? I went back to my mother’s house to see my son last weekend, and the total time I spent with my son seriously for two whole days was no more than 10 minutes. Before leaving, my mother said: "You are so busy next weekend, so don't come back. Take a good rest after working at home." When I heard her say this, I felt an indescribable feeling in my heart. I think that on the one hand, my mother feels sorry for me, but on the other hand, she thinks that I will spend too little time with my children after I come back. So, I decided to spend some serious time with my kids this weekend.
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? I am a new mother, and my little dumpling is now 1 and a half years old. Because of my work, I almost never take care of my children. Mothers help me take care of my children. I have very little time to spend with my children, and very little time to spend serious time with my children. I usually come home from get off work. Although I usually choose to play with my baby and rarely play with my phone in the real sense, I still can't help but look through it when I have something to do. But since the beginning of this semester, since I have taken over the job of a first-year class teacher, there will be more work that does not have time limits for commuting to and from get off work. So, before school started, I left my son at my mother's house. I could only video chat with him when I got home every night. But sometimes I came home late and the child fell asleep, so I didn't even have the chance to video chat with him. Whether at school, at home, or on the way to and from get off work, I am always in a "hands-on, hands-on" state whether sitting or standing. I am a standard "mobile phone owner." Most of them are busy with work or communicating with parents about the situation of the children in the class. Sometimes it is not my intention, but the fact is that I have indeed neglected my son, which makes me full of feelings for my children. Feeling guilty.
? I often tell parents of children in our class: spend more time with your children when you have time. However, I myself have not really accompanied him seriously.
? I have seen a series of cartoons "Mom and Dad were kidnapped by the mobile phone monster" before. In the eyes of children, parents who usually just lower their heads and play with their mobile phones at home and ignore them are just... It's like being captured by a "monster" and has no value in existence. In fact, this is a way for children to vent their dissatisfaction in the form of comics. As parents, we should really pay attention to it. It is estimated that there are not a few children competing with mobile phones for favors nowadays. Some education experts have pointed out that if parents blindly watch mobile phones, their children will feel left out and ignored, which will affect the development of their emotional intelligence throughout their lives and have a negative impact on their future interpersonal relationships and intimacy.
According to the actual situation, parents’ addiction to mobile phones not only has a serious impact on their children’s psychology, but sometimes also directly poses a threat to their children’s safety. Nowadays, you can often see such reports on TV and the Internet. When accompanying their children, some young fathers or mothers pay too much attention to their mobile phones and neglect their children, which leads to frequent accidents.
? As parents, we should pay attention and not let TV, the Internet, mobile phones, and snacks become the best companions for our children. Parents, as their closest people, should always accompany their children. By our side, instead of spending time with our mobile phones when we have time.
? A child’s wonderful childhood is often filled with the love and care of his family. The love and companionship of parents for their children are equally important. If parents are busy at work, please accompany their children every time. Take it seriously when you play.
After two weeks of getting along with the children at school, I think every child is so beautiful and precious. Every day, parents ask me about their children’s performance at school that day. There will also be parents who tell me: My child is very naughty. Teacher Zhang, you are strict with him. We are very strict with him at home. Say what you need to say and criticize when you need to criticize... In fact, what I want to tell them is this. : The most difficult thing about being a parent is not addition, but subtraction. When reading a book, it is easy to read it thickly, but it is difficult to simplify it because we cannot grasp the essence. The same goes for being a parent. The hardest thing is not to know how many parenting methods and theories you have, or to create good material conditions for your children. The hardest thing is to give up, give up control, and give your children love and freedom!
? When raising children, you must listen to your heart appropriately. All unnatural methods should be considered carefully. Your child will always grow up, and there won’t be many times when he needs you, but once you miss it, he will no longer need you as much as he did before. In many things, you might as well follow the maternal instinct, believe in your inner choice, and don’t miss the most suitable intimate time for you!
When saying "no" to your child, please give a way to go road. There are too many times when we say no to our children. How many times do we say to our children, you can’t do this! The children are crying aside, and we are either playing the savior of the universe: "I It’s all for your own good!”, or with a majestic look on his face: “I say it’s not allowed, I mean it’s not allowed”! Or with a cruel look on his face: “You cry again! You cry again!” Have you ever thought about it, the child’s world is very small, he may I feel cornered.
? Children who make mistakes also need dignity. We often say that no one can make mistakes without being a sage.
This sentence seems to be a defense for adults to escape making mistakes, but it is the case for children. Children, if they make mistakes, just punish them. We must do everything possible to punish them and let them remember! Think about it. , when we make a mistake, what do we think? Do we want to be slapped in the face, humiliated or scolded? None! Once we realize that we have made a mistake, what we hope most is to have the opportunity to correct and make up for it. What we need most is to take responsibility. !Isn’t it? But, have you given the child such a chance?
? Did the child really do something wrong, or did you lose face? You were so angry that when you raised the stick, You have to ask yourself, is the child really wrong, or is your face damaged? Do you really want your child to grow up, not because the aunt next door said your child is not good? When your child gets bad grades, before you scold him, You have to first think clearly whether the child really didn't work hard or you think the score is important. When your child needs you, do you reject him because he is unreasonable, or have you been kidnapped by the world?
? How to educate yourself in parenting? Start by studying yourself and respecting your children! We often think that children are just like a child. A blank piece of paper can be whatever the parents describe it to be. However, the deeper we get to know the child, the deeper we understand. On the contrary, we should maintain respect for the child. A child, from knowing nothing, to How did he grow, absorb and create this world? Parenting is raising oneself. What we should really give up is the self-righteous self and start to grow with our children from re-examining ourselves!
? There is no so-called starting line. If there is, then it must be some parents. Some people think that early education is the starting line, some people think that knowledgeable parents are the starting line, and some people think that parents with status are the starting line. I don't deny that a rich, status, knowledgeable and educated parent is a fortune for a child, but for a child's life, having the opportunity to follow his heart and run to his heart's content is more important than anything else! Therefore, a Whether a child can successfully live his "own" life has a great relationship with whether his parents have given him enough love and freedom!
Really, children are the most important thing in this world. The person who loves his parents the most has absolutely no conditions attached to his love. No matter you are poor or rich, you are his favorite. There are only "other people's children", but there are no "other people's parents". I remember watching a video like this in a parent class before the start of school: First, the parents rated their children, with 60 points, 70 points, 80 points, 90 points... Finally, the children rated their parents, and each child gave Both my parents have 100 points. Watching this short video made countless parents cry, because in the world of children, we are everything to them, and this position is irreplaceable.
? Compared with the child who cannot live without us, in fact, we cannot live without him. Time flies very quickly, and there is not much time for intimacy between you and your child, and there are not many days when you and your child can get along day and night. Think back to that year when you were pregnant and had him, does it seem like it was just the next day? Soon, the child will go to kindergarten, elementary school... Many children have lived in school since elementary school, and some have gone abroad after graduating from high school, or Go to college far away, and then work, get married, and have children... Life is really short. While your children are still with you, cherish them and live happily every day!
? Finally, I also want to say to my son: No one is born to be a mother, but I will try my best to be the best mother for you. Sometimes, I feel that I am not a perfect mother. I will also speak loudly to you in anger, and I will also be so upset that I can't control my emotions and burst out.
Please forgive me, it’s my first time to be your mother! I’m so lucky that you chose me to be your mother! Although no one is born to be a mother, I will try my best to be the best mother for you!