Chongqing Business Daily reported that if you were a post-80s generation, would you choose a single female doctor who is over 40 years old, has study abroad experience (Weibo), has a car and a house, and has an annual salary of over 6,543,800 yuan as your girlfriend? On the evening of February 23, Kelly, a 40-year-old female doctor in Nan 'an District, put forward her own almost harsh criteria for choosing a spouse on the scene of a marriage and love TV program: handsome, with a height of 1.75 meters or more, chest muscles, talking eyes, and a preference for perfume, preferably after 80s. The result of blind date is naturally nothing.
Women's criteria for choosing a spouse are a little different.
Yesterday afternoon, when the reporter saw Kelly wearing light makeup near two intersections, her yellow hair in her forties was pinned with a pink hairpin, and the shiny nose nail near the tip of her nose was particularly eye-catching. In sharp contrast to the pedestrians who used to be wrapped up, Kelly only wore a dark striped shirt, a pair of simple jeans and a pair of medium boots. Wearing a bright blue decorative tie around her neck, Carrie's dress is a bit of a campus style, which makes it hard to imagine that she is actually 40 years old.
"Handsome and humorous, with a height of 1.75 meters or more, beautiful chest muscles, talking eyes, decent clothes, love to use perfume and love to spoil." Seeing the reporter asking about her mate selection requirements, Kelly broke her fingers and told the reporter a number. Finally, she stressed that "he also likes pets and can allow puppies to sleep in the bed."
"The handsome boy after 80 is my ideal partner." Carrie revealed that although it is acceptable for single men aged 65,438+06 to 60, considering factors such as values, lifestyles and looks, the current spouse selection group is mainly locked in the post-80 s range.
After studying abroad, I often deal with the post-80s generation.
Carrie told reporters that she bought a house of more than 90 square meters in Hayes Garden in Nan 'an District in her early years, and she also had a car under her name. At present, he is a financial consultant of a financial group with an annual income of more than 100 thousand. Carrie said that when she was young, she also wanted to find a mature man who was several years older than her and could take care of others, but she was delayed because of her busy work.
In 2002, Carrie went to Ukraine to study, and studied at Ukrainian National University of Aeronautics and Astronautics, Ukrainian National University of Koh Samui and Zaborozh Humanities University. In 2008, she returned to China after receiving a doctorate in management.
"Most of my classmates and colleagues are married and have children, and most of their spare time is with unmarried post-80 s." Carrie said that during her study abroad, she was an older student in her class, and her classmates were basically post-80 s. She also dated a Ukrainian boy born in 1980s who was 14 years younger than her for more than a year. After returning to China, she has been engaged in company management for a long time. The subordinates who often deal with her are basically post-80 s. "My knowledge system, values and looks are close to post-80 s. I think my mate selection criteria are no problem." Said Carrie.
The search for true love will last until the age of 60.
"Why can everyone accept older men looking for younger girlfriends, but older women like me can't accept younger guys?" Carrie said, "There is no shortage of the opposite sex around me. There are men aged 36 to 56, but they can't fully meet my requirements. " Carrie said that most people of her age are out of shape, like playing cards and drinking tea, and some even like calligraphy; A little younger, she feels that the other person lacks experience or knowledge.
"I work at the age of 20, study abroad at the age of 30, and find true love at the age of 40. The first two items have been completed perfectly, and I will stick to the last item. " Kelly said that she will stick to her views on marriage and love and mate selection until she is 60 years old. "At the age of 60, with the development of society, my concept may change."
Evaluation by all parties.
Male guest: Her innocence and cuteness are a little too much.
Yesterday afternoon, the reporter contacted a male guest who asked not to be named. He once met Kelly on a dating show. The man admitted that although Carrie was dressed younger, she could still see the traces left by the years.
"It's a little strange, her innocence is a bit too much." The male guest said that it is still difficult for him to accept this type of partner. "And in simple contact, I feel that there is a kind of' self-centered' loneliness in the other person's personality."
Post-80s: I'm afraid I can't hold on to the "three-high strange girl".
"I am afraid that the' three high strange women' can't hold on." Li Xing, a 25-year-old single man in Beibei District, said that he still hopes to find a suitable girl of similar age to fall in love and get married. "High education, high income and high age." Li Xing said with a smile: "The first two items are stressful for me, and the last one may be stressful for my mother."
However, Meng Liang, a 27-year-old from Jiulongpo District, holds a different view: "If she has never been married, she can still consider it. I am afraid I am not worthy of her other conditions."
Colleague: At first I thought she was twenty-six or seven years old.
Yesterday, the reporter interviewed Carrie's colleague Yang Ruoya by telephone. Yang Ruoya, 2 1 year-old, born after 90, joined the company a few months ago. "I initially thought she was at most 2067 years old. I heard that she is a 40-year-old Dr. Haigui, and we all feel incredible. " Yang Ruoya told reporters that Carrie is very enthusiastic and can mingle with young people after work.
Mother: You can't get married until you find true love.
"Life is so diverse, so should our values." Yesterday, 70-year-old mother Ka said on the phone: "You can't get married for a house and a car. You have to find true love to get married. The days are theirs, and we will not interfere too much, let alone arrange blind dates for our daughters. " Mama Ka said, "Even if Carrie chooses to be single in the end, we will support it."
Expert comments on spouse selection of highly educated single women
Easily rejected by ordinary men
Yesterday, the reporter interviewed Jeffrey Chang, an expert on marriage and love in jiayuan, about Jiali's situation. She pointed out that highly educated women are easily rejected by ordinary men when choosing a spouse. Because most men think that highly educated women are pedantic or have a strong life, which men don't like.
In response to Carrie's idea of finding a post-80 s boyfriend, Zhang Jiarui reminded that contact in the life circle is completely different from contact in love and marriage. If it is only because there are more than 80 generations around her, it will be extreme and one-sided. Zhang Jiarui also analyzed that in terms of psychological maturity, men are generally later than women. However, if the combination of a family is contrary to common sense, it requires both sides to have a deeper understanding and tolerance of each other, and the love between brothers and sisters can be completed.
Zhang Jiarui reminds older women that it is best to know themselves clearly in love, and then decide whether they are suitable for sister-in-law's love, and finally enter the marriage hall. (Reporter Wang Yang)
Source: Hualong. Com- Chongqing business daily