Most social activities are useless social activities.
Each of us wants to meet our own noble people, but for us ordinary people, most social activities are useless.
You think that the way to eat with others and get in touch with others is networking. Networking is not how many people you know, but how many people are willing to associate with you and help you when you are in trouble.
I really like a passage by Yang Qixin, the debater of Seven Bullies: "If you are an ordinary student, you watched Jackie Chan's new film release in the morning, listened in on Maskin's institutional economics in the afternoon, and bought a ticket to attend Li Zekai's charity dinner in the evening, what can these show? If you ask Jackie Chan for an autograph, Jackie Chan security will still stop you, Maskin will not write you a letter of recommendation, and Li Zekai will not do business with you. "
It was not until middle age that people realized that most social activities were useless. Ineffective socialization is the beginning of a person's mediocrity. Really smart people never engage in useless social activities.
You are your real connection.
There is no denying that connections play a vital role in a person's success. The network is either someone you know or your network.
In the final analysis, the essence of communication is the exchange of values. Your value determines that you can meet people. You will know when you are useless, and it is useless to know more people. You are your real connection.
There was a self-media person who was particularly keen on socializing when he was not famous and made many friends. When he was in trouble for the first time and needed help, he found no one willing to help him.
It hurt him a lot. Later, he gave up most social activities and spent his time reading and writing. Later, his reputation grew bigger and bigger. When he published a book, many people took the initiative to make friends with him.
Therefore, when you are weak, it is useless for you to know anyone. Instead of spending time on useless social activities, it is better to use time to improve yourself. When you are a buttonwood tree, you will naturally attract golden phoenix. When you are excellent, the world will treat you well.
Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude.
There is a classic saying in the rabble: when people come to a group, their IQ will be seriously reduced. In order to gain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong and exchange their IQ for a sense of belonging that makes people feel safe.
High-quality solitude is not as good as low-quality socialization. Really smart people often like to be alone.
When Chen was filming Fortress Besieged, he visited Mr. Qian Zhongshu's house, which was very shocking. At that time, he thought he was a character, but when he went to Qian Zhongshu's house, he found that he was a real cultural person. He was a cultural person. "
There are books everywhere in Qian Zhongshu's house, and all he smells are books. The only sound in Qian's house is the medicine can. From then on, he gave up meaningless social activities and left all his time for himself and his family.
When he is not working, he plays the piano, accordion, calligraphy, copying books, painting, writing essays, making bread for his wife and daughter, and being a sugar man.
Although Chen is now 65 years old, he is still charming and more and more tasteful, and has become a male god in many people's minds.
Jiang Yang once said: "We were so eager for the waves of fate, only to find that the most beautiful scenery in life is actually inner peace and calmness.
Being alone is one's pleasure. People who can get along well with themselves are all people with strong and rich hearts. Learn to be alone, and you can become a better self.
San Mao said: "The most beautiful relationship between friends is icing on the cake, and the most expensive thing is to give charcoal in the snow."
Therefore, friends, what is more important is essence, not richness. People who can help each other and grow together are your worthy friends.