characteristics, that is, their own role norms. Family education, how to better grasp children's personality and assist school education in teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, has attracted more and more attention from parents.
My son, Wang Yinghao, is the monitor of Class 6 and Class 3, and a student with all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique and beauty. All along, what we parents do is to create a relaxed family environment for our children and let them grow up happily.
I think parents must have a good attitude, be normal, don't expect too much from their children, and learn proper praise and timely criticism. For my son's grades, I often say, "This only represents the past, not the future. Good test. Great. Please make persistent efforts; " It doesn't matter if you don't do well in the exam. You just have to work hard next time. "If we find anything unusual in our son, we will contact the class teacher and analyze the root causes together, so as to prescribe the right medicine and conduct effective education and guidance.
I think the most fundamental task of family education is to teach children how to behave, so that they can have a caring and helpful heart from an early age and benefit him for life. My son has done a good job at this point, and all the teachers and classmates in the school have given high praise, and his popularity is quite good. We should also give our son sincere love, not only providing him with necessary material living conditions, but also satisfying his psychological needs with caress and care. Parents are children's words and deeds, so they need to use their own words and deeds to influence and educate their children and be good examples for them.
Treat children with democratic consciousness. We always treat our son equally at home. Especially everyone is equal before mistakes. If we are wrong, our son can also make comments and criticize our parents. However, when we find that he has made a serious mistake, we will not let him go easily and educate him in time. Wang Yinghao has a strong personality. If he insists that he is right, it will be difficult to convince him. Tell the truth and be reasonable. We often argue about a problem or a point of view. If my son refuses to accept it, he will find the basis in the book himself. I think the truth will always become clearer and clearer. A relaxed and equal family atmosphere is more conducive to the healthy growth of sons.
We consciously cultivate children's sense of responsibility in daily life. Let him know that he is responsible for his own affairs, and learning is his first priority. Since the first grade, my son has developed the ability of independent learning to finish his homework before coming home from school. At first, because of his small size and poor self-discipline, he often needed our supervision, but gradually his son got used to nature. My son was once afraid that too many public activities of class cadres would affect his study. I did his ideological work and told him that simply pursuing academic achievements is not a good student with all-round development. Only under the premise of ensuring academic performance, actively exercise one's social activity ability, so that the two can promote each other, is the truth of being a really good student. After enlightenment, the son correctly handled the relationship between study and activities, actively assisted the teacher to complete various tasks, and won the trust and praise of teachers and classmates.
Computer is his favorite, but we agreed with him that we can only play computer on weekends, and he consciously carried it out well. We will also guide him to watch some useful TV programs, such as "Tell the truth", "Focus Interview" and "Lucky 52", which are very speculative and are of great help to expand his knowledge, improve his expression ability and improve his composition level. Besides watching some cartoons, he also likes to watch some science and education films such as Animal World and Exploring Mysteries.
My son's personality is very unique, and he won't "follow the crowd" since he was a child, which caters to our need to cultivate his independent thinking ability. I have always wanted my son to form the concept that "learning is happiness", so that he can learn happily and find happiness in learning. So when my son was 4 years old, I took him into the children's library. From then on, he found that he was very happy with books, and gradually developed the habit of reading extra-curricular books, which was of great benefit to his writing level. When visiting the bookstore, I also try to let my son choose his own books. As long as he is interested, he will watch them after buying home, even several times. He read a set of Romance of the Three Kingdoms twice, a set of dozen naughty Ma Xiaotiao three times, a set of science adventure books four or five times and a set of brain teasers n times ... I really envy that sleepless night. After reading it, he will discuss with me some things about Three Kingdoms, Water Margin and Water Margin. Through reading, he introduced his son into a world of magical books, making his life more colorful and interesting.
Studying hard requires a healthy body. Football, roller skating, badminton, swimming, table tennis, taekwondo, calligraphy, singing, street dance, painting, chess, flute ... As long as our son likes and is interested, we will try our best to satisfy him.
Parents should leave their children as much time as possible, which is very beneficial to their growth. I ask him about his school almost every day. Although I am busy at work, I spend as much time as possible listening and playing with him. In the intimate time with my son, I will feel that it is not only my son who is happy, but I am also enjoying his growth and sharing his happiness. We take our son out to travel every year, so that he can get in touch with life, observe the world and broaden his horizons. Because observation is a pair of smart eyes, let the son observe nature with his own eyes, feel the world different from books, and master the knowledge outside the classroom.
I once read in books that parents must "make progress every day" if they want their children to "study hard". I think this sentence is very correct. In such a rapidly changing society, the content of learning is updated quickly. Only by constantly enriching ourselves can we help our son at a higher level.
After constant attempts, in the communication with our son, we chose the most suitable parenting style, and built a bridge between us and our son with "trust, respect, tolerance, understanding and encouragement".
Son, I hope you have a relaxed and calm, happy and free knowledge flying in the sky!