No two people in the world are the same. Because of this, everyone has their own uniqueness. But it is precisely because everyone has his own strengths that your strengths are not worthy of your pride. Therefore, the size of a person's pattern often lies not in what strengths you have, but in whether you can see clearly the strengths of others, tolerate their differences, and jump out of the prejudice brought by identity and status, so as to examine others calmly and tolerate others with your mind.
Meng Changjun, one of the "Four Childes of Warring States", is undoubtedly worthy of our study today. He is polite to all the guests at home, no matter what they are good at. His tolerance for various personalities of the public has also been richly rewarded.
He was in distress in the state of Qin and was detained by the king of Qin, trying to plead with one of his favorite concubines. My favorite concubine agreed to intercede, but she wanted a fox skin for the king of Qin in exchange. A doorman in Meng Changjun is empty-handed. He stole the fox belt and gave it to his concubine. Meng Changjun was released. After he was released from prison, Meng Changjun fled to Hangu Pass overnight, but the guards had rules and insisted on waiting for the cock to crow before opening the door. At this time, a janitor who could learn to crow played a role: as soon as he learned to crow, the rooster was shut, the guard opened the door, and Meng Changjun finally fled the State of Qin.
There is another famous example in history. Han Xin lost his parents when he was very young, and made a living mainly by fishing. He was repeatedly discriminated against and left out by people around him. On one occasion, a group of hooligans humiliated Han Xin in public. A butcher said to Han Xin, "Although you are tall and big, and like to carry a sword with you, you are actually very timid. Dare you stab me with your sword? If you don't dare, just drill under my crotch. " Han Xin knew that he was alone, and recklessly would certainly suffer. So, in front of many onlookers, I got the butcher's crotch.
This is the famous "crotch humiliation". If Han Xin killed the gangster, Han Xin would not be a general, nor would he assist Liu Bang to attack Xiang Yu and dominate the world. Han Xin's experience tells us a truth: We can tolerate what the world can't tolerate, so we can do what the world can't do.
In this era of self-release and everyone wants to pursue success, there are many people who work hard, but few people know how to be patient and tolerant. Look at things with joy, everything is born for me; Look at people with gratitude, everyone is coming for me.
When you meet someone who loves you, you should learn to reciprocate. When you meet the person you love, learn to give.
Learn to forgive when you meet someone you hate; Learn to apologize when you meet someone who hates you.
Learn to smile when you meet someone who appreciates you; When you meet people you admire, learn to praise them.
Learn to communicate when you meet people who don't understand you; When you meet someone who doesn't understand, you should learn to understand.
People with big patterns will be grateful to their relatives, friends and strangers, and those who bring us joy, trouble, trouble and even pain. They let us know the truth, goodness, beauty, falsehood, evil and ugliness in the world. They let us see the other side of human nature, test our strength and make us grow and mature. It is these people who constantly appear in your life that build your life pattern.