There is also a word called excessive.
Trying to protect him is the best way to destroy a person.
The flowers in the greenhouse are delicate but delicate, and the wild flowers in the mountain stream sway with the wind but have a different taste.
Spoiling a child is like killing a child. Spoiling is not the same as doting. True love does not cover his chest all day, but helps him grow up and teaches him the ability to survive. After all, your life is not his life. On the road of life, whether it is rain or rainbow, it is the scenery in his life. No one has the right to help him decide his choice.
When I came home recently, I heard a bad news and suddenly the whole person was shocked.
A friend, Mr. X, died. Drink pesticide and commit suicide!
Speaking of Mr. X, I remember when he was a child. He and my brother are classmates of the same age and have a good relationship.
X is an honest and obedient child. Two years ago, with the help of his family, he married a girl from a neighboring village. Having a daughter a year after marriage, in the eyes of outsiders, X is a happy life that everyone envies. However, since the birth of their daughter, the young couple have been quarreling constantly, because the wife takes care of her daughter at home and X plays games at home and goes out to play, thus maintaining their life before marriage. If you don't work, you won't get paid. The so-called but not as those who have been poor together know, a young couple who once lived a pampered life suddenly became parents. In the face of their starving little daughter, money became the fuse of their quarrel.
In his twenties, X hardly ever went out to work. When I was a child, my parents worked outside the home. If I can't be a companion, give me enough money. In a word, they said, "The poor have only money left." Grandparents regard their grandchildren as treasures. After touching them, they feel distressed for a long time and are unwilling to do anything.
After dropping out of school, X bought a computer to play games at home. He is tired of going out to work with his fellow villagers. He can't stay where others can. When he was working, there were many problems. Every job could not be finished in a month and he had to go home.
A leopard cannot change his spots, and the inertia of X has been carved into his bones, spreading all over his body with blood. In order to get rid of X's not doing work, his wife used many methods to intimidate and lure him. None of them succeeded. Finally, she chose a divorce.
After the divorce, X still went his own way, and his mother scolded a few words when she couldn't stand it anymore. One day, X was in a bad mood and his mother nagged too much, so they quarreled. X picked up the herbicide his father just bought and drank it. Mother looked at X's series of movements and was too scared to move.
Finally, X was buried in the loess that afternoon.
How to see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain? The meaning of life lies in experience, otherwise it is just a walking corpse hanging in the world.
It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. If you love a person, you must give him a rich material life and teach him the ability to survive.
In the documentary Animal World, we can see the process of the mother eagle feeding and training the baby eagle: when building a nest, the mother eagle first puts some thorns on the bottom with her sharp mouth, then puts some sharp stones on the thorns, and then puts hay, feathers or hides on the stones to make a nest for incubating eggs. After the baby eagle hatches, the mother eagle carefully feeds and cares with worms and meat. When the baby eagle grows up and has more and more feathers, the mother eagle begins to exercise her independence. So we began to stir the nest without mercy, thorns and stones were exposed, and the baby eagle screamed in pain, while the mother eagle was still ruthlessly expelling and waving.
When we were young, we all heard the story that the eagle taught the baby eagle to fly. When the baby eagle grows up, it will take the baby eagle to the edge of the cliff and push it down. Some eagles are timid and may die. Although some eagles spread their wings and learned to fly, they are facing a more cruel test. The eagle will break most of the bones of the wings of the eagle learning to fly, and then push it down from a height. Many eagles also died at this time.
Out of sympathy, some hunters secretly brought home some young eagles with unbroken wings. Later, they found that the baby eagle they brought home fell at the height of the roof, and the two-meter-long wings had become a burden.
To survive in nature, we must abide by the survival law of "survival of the fittest". The seemingly cruel eagle is actually exercising its ability to fly freely in the air. People are the same. If you want to get ahead of others, you will suffer afterwards. Man's potential is like the bones of an eagle with broken wings. The more frustrated he is, the stronger he becomes.
Ren, the founder of Huawei, who is admired by everyone, said to his daughter: "Without scars, there will be no rough skin, and heroes have suffered more since ancient times. Personally, I think that suffering is also a great wealth for her. After these difficulties, she will be stronger and grow more favorable, so let her continue to suffer. "
Ren Zheng Fei wants to see his children fly freely.
Everyone has his own way, and no one can decide the trajectory of others' lives, even under the guise of love. Sweet, sour and bitter are the spices of life. How can you know the taste of life without tasting it yourself?
If you love him, let him chase the blue sky. Loving him will help him become a healthy adult, a healthy adult who enjoys happiness and can withstand hardships.