Life is a continuous process, nothing can affect a person's life, and how to choose is not a problem. The problem is to work hard every day.

The article by a professor in Tsinghua University, Taiwan Province Province is very interesting. I often meet classmates who ask me these questions anxiously. However, these anxieties are really unwarranted! Life is a long-term and continuous accumulation process, and it will never ruin a person's life because of a single event, nor will it save a person's life because of a single event. What belongs to us will be obtained sooner or later; What we don't deserve, even by accident, can't last long. If we see this fact clearly, many so-called "major choices in life" can be taken lightly without anxiety at all. The so-called "life dilemma" often becomes insignificant at this moment. When I went abroad, a college classmate laughed at me: all the students in my class who are studying for a doctorate at the latest are going back to China. Are you going out now? I came back from Cambridge two years later and felt that life was unpredictable. That's all: a man who decided from the beginning of his freshman year never to get a degree again actually got a master's degree and a doctor's degree! What we deserve is missing? How much we should get and how much we shouldn't get in life, how do we know? From then on, I had to treat this encounter more coldly. During the period of being a lecturer, some students with extreme attitudes expressed disdain in person; When I came back from Cambridge, I was regarded as a terrible thing by my students. This seemingly ups and downs, in fact, are all good people, the truth is completely invisible. On the surface, it seems great to get a doctorate from Cambridge in two years. However, before this "two years", I have spent a whole year reading all the papers related to the research topic and found the research direction; Before that, I have spent three years doing research on control and published papers in internationally renowned academic journals. During the seven years from my master's degree to my doctor's degree, I never stopped studying and studying by myself. Therefore, this doctor has actually accumulated seven years of achievements, or at least five years, even if I only count the time I spent controlling the project, it is not surprising. Ordinary people don't regard the achievements of life as savings in the process of long-term continuous accumulation. They always exaggerate their arguments with seemingly broken and isolated events, so they often forcibly render sadness and joy in obscure events. But for me, being looked down upon by students when I was a lecturer and being exaggerated by my classmates when I first came back from Cambridge are just appearances. The truth is: I only care about the accumulation of bits and pieces 24 hours a day. Obtaining a master's or doctor's degree is just an external display of these achievements accumulated at a specific moment. The real accumulation in life has never stopped or increased because of these events. Students often ask me anxiously: "teacher, I really want to finish my work as a soldier and take the postgraduate exam after working for one or two years." Is this good? " Good, so you have a chance to prove your theory with practice first. When you go to graduate school, you will know what you want better than others. "However, I was afraid that I would lose my fighting spirit after I finished my work, so I didn't go to graduate school." "Then you should take the postgraduate entrance examination first." "But if I go to graduate school first, I'm afraid I'll be at a loss as I was in college, so I don't want to go to graduate school." "Then you'd better go to work first!" "But ..." I can fully understand their anxiety, but I can't help feeling about it. In fact, to put it bluntly, what he needs is two years of research and two years of work in order to deepen the depth and breadth of knowledge and gain practical experience. On the surface, there is a big difference between going to work or going to school first, but in fact, the difference in bones can be ignored. In the idiom story of "chop and change", the owner used to feed the monkeys four acorns in the morning and three acorns in the afternoon, but later it was changed to "chop and change". The monkeys were unhappy and insisted on changing back to "chop and change". In fact, the difference between working first or going to school first is like "chop and change" and "chop and change", which is not worth caring about. But we often can't see the long-term and continuous accumulation in this life process, and the old love exaggerates the small difference of temporary meeting to do or die. Ironically, when we are faced with two possible schemes and are anxious about what to choose, it usually means that the two schemes may be as good or as bad, so choosing either one is actually the same, the only difference is just the order. Moreover, the more anxious we are, the smaller the difference, the less worrying we are. On the contrary, when there is a clear difference between good and bad, it is easy for us to know what to do. However, we often can't see the long-term future, and we are short-sighted about the gains and losses of the two situations in the short term: if we want to choose the A situation, we can't afford the benefits of the B situation; I want to choose case B, but I can't afford the benefits of case A. If you look far enough, people will grow up to 80 or 90 years old, and if they are short, they will grow up to 50 or 60 years. What does it matter which thing to do first? What's the big deal about spending a whole year preparing for graduate school, even after my discharge from the army? Of course, there will still be people who are worried about saying, "Will it be more difficult for me to get into graduate school because of family fatigue or memory loss after I finish my work as a soldier?" I can only answer this way: "There are only two possibilities for a person not to be admitted to graduate school: either he is not smart enough or he is really smart enough." Not smart enough to fail the exam, that's nothing to complain about. If you are smart enough to be admitted to graduate school, you can only say that your determination is not firm enough. If you are not firm enough, it means that there are other possibilities in your life, which are no less than a master's degree, and you are reluctant to leave him. In this case, there is no need to regret not being admitted to graduate school. Isn't it? "It is very common for a person to succeed in his career rather than in the process of further study. A talented person will not lose his talent because he is rejected by a prestigious school, but just find another place suitable for his performance. On the other hand, if a person goes to school too smoothly, it is inevitable that he can't let go of his body to start a business and can only make a living. Who can fully know the blessings and disasters? What are we proud of? What is there to worry about? The gains and losses of life are sometimes unclear, but sometimes they are simple enough: what we get is what we have accumulated on weekdays, and what we have lost is what we have not accumulated hard! So the important thing is not to compare with others, but to try to do what you want to do. If you don't donate, the last point will not be less, and the last point will not be more. It seems that the year before last, I met a high school classmate on my way to the art center. At that time, he was an associate professor in the Department of Electrical Engineering of Southern University, and was hired by Tsinghua Electric to offer short-term courses. He has been working very hard since high school. As the first volunteer, he won the book award for four years in a row. I believe his professional research is also excellent. Recall that when we entered high school, our intelligence test scores ranked first and second in the whole school year. But I have never given up my favorite literature, music, calligraphy, art and philosophy since my first year in high school, and he has never been distracted, so the gap between them in learning will only get farther and farther.