My son is in the first grade of junior high school, and my attention has also shifted from the smokeless battlefield of elementary school to junior high school to the high school entrance examination. Faced with the fact that the middle school he attended has only a 30% admission rate, it is impossible to say that I am not nervous. I don’t know what kind of education path he will have if he becomes the 70% who are eliminated. Corresponding to my nervousness is his indifference. Of course he has a goal. Of course he hopes that he can directly enter the high school of his school and become one of the 30% of children. However, in the actual learning process, his motivation seems to continue to be insufficient. .
During the three months of staying at home due to the epidemic, this child, who should have taken the time to study hard, was once addicted to games and online novels to the point of forgetting to sleep and eat. Not only did it affect his studies, I also discovered through this phenomenon He had a lot of problems with his habits, and I began to reflect on the companionship and habit education I had given him in primary school. When I thought about it, I became more and more frightened, and I felt more and more like a mother who had done nothing.
There is a super powerful full-time stay-at-home mother in Japan. She has a name that is familiar to more Japanese families - "Higashi University Mom" ??- Sato Ryoko. She graduated from Tsuda University with an English major, worked as an English teacher at a private high school, and became a stay-at-home mother after getting married. She accompanied her four children to get admitted to the University of Tokyo School of Medicine, which is notoriously difficult to get into. Various media and tutoring organizations have invited her to share her experience.
She respects the different natures of each child and has summed up many original methods that are both efficient and meticulous. She has written many books on tutoring children's learning, such as "90% of the College Entrance Examination Depends on the Mother". The books she published are called "Positive Accompanying Methods for Dongda Moms", "Daily Development Manual for Super Academics" and "General Training Strategies × Route Planning Guide".
With anxiety and admiration, I found her latest book "The Best School District Room Is Your Home Study Room" published by Houlang to study. After reading this book, I couldn't help but sigh , with such a mother, such dedication and companionship, it is impossible for the child not to have an outstanding personality!
Wherever your energy and efforts are, there will be your gains! A wise and patient mother is the ideal for excellent children. If every mother could be as meticulous, patient, scientific and intelligent as Sato Ryoko to accompany her children in their studies, every child could become a top student! Her four children have all been admitted to the University of Tokyo, the most difficult university in Japan. If you can accompany your children to study like her, it will definitely not be a dream for your children to be admitted to Peking University and Tsinghua University! A simple excerpt is as follows:
1. Don’t blame, don’t compare, and provide backup.
Home is the happiest memory for children. Don’t be the mother who makes your children feel without warmth.
Nowadays, too many families are kidnapped by intense study pressure. From the time the child is born, they have to "don't let the child lose at the starting line." Therefore, the child's life needs to be constantly challenged from the beginning. To be urged, to be disciplined, to be compared. In fact, home should be the happiest memory for each of us. It should have a gentle mother, delicious meals, a super father and a fun-filled family life.
Learning is a long-term battle, and examinations are the fairest playing field. You will get as much reward as you put in. Children who are not forced are happier! Be a mother with a strong heart, support your children, encourage your children, and become the most solid support force in your children's hearts. This is what every mother should be!
2. 0-3 years old, stimulate children's potential.
Modern child psychology research shows that the brain development of children between the ages of 0 and 3 has a huge impact on life. Ryoko Sato's approach is to read 10,000 picture books to each child before they are 3 years old, sing nursery rhymes 10,000 times, and play as much as they want.
Children who read good picture books often need their parents to read them over and over again. Each reading counts as one book, and the same picture book read ten times counts as ten books. The advantage of reading the same picture book repeatedly is that children will become familiar with the content of the picture book. In the process of becoming familiar with it, children will start to think basicly and understand the connotation that the picture book wants to express.
The beauty of nursery rhymes lies in the exquisite language. Does a mother who hums and sings nursery rhymes to her children at all times think that they are the best and warmest memories of childhood?
As for having fun, it makes sense. Don’t underestimate the role of children’s play. Games are the best way for children to learn, and children who have time to play will be exercised in the process of playing. It's not just the body but also a lot of cognition and logical thinking. Letting children play as much as they want early in life is a wise parenting concept.
I did this. Thinking about it this way, I barely feel at ease.
3. Preschool, let children fall in love with the good habit of learning.
Montessori’s parenting philosophy advocates the cultivation of sensitive periods. When it comes to children's learning habits, Ryoko Sato's approach is very scientific: seize the child's sensitive period and let the child fall in love with learning before school.
Don’t disturb your children when they are focused on playing. This is a concentration training for your children. When the child enters the sensitive period of painting, guide the child to use the most convenient flower materials to draw, and do not stick to one pattern. You don’t have to follow the requirements exactly. If the child likes to use crayons, start with crayons, and if he likes watercolors, use watercolors. Children feel the joy of learning, which is the secret weapon to make children fall in love with learning.
For boring oral arithmetic exercises, you can use markers of different colors to mark them. If you do an oral arithmetic with a color block every day, your child's interest will naturally develop.
Don’t prepare your children with highly difficult guidance books from the beginning. “Eight points easy, two points challenging” is most appropriate. In the process of cultivating children's early learning habits, interest is the most important.
Allowing children to do some guidance books within their ability can greatly increase their self-confidence. At the same time, the two-point difficulty level allows children to occasionally experience the joy of achieving success through their own efforts!
I think of the girl in the red vest who recited the multiplication table on Douyin and said it was too difficult for her. Would she love learning? Won't! Scientific mother, this is what Ryoko Sato does!
4. In the lower grades of primary school, the basic foundation is the most important.
Almost all parents know that their children’s foundation is very important. In the lower grades of primary school, grasping the foundation is the most important thing. What is the basis? Ryoko Sato said: Read, write and count!
"Reading" is the foundation. If you can't read, of course you can't do it. So "reading" is the foundation of foundations. The cultivation of "reading" is slowly cultivated from previous homework. If you have not done it, then start now by asking your children to read the questions carefully and read each question three times!
"Writing" is the second most important foundation. Writing and paper writing are already well-known requirements for high scores. In the lower grades of primary school, when children first learn to write, they must develop good habits. The posture of holding the pen, the sitting posture, the distance between the hand and the eye, how to write beautifully one stroke at a time, and how to erase it with an eraser if you make a mistake, all these details must be paid attention to.
"Calculation" is the foundation, and all science knowledge is inseparable from calculation. So, what are the "calculations" that need to be mastered in the lower grades of primary school? Addition and subtraction within ten, carry addition within ten, multiplication tables! Repeatedly recited and practiced, and bought different exercise books for the children to alternate exercises. The basic exercises for each child in Sato Ryoko's family were stacked half a meter high.
Only when the foundation is solid can the future be strong. Looking back on my son's lower grade of elementary school, he was indeed not solid in these three aspects. Therefore, the problem of study habits that occurred during this winter vacation made me painfully recall the mistakes I made in the lower grade of elementary school. If I could do it again, I should be more skillful in grasping the basics of children!
5. Before graduating from elementary school, don’t leave any shortcomings and weaknesses.
In the current education system, the primary school stage is basically the easiest stage for children to learn. With the introduction of national policies, the smoke of "primary school to junior high school" has gradually dissipated. Regardless of whether there is selection or not, In fact, learning is your own business. Before starting middle school studies, parents should be clear about their children's learning status and leave no shortcomings and weaknesses. This is the experience of the responsible "East University Mom" ??Ryoko Sato.
Make a detailed "study plan" to overcome the shortcomings and weaknesses; start to make up for the weaknesses from the content three years ago; the amount of reading is not directly proportional to the Chinese reading comprehension score; what should be memorized must be memorized; news Understand the current situation of society; you can buy a few more copies of tools like maps and keep them at hand; classify wrong question books and exercise sets; you should also trace classes and assignments in tutoring classes; check whether you have mastered the knowledge so that you can Children come to lecture...
It is full of useful information. As I read it carefully, I reflected that my son's study habits were a problem, but other things were fine, and my requirements were similar.
6. In middle school and high school, you can quickly improve your scores by solving questions.
Pay attention to every exam and make timely remedies when encountering bottlenecks; learn sentence patterns in English first, and memorize problem-solving models in mathematics; start solving questions after understanding the four questions, and rely on solving questions to further understand knowledge points; Conquer one subject continuously for a week to make the brain more active...
There is also a little trick. You don’t need to do the exercise sets in order. You can jump through them, and then go back and review them again when sorting them out.
You can also choose different colors and styles of notebooks to change your mood (so detailed!)
7. In the sprint stage, you will have a perfect review plan and review methods for each subject.
Is it useful to brush up on questions? Solving questions in a method is useful!
Ryoko Sato mentioned a method in "The Best School District Room is Your Home Study Room": do a set of exercises three times!
For the first time, do what you can, and save time by copying the answers and understanding what you can’t. The second time, try your best to do it yourself, and continue to understand if you don’t know how. The third time, you still can’t do it yourself?
This method is the same as the method I used to answer questions every time I took an exam as an adult. I still remember that when I was taking the exam for a psychological counselor, I went through the test questions from the past five years 4 times in a row. I basically read the questions and see that the order of the answers has not changed, then I can write the answers directly. This saves a lot of time. This is also the technique I used to pass the psychological counselor exam with such a low passing rate in one go.
Don’t immerse yourself in studying the questions and do useless work until the sky is dark but without good results. If you want to do it, do something smart, skillful and useful!
To summarize:
After reading this book "The Best School District Room Is Your Home's Study Room", I have deep feelings. There are methods for learning, and being a mother is also a skill. live! I consider myself a learning-oriented mother who leads a positive and active life. However, I am not as meticulous as Ryoko Sato in cultivating my children’s early learning habits.
Looking back on the company that my son and I have spent in the past three months, I have not done what Ryoko Sato does, "The child needs to immediately put down what he is doing and go to accompany him." Although I "accompany him in reading" at home, I still Being busy with housework and their own affairs leads to the phenomenon that children are not self-conscious enough and yet smart enough to take advantage of loopholes. Sure enough, reading is the best way to relieve yourself when you are confused. Compared with "Higashi University Mom" ??Ryoko Sato, I feel that I still have a long way to go. I look forward to my son returning home during the May Day holiday and we will make the next adjustments. Bar!
This is a very detailed guide to accompany students, suitable for all parents who are "phobic of assistants" and parents who want to consciously cultivate good study habits in their children.
Children’s intelligence may be related to heredity, but habits must be acquired. If you don’t want to be like me, you might as well start making changes now!