When encountering setbacks, some people are decadent and sinking, and some people have an epiphany, grow up and lead their own wonderful lives. Fortunately, I belong to the latter.
Six years ago, when I was in middle age, I suffered a major setback, which plunged my life into darkness.
I began to try to find the light. Writing is like a beam of light, comforting my soul, illuminating my life, accompanying me through that dark time and making me reborn.
Once upon a time, I had a stable job, a harmonious family, a lively and lovely son and a happy family of three.
I am extremely easy to satisfy and never ask too much.
In addition to work every day, take care of your family and children as your ultimate goal. I never realized that I should learn something to improve myself.
Life at two o'clock and one line every day makes me like a frog in the well. I only see the sky above my head, but I don't know it. I have been complacent and confused for many years.
Until the autumn of 20 13, I was in middle age and suffered a family change.
This change was like a heavy punch, which woke me up at once.
I opened my ignorant eyes and observed the world carefully.
It is found that the times are advancing, the society is progressing, people are changing and everything is changing.
Change is the normal state of this world, and change is the true face of life.
And myself, not enterprising, unchanged for several years, how can I not be eliminated by the times?
Peer Luo Zhenyu, the founder of app, is the initiator of cultural products and knowledge of New Year Speech, and the cumulative broadcast volume of Luo Ji Thinking program exceeds 65.438+0.5 billion.
He is also a middle-aged man. He has never stopped growing for many years, and has made great achievements in cross-border transformation.
Although you can't compare with celebrities, it's only a matter of time before you don't learn, grow and be eliminated.
After learning from this painful experience, I dried my tears and pulled myself together again.
Forget the past and face the future positively.
I rekindled my enthusiasm for work;
For children, I am no longer completely child-centered, but let go appropriately;
For myself, I began to study and exercise, and my life became full.
I used to rely on others when I encountered difficulties and troubles, and I never had the consciousness to face and solve them myself.
From 20 13, when I faced everything alone, I understood that relying on mountains to eat, relying on the sky to eat, relying on everyone to run, life can only rely on myself.
A good friend and a close relative may help for a while, but not for a lifetime.
It is dangerous and naive to pin your life on others.
The only person who truly loves you unconditionally is himself except his parents.
Be strong and be your own backer!
As Luo Zijun said in "My First Half Life", it is better to let others take an umbrella for yourself.
After encountering setbacks, Luo Zijun did not bow to fate, but became independent and self-reliant, and finally realized the counterattack of life.
You can't go back. You came out in the first half of your life, but you still have to come out of your own wonderful life in the second half.
I also want to rewrite my own history and live a high glory.
I took the driver's license on 20 19.
Driving test, I never thought about it before.
One is to rely on others, and the other is to feel that you can't learn.
The process of practicing driving refreshed my cognition: some things are not difficult to do before losing confidence, but they are difficult to do because of losing confidence.
As long as you want to learn, you have a way; There are countless reasons to be afraid.
I practice driving with some young people in their twenties every day. Although I am a slow learner, I have the courage to meet the challenge.
Unless you push yourself, you will never know that you still have that great potential.
Later, I passed every exam once, with excellent results, surpassing many young people. This is the most fulfilling thing for me in 20 19.
In the summer of 20 18, my son was admitted to his favorite university, and I had more free time.
Suddenly I was idle and didn't know what to do.
Reading, always dozing off; Chasing the drama, you will blame yourself after chasing it; Exercise, fishing for three days and drying the net for two days; Learn all kinds of knowledge and often dabble in it. ...
I was confused at that time.
Until March 2020, I read Mr. Long Xiong's book Who says you can't persist? One of them said, "Have you found something you love?" Hit my heart, fresh in my memory.
Yes, I am ashamed to say that many young people have made achievements, but I don't know what I love when I reach middle age.
Looking at friends around us, everyone has their own hobbies, such as planting flowers and grass, dancing, practicing calligraphy and even playing mahjong. What do I like?
It was not until I participated in the training camp of Writing 365 platform that I found that writing was my favorite.
Since then, I have established my life goal-writing.
Having a clear goal is like being reborn. Efforts have direction, progress has motivation, and there is hope for the future.
Writing training, although hard, can persist in doing what you like, no matter how tired, my heart is full of joy.
I thought of the actor Zhou Xun, who didn't have his own goals when he was 18 years old. He sings and dances in the art school every day, smugly taking on some small roles.
Until one day, the professional teacher asked her, "What kind of person will you be in ten years?"
A word awakened Zhou Xun, so she set her own goal and worked hard for it. At the age of 28, she finally achieved her goal.
What will I be like in ten years?
Focus on writing, work hard for a long time, and publish at least two books in ten years.
As Kant said: Living without an aim is like sailing without a compass.
In the past, I had a small pattern and only my own world in my heart.
After attending the 365 writing training camp, I was presented with a vast world.
Teacher Peter's sharing made me realize that personal writing can not only record life and changes, but also convey ideas, spread values and become an influential person.
In my previous thinking, I think this is a matter for journalists and the media, not my own.
It turns out that I can also improve my value and establish my personal influence through writing.
A few days ago, I sent an article "tenacious life" in a circle of friends, praising the chlorophytum, growing silently, accumulating strength and blooming luxuriantly; And to use things to describe people, one should also strive to grow up, take root inward and shine the brilliance of life.
The next day, a young colleague said that she had read this article twice in a row, and especially recognized my point of view.
I am very happy. I didn't expect my article to affect my colleagues around me and inspire her to make progress.
As Teacher Peter said: The ultimate comparison between people is influence. How many people you can influence, how much value you have.
Teacher Peter also said that a person's strength is limited, and a group of people with the same frequency can work together to form a joint force and produce greater influence.
He said: no matter how hard one tries, he can't keep up with the times. Only by organizing dozens, hundreds and thousands of people to work together can you stand on it and feel the pace of the times.
I have been deeply inspired and shocked since I took part in the writing training.
Writing has been given a new mission in my heart.
Although I am still far from such a goal, now, writing has reborn me.
I have clearly realized that I want to live like a beam of light, illuminating myself and others. On the road of writing, I will forge ahead and bloom the wonderful life.
Thanks to that setback, I had an epiphany. Otherwise, I still live an endless life, which is sadness.
Thanks to writing, I was born again. Not only found the goal of progress, but also improved the pattern and understood the meaning of life.
Jing Yidan once said: It is never too late for a person to start.
Grandma Moses began to learn painting at the age of 77, and held a solo exhibition at the age of 80, which made a sensation all over the world. Grandma Moses was a late bloomer and became one of the most famous and prolific primitive painters in the United States in his later years.
Although I am middle-aged, the road to writing has just begun.
I want to write productivity and influence with the pen in my hand, and walk bravely and firmly on the road of writing.
Finally, I want to encourage you with one sentence: