With zero resistance, overcome the bad mentality and refuse low-level happiness
Small things are pleasant but big things are harmful to the body
The word "bad" was originally used to describe the NBA. The act of deliberately losing in a basketball league in order to obtain better draft picks. Nowadays, many young people use it to express giving up or a negative attitude towards life. Most people just use it to laugh and relieve stress. But if you are serious about it and continue to "show off", then be careful.
"Being ruined" is psychological "learned helplessness"
It means that when we know that the negative consequences cannot be changed, we will have extremely negative emotions and suppress Our positive behavior, that is, "showing off", although from a psychological point of view, showing off helps us build a self-defense mechanism to avoid being hurt more deeply. But this is based on the premise that "things have no hope of improvement." In fact, we can solve many difficulties.
How to save yourself from a "ruined person"
①Goal refinement
Decompose big goals into small goals. Many times we are always used to setting a few goals. Big, rough goals, and once the results don't go as we expected, we consider ourselves a failure. In fact, achieving these goals is a step-by-step process. We can refine these big goals into small goals to make it easier for us to stick to them.
②Change the way of attribution and actively attribute it
When we make attributions, we should not mistakenly sentence ourselves to death in advance and exaggerate temporary difficulties into permanent difficulties. Whether we can succeed depends on a variety of factors. Using more positive attributions can change our mindset and effectively solve the mentality of learned helplessness.
③Don’t blindly follow others and tell the truth
Everyone has a bad mentality, just like everyone has negative emotions. There is no need to be too equal to others, otherwise it may only increase your own psychological pressure and exacerbate your choice dilemma. Adjust your life rhythm and mentality, and be prepared for things that can be messed up or put right.